Abandonment

Question: abandonment? Since my divorce in December, I've gone through the usual mood swings--abandonment, hatred, anger, loss, forgiveness etc. Now, it's August, i've dated 2 men in between (not that they lasted) but here I am woken by a dream about my ex-hubby leaving me. Basically, I dreamt he was leaving me and I was crying and begging etc... Why am I having this dream? After both my flings ended I was angry at my ex for putting me through this--having to look for a future partner at 33. We had been together since we were 17. Am I never going to be able to move on? I am not romantically in love with my ex-hubby, for sure. But I am having these dreams and miss his friendship, I guess.

Answer: You probably just miss the comfort and stability of having a man to come home to every night. With the other relationships not working out, it just reinforces those feelings about having someone there for you all the time. I don't think you are in love and want him back. I think you just want someone (male) to be there for you.

Question: Abandonment? Has anyone ever had someone close to them just pack there stuff and skip town without saying a word? If so how did it make you feel and who was it?

Answer: my dad (he returned about 2 years later... it made me feel bad like i did something wrong (i was 4 and my mom said he didnt love me)) then my grandma and the rest of the family went while i was on vacation at my dad's (i was 9 that was fun 'why is there a for sale sing???') and later my mom kinda did to except she said she was leaving when i was 12. oh she has left me on relatives door steps ( maybe like 4 times) and i didnt her from her for a while

Question: What is the legal definition of abandonment of property? I notified my landlord that would need to move to another city. I left all electricity on and vacated the premises so he could get a new tenant in. So, my feeling is that this is not abandonment, just allowing him to find a new tenant. He is keeping some of my money per the ABANDONMENT clause in our lease that says I have to pay the difference in rent. I would like to get out of this - can someone please explain abandonment and if possible, a source of their explanation. THANKS! I'm in Florida.

Answer: You abandoned the lease, which is an enforceable contract. The landlord is within his rights and the terms of the lease to keep your money. He can also sue you for breach of contract and any losses he might incur if he does not immediately find a new tenant. If he does find a tenant, but because of market conditions, is forced to charge at a lower rate, you are liable also for the difference in amount. Your only recourse is if there is a clause in the lease whereby you or the landlord can terminate the agreement by giving a specified or reasonable advance notice. Leaving the electricity on does not mitigate your breach of the lease agreement. Abandonment as it is used in a lease is breaching the lease contract without good cause. A good cause could be a failure by the landlord to maintain the premises in a safe and liveable condition. I believe you are thinking about abandonment in a more traditional legal sense, which is when a property owner/dweller vacates a residence, fails to maintain the property, and fails to pay property taxes. This meaning of abandonment is not applicable in your situation.

Question: What are child abandonment laws in regard to leaving a child alone in a public place? A 5-year-old child is left alone at table in the mall for 5 or 6 hours. This parent has no contact with the child during that time and isn't even necessarily nearby (not within seeing or hearing distance). What are the laws for that child? Is that considered abandonment? Could a parent get arrested for that? Fined? What would happen?

Answer: Yes. A child under the age of 12 cannot be left alone anywhere even at home. Parent can be arrested and child placed in foster care.

Question: Can my girlfriend get charged with abandonment if she has no schedule at work? My girlfriend is an STNA and does home healthcare. She has no schedule just her boses telling her at the last minute that she has to work. We are trying to plan things on the weekends and cant because she is scared she will get abandonment on her license if she isnt there when she is told she has to work...Is this the case or is he bluffing? STNA = State Tested Nurses Aide

