Birth Mother

Question: birth mother? Hi all, Im trying to locate my friend's birth mother with her. We are stuck and don't know where to start so if any one can help us we would be most grateful. The details are: Birth mother Joyce Margert Hunter (nee?) born in 1949 in yorkshire Gave birth to Alison hatcher at south sydney womans hospital camperdown n.s.w.Alison was adopted through the agency Sydney rescue work society adoption agency at 3 weeks of age. Joyce had tried to get Alison back after the adoption. Please any 1 that knows joyce or could point us in the right direction email or post! With thanks in advance , Kristie

Answer: http://www.adultadoptees.org theres some aussies here that can help you.

Question: Can a birth mother sue criminal adoptive parents for custody? If a birth mother at age 16 gives up her child in an open adoption to a family friend, then that family friend becomes a drug dealer and CPS is involved, can the birth mother sue for custody? Do the rights of the birth mother come before the rights of the parents of a criminal mother? The biological mother has always had a personal relationship with her daughter. They love each other. The adoptive mother has a charge of endangering a child against her now.

Answer: Once the adoption is complete the birth mother has no rights to the child regardless if the adoption is open or not.

Question: Can the birth mother list a father on the birth certificate without his knowledge or signature? In the State of Florida, can the birth mother list a father on the birth certificate without his knowledge or signature? This mostly pertains to the year of 1997.

Answer: In Florida IDK. Most states no, he must sign.

Question: Can a birth mother be removed from their childs birth certificate? Could the birth mother of a child be removed from the birth certificate, and could you add a nother person as mother?

Answer: That's exactly what happens in an adoption. The birth mother has to terminate her parental rights in order for it to occur, and a new birth certificate has to be issued. It can't be done randomly or out of spite, though.

Question: What should my adopted daughter call her birth mother? My husband and I adopted a beautiful baby girl about a year ago from a lovely young couple who were just not ready to parent a baby. We still keep in touch with the birth parents, especially the mother, on a limited but regular basis. Our daughter is now talking and I want her to be able to address her birth mother in a special way but do not like the terms "special mother", "birth mother", "natural mother" but feel that simply addressing her by her first name is not quite appropriate either. Help!

Answer: Let's say your daughter's biological mother is named Betty Why not have her be called "Momma B" or something of the like? This way it will differentiate between the two of you, without placing any sort of special title to her biological mother.

Question: How do I petition to terminate parental rights on the birth mother of my children? I am a step-mother who has been raising three step-daughters for 3 and a half years now. I am married to their birth father, who has full custody. Their birth mother has had no contact for a full year now, and we do not know where she is or how to get a hold of her. How can we petition to terminate her parental rights so that I can adopt the girls? We are in the state of Illinois.

Answer: You need to bone up on the law SERIOUSLY or hire an attorney. You might get help from DCFS but again they are most likly to tell you to hire an attorney. If you live in a larger area a paralegal would be cheaper. The local bar association or even the yellow pages may be able to locate para legals. Find someone practiceing "family law". That is an all emcompassing term which would include adoption. I disagree with Ibu about "finding" the mother...they could only delay and cost you more. If she has "abandoned" the children to the father than all it takes is publication in the newspaper of the intent to end parental rights for the mother.

Question: Can a birth mother sue adoptive parents for custody? I'm just wondering if a birth mother could regain custody of a child she gave up for adoption? And no, It's not me, I don't even have kids it's just hypothetical.

Answer: No, she can not. Adoption laws are built to protect and insulate the adoptive parents from the regrets of the birth mother or sperm donor.

Question: What kind of emotions come with meeting your birth mother? if i was to meet my birth mother what kind of emotions would happen..like would u cry or somthing like that>?

Answer: Everyone's different hun

Question: How much older than your birth mother can you be? Is it possible to be a lot older than your birth mother?

