Re-Adoption

Question: Re:Adoption? My husband and I have met a couple that want to place their child up for adoption. She is 4 mts pregnant- I know we will need a lawyer , but does anyone know how the process works and if all paperwork etc can be done by the time she has the baby? ANy answers greatly appreciated?

Answer: BE CAREFUL! Most of the paperwork can be done before the baby is born...but in every state it cannot be official until after the birth. Which means that BirthMom has a right to change her mind. The time frame after birth ranges from state to state....I know Texas is 48 hours after birth. There are some states that are up to 6 months. That means that you could take that baby home from the hospital and up to 6 months after birth BirthMom has the right to change her mind, and could take her baby back. We adopted in Texas, live in South Dakota. Texas is only 48 hours, and we allowed our daughter to stay in the hospital until BirthMom signed at 48 hours. The other thing is that Birthmom has to be without mind alter drugs (pain meds and all) for at least 24 hours before signing. If ever there is proof that she wasn't, there could be issues. At this point, you could spend lots of money, and even pay some BirthMother expenses and loose everything you have into this adoption. I am not saying that you should not proceed, because I know how exciting it is, but maybe find out some answers. Why is the couple placing the child for adoption? It is not very often at all that a couple places a baby up for adoption. Sadly, many people today use their pregnancy as a way to scam people who are emotional and desperate. Good luck, we have been there!

Question: Re: Adoption? What is the address and/or phone number to register as a birth parent to be able to get in touch with one's child when he/she reaches the age of 18 and wants to re connect with his/her birth parent? Thank you.

Answer: Hi Judith, I recommend registering with International Soundex Reunion Registry first. http://www.isrr.net I connected with my family members through them. It's free. If you edit to say the state where the adoption took place, we can add some additional info for you. Some states have open record laws. There are many other adoptees here who have excellent sources for adoption registries online. Good luck. julie j reunited adoptee

Question: Grandparents raising grandchildren - what are the pros and cons re adoption vs. legal guardianship? If you had a choice, why you chose one over the other.

Answer: For many of the reasons stated above...I can't add much Legal guardianship still gives you full parental rights, full decision making authority in all matters of health care decisions, school matters, etc. You are the child's legal "parent" but just not on the birth certificate and the child's name does not change. If there's going to ever be an opportunity left open for the child's parents, either one of them, to take custody of their child (which, should always be an option based on the safety of the child) then guardianship should be the route, most definitely.

Question: In Ohio after a child is adopted are they checked up on or after they.re adoption do they not chechk up on thm I'm doing a persuasive research essay on adoption.I'm arguing that after a child is adopted they should checked up on anually.

Answer: I think it would be a good thing to check on children after the adoption is completed. Perhaps 1 year down the track - or 5 years even. I'm not sure about anually. I think adoptive parents should be held to a higher standard - as adoptees have already had a very rough start to life - being taken or given away by their first family. I know too many adoptees that are now adults that had horrible adoptive families to live with. (alcoholic parents, abuse etc) These kids need to BEST - second time around. It's terribly sad that they didn't have it the first time around - but sadly that just doesn't always happen.

Question: Re: Adoption- Have you, or anyone in your family recently discovered you were not adopted? Despite fervent prayers to the contrary. Yes folks...the DNA test is in and shows conclusively that there is no hope for me. *sigh* How about you?

Answer: But I want to believe that I am because how can I have the same blood as my father yet not speak to him for two years ? Please, let me continue to believe, that I am not HIS daughter !

Question: I need to reply to a certain person re adoption? Hi... I need to send a reply email to a certain person and was wondering if they would turn their emails back on for me please? No hate mail I promise :) This is so I can reply (with gratitude) to an email I received earlier and am currently blocked (due to a misunderstanding)... just don't want to make it a big deal here is all...

Answer: If that were me I would gladly fix the problem, be thankful that my apology was accepted, and look forward to hearing from you!