Answer: Straight from an article I read in the ASBN (Arkansas State Board of Nursing) Update magazine: Abandonment: *A licensed nurse accepts a patient assignment and leaves the facility, supervisor is unaware the nurse has left the facility, nor has the nurse given a status report on her patient to another nurse. *Leaving without reporting to the oncoming shift. *Sleeping while on duty. NOT Patient Abandonment (but possible employment issues): *Resigning without notice. *Giving two weeks notice but only working one week of notice. *Failure to return to work from scheduled leave of absence. *Refusing to come in and cover a shift. *No call/no show for a scheduled shift. *Refusal to work beyond a previously agreed upon work period provided at the time of the request to work the next shift, the nurse informs the supervisor or employer that he/she is not able to work. *Refusal to work in an unfamiliar, specialized, or "high tech" patient care area when there has been no orientation, no educational preparation or employment experience. So, no, her license is not under attack. Really, the only way it would be is if she went into the hospital, checked-in, worked, but then left without telling anyone. But, if she doesn't go into work, there shouldn't be a problem--at least not with her license, sometimes supervisors get pissed off.

Question: How do we help our dog with her newly developing abandonment issues? We have a great 2 year old dog and have had no issues with any kind of separation anxiety or abandonment at all with her. We moved away from my family about a year ago. We had family visit last month and ever since they left the dog is displaying all sorts of new abandonment issues. Any ideas?

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Question: How can I file abandonment charges and child support at the same time? I want to know what the guidelines are for abandonment, how abandonment charges affect someones life/record- and if I file that could I also file for child support?

Answer: Depends, did he abandon you or did he leave because he's a domestic violence victim?

Question: What's the different between reckless abandonment and token commitment to Jesus? I want to know what reckless abandonment and token commitment to Jesus mean, so if you really know let me know.

Answer: Only God knows if you are truly committed or not, token does not come into it (do you mean money on the offering plate?). If you choose to walk away from God, that's your choice, but He will never walk away from you. Reckless abandonment is therefore far worse.

Question: How do I deal with an extreme fear of abandonment? I have an extreme fear of abandonment, like everyone I love will leave me to die alone, what causes this and how do I deal with it? Parents are out of the picture.

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Question: What happens when I file abandonment on my ex for getting behind on child support? My ex is about 13 weeks behind on child support and I am about to file abandonment.

Answer: You can't file abandonment charges yet. It has not been long enough. You can have him arrested however, for not paying child support!

Question: How to help a six year old boy with dread of abandonment? My son feels attacks of anxiety when he imagines that we have abandoned him for example if he can't find his parents or if we are late to collect him. He recently saw another man that looks like me who ignnored him (of course), and this triggered an anxiety attack. I feel he is expressing his anxiety through dread of abandonment. I have encouraged him to use plans of action such as seeking help instead, and this is working but only in specific situations where he has learned to do that and then becomes comfortable with a specific situation. For example, after coaching him, he now feels comfortable after his swimming lesson finding his own way back to our seat. When a new different situation arises he again feels the anxiety attack.

Answer: I think you need to find out why this started. Did he see something on TV or did hear others talking. Children are so intuitive and they pick up on things that we would never realize. I would just keep encouraging him and tell him often how glad you are to have him. He may just be going through a stage.

Question: How long must my husband be gone before I can file abandonment charges on him? He is immature, addicted to video games, and possibly drugs. He has left before and come back, but his family and I have had enough of him. I want to press charges for abandonment of our son against him. He has been gone almost a month. How long and how can I do this? He lives with his loser ex brother in law who cheated on his sister.

Answer: sorry to say it depends on LOCAL laws...check with your local district attorney or your just going to get all kinds of answers

Question: What is a cool club name for a club about preventing infant abandonment? I am creating a club on my college campus to educate students and people from the surrounding area about ways to prevent infant abandonment via the organization, A Safe Haven for Newborns. It's basically an awareness club with a community and outreach component attached to it. Any ideas would be great. My best idea was something like: Generation Safe. Hopefully you guys can do better.

Answer: Saving Lives, Creating Futures Hearts in Hands Safe Haven, Bright Future Citizens Newborn Outreach (CNO) That's all I can come up with! You're doing a great thing by supporting a program like that; we need more kind-hearted people in this world like you. Hope this helped!