Answer: You are joking right? As your birth mother had to carry you for 9 months and had to be, say at a minimum, 11 years old at the time, she'd have to be say 12 years older than you at a bare minimum. How could you ever be older than her? Of course, if she died at 20 and you are now 30. that would be a way. or she could be your birth mother in another lifetime and she died and came back as your child. Or if she gave birth to you and then entered a cryogenic program and was frozen for 30 years then you could be biologically older when she was unfrozen. I think that about does me for possibilities. Hope that helped

Question: How can I find my birth mother? I have just recently decided to try to find my birth mother and all I know is her name and that she gave birth to me. I have no idea if she still lives in the same state or anything else about her. Anyone have any advice on how to even get started?

Answer: I reccomend doing the white pages thing, talking to your adoptive parents and trying to get a birthdate, go to your states motor vehicle site, AND superior court site, put her name and birthdate in, and are if anything pops up, it will tell you if she has ever been in trouble, and since those documents are public record you could pay 5 to 10 dollars and get a policce report of the crime which depending on the state may include telephone, adress' etc. If that doesn't work, you may have to hire someone to find her for you. Call around and ask how they would do it, look them up in the BBB all of that. Hope you find what your searching for...

Question: I was adopted and just found my birth mother on facebook. How should I start my first email to her? My birth mother was pregnant at 18 by a highschool sweetheart, she came to Mn to live with relatives during the pregnancy, gave me up for adoption and returned home to her nearby state. possibly nobody knows anything. I am 40 yrs old and have been looking a long time for her. But now I don't know how to approach her . . .i know she's divorced and has a daughter 27 (who'd be my sister) . Any suggestions on what to say first?

Answer: well start off by making certain its the right woman, if you are sure then proceed to tell her a little bit about yourself, not too much, then ask her a bit about herself and finish by saying that you hope they can keep in touch, if she replies and is interested then tell her alllll about you! tell her everything! tell her every little tiny thing you can think of even that time you scraped your knee in kindergarten. She will love it. She may, on the other hand, have moved on, and have no interest in your life which is why the first brief email wont overwhelm her but 'suss' her out if you know what i mean. good luck!

Question: Would a woman still want to meet her birth mother when she is an adult? Would a woman still want to meet her birth mother when she is an adult? She knew that her mother abandoned her but was old enough to remember her. How would she know that her mother abandoned her or her just the fact that her father prevented her from seeing her mother.

Answer: I wanted my mother more as an adult than I did when I was a child. As a child your needs are usually met by someone, if not your mother a father a guardian. But as an adult woman there are times when you want your mother. You have needs that for you only your mother can meet. Especially after you have a child, but every life event, your wedding,your marriage, raising your children,etc.

Question: How do I approach adopted parents about meeting Birth Mother? This seems a bit of a tough question for me. I am keep a secret from my parents that adopted me that I am meeting my Birth Mother, who I haven't seen all my life. My current parents think that she is a very bad person and I should stay away. But I had to find out myself, turns out shes great, and fun to be with.

Answer: Concerned Daughter, If you go to your mother , and I do mean your adopted mother , and tell her that she is and always be your mother but you want to meet the woman "Who Gave Birth To You" and never call her mother or mom in front of your mother. Alright , this would about kill her . Call your birth mom by her name in front of your mother always, and what you do in private is your own business. Be sure to give honor to the fact that she raised you and your birth mother gave you up for a better life. When you approach her in this manner there won't be any problems. From an Adoptive Mom ss

Question: What would an 18 year old girl do, she has never know her birth mother? What would an 18 year old girl do, she has never know her birth mother. She was told that her birth mother abandoned her when she was a toddler (and could prove this in court) because she wanted to take her to California and her father did not let her. Her mother is from California and still lives there. She was born and raised in Florida with her father. Her father had legal custody of her.

Answer: i'd go find the mom and ask her some questions if i was that child..

Question: How can I find my birth Mother and family for free? How can I find my birth Mother and family for free? Any info would be good. Thanks.