Question: AP's can take adoption tax credit for re-adoption expenses...? Did you know AP's can ALSO take an adoption tax credit for "Re-adoption expenses relating to the adoption of a foreign child"? (NOTE:the credit is for the re-adoption of a foreign child ONLY) WT...? Does that mean if the adoption is 'disrupted', they can deduct the cost of dumping the kid? Or does that mean another PAP gets to take the adoption tax credit once again? (thereby doubling the cost to taxpayers of bringing the child to the US as well as doubling the damage - or more - to the child?!) BTW...here's the stats on the Adoption Tax Credit: Adjusted Gross Income (limit) less than $210,820 Tax Credit per Child $11,390 "you may be able to claim a credit of up to $9,000 and also exclude up to $4,000." - - - for a total combined credit of $13,000 per child! http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/i8839.pdf Qualified adoption expenses includes travel & lodging expenses.*** i.e., pays for the airfare & hotels. What are your thoughts of this tax credit? Of the Adjusted Gross Income Limit? The credit as it applies to re-adoption of foreign adoptees? Thanks for the clarification on what "Re-adoption expenses" are. That makes sense. The IRS publication doesn't define "re-adoption". The only time I've seen that term is in reference to disruption. Had the credit been for re-adoption expenses related to disruption, it's only fair it should apply to domestic as well as foreign adoption. That was my point.

Answer: I think people are confused about what "readoption" means. It has nothing to do with adoption disruption or multiple families taking credit for the same child. In some cases of international adoption, the US government recognizes the adoption as 'full and final' in the other country. These children receive IR-3 visas and become citizens as soon as they enter the USA. Readoption is not required in these cases. (This was the case with our Russian adoptions.) In other cases, although the child is legally adopted according to the laws in the original country, the adoption does not meet the criteria to be recognized by the USA. These children are granted IR-4 visas and are required to be "re-adopted" in the USA after the remaining criteria have been met. (For instance, the USA requires that both parents meet the child in person before the adoption is final. For children who are "escorted" to the US, or countries that require only one parent to travel to the country, both parents might not meet the child before the adoption was finalized in the original country. If both parents haven't met the child, the child must be readopted here.) For adoptions of children who come in on IR-4 visas, the readoption is a *requirement* of making the adoption legal and gaining the child US citizenship. I know the tax credit is controversial and I won't give an opinion on whether international adoptions *should* qualify for it. Right now they *do* qualify for it... so the "readoption" part isn't a red flag to me because it is part of the expense of making the adoption legal and final in the USA.

Question: Re-adoption of foreign child in Commonwealth of VA? We have adopted a little girl from China. We are just about to our 1 year mark, and are starting the process of 're-adopting' as required by VA to receive a Birth Certificate. We are attempting to do as much of this on our own as possible. One of the first parts of the directions says to 'call or go to the county clerk of the circuit court of our residence and get a case number and use this on all documents for the court." My question is, what if any documentation will we need to provide the court to get this 'case' number. We live in a VERY rural part of the state, International adoptions are as rare as hens teeth as they say. So I know that those at the court house will be out of the loop. But the first thing is to acquire this 'case number' I just need to know do they just provide this number, or do we need paper work for the adoption to show them before they provide the number.

Answer: Mama Kate is right. Call the country clerk first and see what they need to give you a number. You probably already know this, but here are the Virginia Statutes on Intercountry Adoptions: Readoption After an Intercountry Adoption Citation: Ann. Code § 63.2-1220(B)-(C) Adoptive parents who are residents of the Commonwealth may petition the circuit court in the city or county where they reside for a report of adoption when the adoptive parents are seeking a Virginia certificate of birth for a child adopted in a foreign country that has postadoption reporting requirements and with whom the United States has diplomatic relations. The adoptive parents shall provide the circuit court with: Evidence, such as an admission stamp in the child's passport, that the child was admitted to the United States with an immediate relative immigrant visa (IR-3) A report of adoption on a form furnished by the State Registrar of Vital Records Completed postadoption reports A signed affidavit stating that any outstanding postadoption requirements shall be met as required by the foreign country The affidavit shall also include the name by which the child is to be known. The circuit court shall review all documents provided by the adoptive parents. If the circuit court finds that all requirements of this subsection have been met, the circuit court may issue the report of adoption to the State Registrar for issuance of a Virginia certificate of birth in accordance with § 32.1-262. Except as provided above, adoptive parents seeking to have a child from a foreign country adopted or who choose to readopt a child from a foreign country in Virginia shall comply with all adoption requirements of this chapter in order to get a Virginia certificate of birth. Application for a U.S. Birth Certificate Citation: Ann. Code §§ 32.1-261(E); 32.1-262(D) The State Registrar shall establish and register a Virginia certificate of birth for a person born in a foreign country and for whom a report or final order of adoption has been entered in a court of this Commonwealth when the State Registrar receives an adoption report as provided in § 32.1-262 and a request that such a certificate be established and registered. After registration of the birth certificate in the new name of the adopted person, the State Registrar shall seal and file the report of adoption. The report shall not be subject to inspection except upon order of a court. The birth certificate shall show the true or probable foreign country of birth and shall state that the certificate is not evidence of U.S. citizenship for the child for whom it is issued or for the adoptive parents. When the State Registrar receives a report of adoption from a court in this Commonwealth for a person born in a foreign country, a birth certificate shall be registered for such person in accordance with the provisions of § 32.1-261, and a copy of the report of adoption shall be transmitted to the appropriate Federal agency.