Question: Paralegals, How do I go about filing abandonment or termination of parental rights of an absent father in OR? I am inquiring on what I need to do to file abandonment or termination of parental rights, against a father who has never met, seen or acknowledged his daughter who is now 4 1/2 years old. My fiance' is looking to adopt her as well when we get married. I know most will say consult a lawyer locally but I have not had any luck with that so far but will continue the search. I have posted on several law sites as well. Please let me know if you have any information!

Answer: I agree with KP that it is better to wait until you are married to try to terminate your daughter's father's parental rights. However, below is a link that you can use to research Oregon laws when it comes to termination of parental rights. http://library.adoption.com/termination-…

Question: How can you cope with fears of abandonment? What can be done to cope/overcome long-standing fears of abandonment that negatively affect all relationships? Thank you all so much! All the answers are so helpful and insightful that I simply can't choose the best one, they all are great!

Answer: Wanna know how I did it? Face that fear head on. Oh trust me, I have had an absolutely insane fear of abandonment since I was a small child. Then, after I was living in a different state than my whole family, my mom killed herself, my husband left me, my friends moved away, and I was evicted from my house. That will lead to a full blown panic attack if you have an insane fear of abandonment. But I was forced to face my greatest fear in the world. And I survived. I'm living testament to my fear being useless. Don't get me wrong, I was pushed to my absolute limits and I damn near didn't make it out alive. But I did. And now, abandonment means so little to me. I'll survive you leaving me. I'll survive having nobody to lean on. I got faith in me. I WILL survive.

Question: How does one behave if they have abandonment issues? How does one behave if they have abandonment issues? How will they behave in a relationship & how will it affect the relationship?

Answer: they find it hard to trust people because they are scared they will get hurt, they don't like being vulnerable, so by extension, they never really let anyone in.

Question: is it child abandonment if a parent leaves the home while going through a divorce? the woman and her husband don't get along at all. they have two children together and she's afraid that if she leaves the home and moves somewhere else until the divorce is final, that she'll lose her children due to child abandonment. She's a part of her two kids lives everyday. She just can't stand to be under the same roof as him.

Answer: No...but why doesn't she take the children with her? While most mothers get custody of their children after a divorce, she needs to take the kids in order for the judge to see that she WANTS them full time. "child abandonment" means that one parent has absolutely ZERO communication with the child what so ever...no phone calls, visits, letters, etc.

Question: How long can a parent go without seeing a child before it is considered abandonment in Indiana? I have 2 boys and they have separate dad's. My oldest is 8 and the youngest is 5. My oldest son's dad lives in Maine and has not seen him for years! He barely pays child support,when he pays it. My youngest son's dad lives in the same city and state as I do and only a few blocks away. He has not seen him in a consecutive year and this is not the first consecutive year this has happened. I was wanting to know if this is considered abandonment here in Indiana? Why do I care? Because my fieancee wants to adopt my boys after we get married in July and we aren't sure if we have to deal with the perental rights or not...

Answer: 1 month and then its over

Question: How long does a parent have to leave a child before it is considered abandonment? Will they still consider it abandonment if they do it in increments or does it have to be continuous?

Answer: Any amount of time that you leave a child alone to care for itself is considered abandonment!

Question: How long does a parent have to go without seeing their child before its considered abandonment in Ky? My son is almost 5 months old and his father has only seen him once when he was 3 weeks old. Now hes taking me to court for custody. Just wanna know if the abandonment clause suits this case. Thanks in advance.

Answer: Go to your local library or ask legal aid what the statute is in KY. In Illinois it is 2 years but back home in Massachusettts it is 1 year so as you can see it varies from state to state. You might wanna check out megalaw.com & look up your state's statutes; that's where the answers are !!! If you can read a Bible, you can read law books (LOL). A ballpark guess would be abandonment won't come into play BUT you can shoot for NEGLECT (no support, visitation, etc.). Custody? OMG Get all your documentation in order & put it before a judge & I'll bet that judge will laugh his assets outta court ! If you two weren't married he first must be ajudicated (prove he's the baby's bio father) b4 his motion will even be considered. You stick to your guns sweetie & contact me if need be. XO Keeping y'all in my prayers!