Answer: Do you know any names? Approximate age? Locations she and or her family may be living? Depending on your age and her age, you can also search for maternal grandparents if you know a maiden name. Sadly, too many people rarely remain in the same area they were raised. Try www.zabbasearch.com That may give you something to work on. It is free. I have been searching for my sister, who is now approximaely 39 years old for over close to 15 years now. Don't pay on the internet for the people searches. They are very rarely helpful. I have spent close to $1000 over the years utilizing those searches.

Question: How would I go about looking for my mom's birth mother in Aschaffenburg Germany? My mother was born in Aschaffenburg Germany and her birth mother gave her to a military family. I was wondering if there was any sites etc to see if she was still alive.

Answer: So you are hoping to find your grandmother? This is a case of family reunion. If she is a German citizen, you don't have to be satisfied with some websites. It's the job of the German embassy to help you then, because you would hardly find informations about her. http://www.germany.info/Vertretung/usa/e… Good luck!

Question: Will the name of deceased birth mother be removed if child is adopted? I am in the process of filing grandparents rights and was told I could not find out if stepmother is filing for adoption of my 6yr old granddaughter. Is this true and will deceased birth mother be removed from birth certificate and can this be contested?

Answer: Actually, Remember is incorrect. In the US, the legal act of adoption generates what is called an Amended Birth Certificate (ABC) in which the names of the biological parent(s) are removed and the names of the adoptive parent(s) are added to replace them. This is true for any sort of adoption, domestic, international, foster care, or step parent adoption. The Original Birth Certificate (OBC) is then sealed and is inaccessible for the adoptee in all but a few US states. So *if* your granddaugter's stepmother adopts your granddaughter then yes, the name of the child's biological mother will be substituted with the stepmother's name on the ABC. As for finding out if the stepmother is filing for adoption, I'm not sure. That might be better answered by someone in the Law/Legal section here.

Question: How would a little girl feel toward her birth mother who lives out of state far away from her and her father? How would a little girl feel toward her birth mother who lives out of state far away from her and her father since she was a baby? She sees her mother only a few times a year, and she always told her, that her mother wanted her to live with her father, because her father is able to provide her a better home than her mother.

Answer: she may feel a little resentment. It would be best for the father to get her some counseling. What the father should not do however is never talk bad about the mom. Kids are very smart and will make up their minds about absent parents. No matter how bad the relationship was between the parents, the child does not need to know that. All she needs to know is that her parents want what's best for her.

Question: How would a 10 year old girl intrepid when she is told that her birth mother is a Surrogate Mother? How would a 10 year old girl intrepid when she is told that her birth mother is a Surrogate Mother who used an egg donor. Her birth certificate only contains her father’s name. The Surrogate Mother has no legal parental rights over her, so her father is her only legal guardian. This cost her father $50,000 dollars.

Answer: Surrogacy is different from adoption. A child born via surrogacy was always wanted, was never inconvenient, was never abandoned or given away. The woman who birthed her was assisting her parents, not running to them for help in a desperate time of her life. While I agree that kids need to know these things from the beginning if possible, I'd tell her asap. Kids are much more resilient that we give them credit for.

Question: How would a little girl feel toward her birth mother? How would a little girl feel toward her birth mother? Her birth mother told her that she wished that she had an abortion when she was pregnant with her and regretted not having an abortion. Her birth mother does not want any thing to do with her. She has to live with her father, because her mother does not want her.

Answer: Well I am a man in the same situation. My mother had several abortions before I came along. If it had not been for my father I would have been one also. Of course there has always been a lot of tension between us because of this, not just that but the first time my wife got pregnant that was the first thing brought up. My mother has a very mean streak in her. Bad enough that we have had nothing to do with her for over 7 years. We send her cards but my poor little girls get nothing in return. They are better off anyway, do not want them getting hurt like I did all my life.