Question: I need some help re: adoption and genealogy? I am helping a friend find information about his roots. The problem is: There is a string of adoptions involved and I'm stuck on how to obtain information that's "sealed" by the courts. All right. He was born in 1984. His mother was separated from her husband at the time, and it's been ruled out that he isn't the father. They eventually divorced in 1987. That same year, she remarried, and the man she married adopted my friend as his own son. Therefore, the 1st birth certificate was sealed by the courts. His mother divorced this man a few years later and has since never remarried. In 1993, my friend was taken away from his mother because of abuse and neglect. He was in foster care until he turned 18. At that time, his foster mother legally adopted him, which then sealed the 2nd birth certificate! This isn't like a typical adoption situation because all of the players all along the way are known to my friend. He just wants documentation. Any suggestions will be appreciated. Wow. I didn't expect answers this quickly. Like I said, he and I know all of the players in this odd little puzzle game we've got going, EXCEPT who got his birth-mother pregnant. After he was taken from her, she gave up her parental rights, and that is the last he's seen or heard from her. I HAVE located her, sent a letter, but have yet to receive a reply. I'm skeptical about her helping us any. Petitioning the court, however, is something neither of us thought about. I shall have to look deeper into that. Thanks to you who have answered thus far!

Answer: WOW, what a sad position to be in, this sounds more like a riddle then a persons life. Courts, and documents and this is sealed and that is sealed, like they all forget this is a real person not some item up for bids. The only thing I can even begin to think of is if he found out he had some sort of genetic disease and needed to have the records opened to find the cure. Possibly he can petition the court to have the certificates opened with the permission of the people involved, but he can't get permission without having the documents opened so he is asking that the court allow a disinterested party to ask the biological parents if it is okay to open the records. Perhaps I could help find the laws that govern sealed records if I knew what state you were/he were in. Each state is different however, you can probably search on google your states statutes or laws for family matters to search through. This might help get you started in a direction you did not know you had.

Question: I need some help & information re: adoption & court records? I am helping a friend find information about his roots. The problem is: There is a string of adoptions involved and I'm stuck on how to obtain information that's "sealed" by the courts. All right. He was born in 1984. His mother was separated from her husband at the time, and it's been ruled out that he isn't the father. They eventually divorced in 1987. That same year, she remarried, and the man she married adopted my friend as his own son. Therefore, the 1st birth certificate was sealed by the courts. His mother divorced this man a few years later and has since never remarried. In 1993, my friend was taken away from his mother because of abuse and neglect. He was in foster care until he turned 18. At that time, his foster mother legally adopted him, which then sealed the 2nd birth certificate! This isn't like a typical adoption situation because all of the players all along the way are known to my friend. He just wants documentation. Any suggestions will be appreciated.

Answer: I don't know what state your friend was a foster child in. I was a foster child in California. I was adopted by my foster parents at the age of 3. I was able to obtain copies of my court records pertaining to the foster care. In those records I found my first mother's name, as well as the name of some relatives & extended family members. Foster records are not sealed. His first mother's divorces are a matter of public record that anyone can obtain a copy of. The foster records will likely have much of the information he needs, even his adopted dad's name since CWS would have at least tried to contact him. With that information, he may be able to figure out, or narrow down, what city his mother was divorced in, etc. Hope this is helpful. Feel free to e-mail me. Good luck!

Question: Re: adoption & finding a sibling? Exactly how do I go about getting information on a set of twin boys, born in 1954, at St. Vincent's Hospital in Jacksonville, Florida? Exactly how! These guys are supposedly/probably my birth mother's sons, my half-brothers. I was born and adopted in 1958. They may not even know I exist - my birth mother was separated from them (and 2 older brothers, 2 more half-brothers) at the time of my birth. I figure it is easier to find twins born back then - how many could there possibly be? Can't I do this myself? Or must I hire an over-priced investigator? I'm almost 50 so I'm very interested in gathering information about my background and family tree. P.S. In case it's not clear, I'm NOT looking for our mother, just my brothers and, I think, a younger sister.

Answer: have you tried looking it up on www.ancestry.com or www.reunite.com ?? they have alot of really useful sources you could look through like birth records,marriage licencse,newspapers,etc.. you could also try searching the net for adoption records from the state of florida.. I recently researched my family tree and found out alot! on ancestry.com....do you know what theyre names are or were?? that would definitely help..GOOD LUCK !!! I hope this helped :)

Question: Adoption Uk - Africa? My husband and I have been really interested in adoption for a few years now, we have the resources and ability to adopt. We would be looking to adopt a child of any age from somewhere in Africa (purely because of the poverty /govt etc) Do you have any usefull links on how we can get more info re adoption from the Uk to Africa and starting the process? Any personal stories & helpfull links would be a great help. Thanks in advance x

Answer: I think what you're doing is a great thing. I want to adopt also when i am old enough. Good luck on everything! Here are a few helpful websites: http://www.adopting.com/photolisting/ind… http://www.associatedcontent.com/article… http://www.achildshopefoundation.org/ado…

Question: Are there any publications / guidance for prospective adoptive parents of a relative taken into care? My cousins newborn daughter has been taken into care and my husband and I are applying to adopt her, I would be grateful if anyone can point me in the direction of support or guidance. I have found help re adoption generally but not about adopting a family member which is likely to have all sorts of additional and complicated ramifications especially as the baby's mother is likely to only be allowed restricted access by social services. Thank you for your help. n.b. we are in England

Answer: Contact social services re: training and education in the field of kinship care. Yes, there are all kinds of ramifications when it comes to adopting or caring for relatives. Visits IF allowed will need to be supervisied.

Question: International Adoption tax question.? We adopted our daughter from China. We started the process in 2005, our home study Anniversary date was 12/05/2005 Because of the very long match waits we did not travel till Feb of this year, 2008. The adoption as far as China is concerned was finalized in China, Our Daughter became a US citizen when we touched down back in the states. Both my husband and I traveled to China so the adoption would be complete there. Our State, VA requires a 1 year followup for the 're-adoption' to receive a VA Birth Certificate. Our Agency as well requires a 1 year update this will be at the end of Feb. 2009. Does anyone know about the Federal Government Tax credit for adoption? It is my understanding that it is around $10500 or so. Can we claim this credit this year on our 2008 taxes or will we be forced to wait one more year to claim this on our 2009.

Answer: Hi Lilly, I think you can claim the tax credit on your 08 filing. You'll need IRS form 8839. The instructions are on IRS publication #968. If you google the form and publication, you should find what you're looking for. BTW- Congratulations!

Question: are we turning the adoption point of dominance? I adopted a 9 1/2 yo lab. He was very annoying, nipping me, pulling my clothes, jumping up at me, chewing wires and his bedding. I got to the point where I put him up for re-adoption through my Lab rescue club. I have had him for 6 weeks, he came to me from the RSPCA where he had been for 3 weeks, his previous owners were old and had him his whole life. I noticed today that he had stopped pulling at my arms and legs, nipping my skin and I could actually pat him, he rolled onto his back and let me belly rub him for a minute or two and pat his head before he sprung back up and went back into the old habit of nipping. Am I turning the point with him where he may actually settle down with me?? Could this old boy actually just be trying to settle in, was nervous and needy, will he stop the chewing and be a great companion? Part of me didn't want him because I just lost my other dog, hence the reason adopting him, but now as time goes on I am starting to love this guy, not his fault for being a pain. Should I give him more of a chance before I do let him go to another owner?

Answer: Yes give him another chance, BUT..... Do not ever give him any attention when he displays any undesirable behaviour whatsoever - that means, keep your hands to yourself, turn you body away from him, do not make eye contact, do not speak to him. IGNORE him totally when he pulls at you - walk away in the opposite direction and pretend he doesn't exist. You'll have to be VERY consistent. Only when he's quiet, calm and relaxed, do you go up to him and give him attention, rub him, talk to him, feed him etc. He must learn to be calm and quiet before you interact with him. You CAN teach an old dog new tricks but you must be consistent. If he gets too much for you, like he nips or jumps up at you, just say nothing, grab him by the collar and lock him in a small room (toilet, bathroom or porch) in isolation away from you and the rest of the family. EVERY TIME! Be consistent so he learns that the behaviour results in being separated from you. All dogs can be taught to behave unless they have neurological damage, which this old boy doesn't sound like he has. He's just trying you out. Good luck and hopefully this will end in a lovely bonding between you. Let him out as soon as he's quiet, and put him back as soon as he nips or jumps or whatever. He'll soon get the connection.

Question: My cat and my husband don't get along - what should I do? I got my cat as a former stray from the SPCA 3 yrs ago and she got along well with my boyfriend until we got married over a month ago and he moved in (prior to that, he visited on weekends). Since one week before the wedding she started hissing at him and hasn't stopped. She bit him once, too. It is obvious she is jealous, but what should we do? The current situation is torture both for us and for her. We are thinking of sending her back to the SPCA, especially now that it is the holidays - maybe her chances of re-adoption into a good home will be high.

Answer: Please don't send kitty back to the SPCA! She needs time to adjust to having another person around. My husband and I recently got married and adopted kitty after we were married, and because im at home all day with kitty and my hubby is at work my kitty naturally bonded more with me than my husband. This made kitty quite hostile as well. Does your hubby not maybe try play too rough with kitty, as iv noticed although my husband doesn't mean to (he has never had a cat before, only dogs) he can play a bit rough with kitty, thus making kitty feel he has to defend himself from my husband through hissing, biting etc. I would suggest leaving kitty alone with your husband sometimes in a room, and your husband use a soft tone around him. Also try letting your husband feed kitty sometimes, and that should make it hard for kitty not to warm up to your husband!

Question: I think it's time...? ...to share positive adoption stories for a change? The question then: What have you experienced through adoption that would be considered positive or beneficial? CERTAINLY not every adoption situation is perfect or any more successful than a birth family situation so respect goes to all opinions aired in past posts re: adoption. But I'm asking for the perspective of all involved. I just ask people be courteous and respectful of the feelings of all those who may view this. Oh...and those who have diagnosed adoption as a "preventable disorder" need not bother. Thanks! KateisKate: Your point is well taken. I should have used kinder words. It's hurtful to be an adoptive parent and as such be considered part of a disease. This NO excuse for my statement and I will amend it accordingly. As for the part of "all involved"...that includes opinions like yours. Even if the positive wasn't individual to you. All involved was meant to invite anyone touched by adoption. So thank you for your input. I hope that clarifies. For those who consider adoption a "preventable disease", your view is well noted. The point of my question was to gather those of us who are pleased with the adoption process in some way OR have seen it work for others, if not themselves. Terms like it being a "disease" doesn't really fit into the question being posed. I respect everyone's right to their views. It doesn't mean that every view is applicable to a specific question. The first two responses do answer my question in some way. I have to say, I haven't seen that many "happy" adoption stories on here and that's why I turned here for a question. For my own type of support and even for potential adoptive families who have never been through adoption at all. But what I have to admit too is that from someone else's point of view...that's the complete opposite of why they come here for support. I was left spinning from the cruelty and negativity on some past posts (vs. the expression of pain and loss that have been shared here). This is why I just wanted to hear the other side. So now I'm left with...how do I hear about the positive aspects NOT just positive OUTCOMES without offending those who feel so pained? Seriously...how does one do that? Oh well...different question and I appreciate all the responses. So thanks to all of you. Jennifer L: I wish I had phrased my question better because I AM pleased to see the less positive being shared. I just wish I would have been more inclusive at the start but I can't edit only delete. But you nailed it as far as how I viewed the sharing of stories on YA. And the reason why I reached out. Thanks.

Answer: Look up adoption on Google, and you will find hundreds of adoption agencies loaded with positive stories, and thousands of adoptive parent blogs with positive stories. Ask any adopted child and they can tell you hundreds of positive stories told them by their own parents. Every adopted child is told their story is positive, no matter how they feel inside. Then look up anti-adoption, and you will find just a fraction of blogs. This is because most adoptees aren't at liberty to say how they really feel, in the face of overwhelming pressure to only say positive things. In the history of adoption, the bulk of which has occurred in the last 30 years, the majority aren't even old enough to vote yet, much less express such complex feelings that adoption brings to mind. The majority of adoptees feel conflicted. As the others above have said, for even the best outcomes, an adoption was born out of loss. The way in which adoptive parents too often deal with their child's loss is by discounting it and holding up these positives you seek to make yourselves feel better. And so, we learn early on that it is our role to make our parents feel good about adoption, and to swallow our own discomfort. We don't even realize this is happening...It took me 42 years before I acknowledged that adoption was an issue. It took me 42 years before I shed one tear about my loss. But now I do, and now I feel more human each day, as I unravel the complexities and find that small child's voice that was buried so long ago. So my positive adoption story is that, because of these buried issues, the discovery process has made me a more aware, sensitive, and caring person. And I am a better parent and citizen of the planet as a result. The selective vision of some adoptive parents is disturbing, and quite possibly the most harmful. We would not place a child in the hands of a blind person, but that's effectively what we do every day. Adult adoptees sharing their not-always-positive stories are the guide dogs who can help the blind maneuver. Like my mother who literally lost her sight, it is a really disturbing thing when the blind refuse guidance. She could have lived a fuller life. She could have also enjoyed a real and honest relationship, instead of the fiction she invented. Maybe instead of asking for only positives, you might try appreciating this access to the negatives that you get here? You know we do this voluntarily; to be helpful and enlighten everyone. We're giving you tools to be better parents. I'd call that extremely positive.

Question: Rabbit rescue- Having trouble with deciding whether this is a bad or good home?!?! HELP ASAP? I'm with the Adopt-a-bunny rescue agency. Recently my bunny had babies, and I have a lady who asked for two female bunnies several months before they were even born{I said I suspected she was pregnant} Anyways, the lady took in two female rabbits from me{Adults} These two were clearly abused, and needed a good home, I had her fill a screening form, and she fileld it out, came and picked them up happily, paid they're adoption fee and a donation, then too kthem back. I let her know my female has delivered, and she still wants two females. Although, I've asked her several times about the other two I gave her- she refuses to answer? She also told me she was going to have her 8 year old save up and pay for them? I was asking a fairly high price. They're harlequin hare babies- VERY UNUSUAL and I'm letting them go at 7.5 weeks old. I find this suspicious, not sure what to do. I'm worried she's eating them, or killing them or something! I was going to have her fill out a thick screening form, and then go over and do a home inspection- Like a last minute one so she wouldn't be able to cover evidence or something? Ideas? I know I may be over reacting- But I'm terribly worried. Note*Not giving her one is not an option I promised her TWO before they were born{Before all the suspeicion started} I need help. Thank you guys! Right now I'm leaning towards not letting her even look. I do feel like I have a right to be nervous about this. If she doesn't give me info about the other two by Monday she's off the list. I feel she has the right of the weekend to respond to the question I've asked 5 times. Generally I'm excellent at eliminating bad homes. I'm defiantly a bunny lover, so I've eliminated all that might cause danger to my bunnies! Thanks again! Guess we'll see how the weekend goes!

Answer: These are your animals, so not giving her the ones you promised is still an option. Demand to see the ones she adopted. If she doesn't or prevaricates, then do not give her any more. Really, if you are this anxious (as you have every right to be) then tell her that you want to find other homes. After all, these animals are your responsibility and their welfare is more important than possibly upsetting some one else. It is not fair to the animal to be raised in a rabbit-savvy home and then given away to someone who may neglect/abuse them. Hope this helps and good luck.

Question: Which of these book ideas do you like better? Okay, I have two. I'm probably going to end up writing both of them, but I want to know which one is better. Idea 1: A young woman is charged with the murder of a colleague. Since she didn't like this person and the evidence is against her, the chances of her staying out of jail don't look good. Her friend, a lawyer, tells her about a case she had several years ago; there was a guy charged with murder and he was a psychic; they plead insane to keep him out of jail, so he was sent to an institute. Thinking she has no choice, the main character goes to get him out, although she doesn't believe in psychic powers. He agrees to help her, mostly so he can get out of the place, but finds the case more intriguing than he would have thought. When he finally comes across the murderer, the woman doesn't believe him. This causes bad events that I won't post here. Idea 2: It starts with a woman sitting at a table in the news station where she works. She's reading papers she found in her mother's house; they're adoption papers. She confronts her mother about them and they get into a fight. A week later a mysterious envelope falls through her mail slot. Opening it reveals it to be a ransom letter for the father she never knew. Her friends encourage her to tell the police, but she refuses, afraid to get her father killed. Yet, they go on without her, trying to get help. Later, the police finds her boyfriend murderered. Along with his corpse, they find a letter, saying "I told you not to tell anyone". Now that's it's really personal, she goes to the police. Little does she know it'll all get worse.

Answer: i like #2 it describes more of what happens without revealing to much

Question: Grandparents raising grandchildren - what are the pros and cons re adoption vs. legal guardianship? If you had a choice, why you chose one over the other.

Answer: Not very good at this sort of thing perhaps you need to ask this question twice to see if others might be able to help you