Complaint For Contempt Of Court

Question: What if a person were to buy a house as community property (husband & wife) but weren't married? Dick and Jane are married with a house. Dick and Jane get divorced and she leaves the house and all debt associated with it to him. Dick pays off his house. Dick and Jane reconcile but never remarry. Dick uses the proceeds from sale of the old house to buy a new house with Jane. Jane contributes nothing financially. They sign the deed as Husband and Wife Community Property with right of survivorship. Jane stays a year or two and then runs off with the cableguy. Years go by and Jane never returns. Admittedly Dick is an idiot. But can he do anything? Does Jane automatically get the house upon Dick's death? Can he sever the right of survivorship and leave at least half the house to his kids? Better yet can he remove her entirely from the deed in that they were not married (and signed that they were) and Jane contributed nothing into the purchase of the house? (Arizona is the hypothetical state by the way.)

Answer: I don't know Arizona community property law specifically, so this is just general community property law. A deed that is facially defective is invalid. Since Dick and Jane are not married when they buy the new house, it cannot be CP, nor would it be quasi-CP since it was purchased in a CP state. The judge would have two options. First, reform the deed to be Joint Tenancy with Rights of Survivorship (treating it as quasi-marital property in a putative marriage). JT can be severed normally by a partition action (skipping the strawman step, as most states do) after separation, resulting in Tenants in Common. Alternately, if Dick can show fraudulent inducement, he may be able to get the deed set aside entirely, in which case he owns the house based on the land sales contract (assuming there is one). A third alternative (of the two) is that Dick can file an unjust enrichment equitable action against Jane, as a quasi-contract claim based on the defective deed and the imputed contract that Jane would contribute to the house maintenance costs. Of these, I consider the JT reformation most likely, since the court is probably not going to feel too sorry for Dick being an idiot.

Question: Which jurisdictions in Arizona are Quazi or non-community Property Jurisdictions? Quazi meaning some jurisdictions are and some jurisdictions are not Community property jurisdictions? Mesa? Phoenix? Surrounding cities near Phoenix? Thx.

Answer: My understanding is that all of Arizona is community property jurisdiction.

Question: Can I tap into community property (between my ex and his new wife) to pay for child support? If an ex husband hides all assets (real estate, property income, etc..) under his new wife's name to avoid paying child support, then quits his job due to a temporary disability, can the community property between him and his new wife be tapped into to pay for child support and/or the arrears? If not, can I make her pay?

Answer: You can't in CA, I doubt she would have to pay anywhere. Your state can file a lien for unpaid child support, but that does not give you access to their equity, it just means that you are paid when they sell.

Question: Turbotax E-filing: Is Indiana a community property state? Trying to e-file federal taxes with Turbotax. Want to file as "married filing separate" but when I finally try to e-file, I get the following message: You have indicated your filing status is married filing separate in a community property state. TurboTax does not support this information to be filed electronically. To file your federal taxes by mail, select "File a Traditional Paper Return." Didn't have this trouble last year (still Indiana) and I can't find any source that says Indiana is a community property state. Did it change in the past year?

Answer: Indiana wasn't a community property state when my mother died in 2002. IRS publication 555 doesn't mention Indiana, either.

Question: Am I entitled to get refunded (divorce) for paying my wifes individual debt off with community property? My wife had several thousand dollars of Debt before we got married and after we got married, we used our community property funds to pay off her previous debt. We are now going through divorce. Am I entitled to 1/2 of the money that was spend to pay her individual debt? Any reference to an answer would be much appreciated! We live in California.

Answer: Nope. You're screwed. Cali is the absolute worst. But don't worry, you'd really only be safe in TX, FL and maybe MA an like one or two other states.

Question: Want to get even with EZInkjets ? File a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission @ 877-382-4357. Contact your credit card company within 90 days, so they can credit your account. Take the company to your local Small Claims Court - see if they send you a refund check that bounces - it will go to Criminal Court for Fraud and Contempt of Court.

Answer: Thanks, I'll look into this.

Question: language discrimination? I read a news story about the Philadelphia Commission on Human Relations which filed a discrimination complaint against a restaurant for having a sign saying to order in English. Funny how they filed the complaint in English. Could the restaurant owner have been charged with contempt of court if he had hired a Spanish-only speaking defense lawyer?

Answer: Probably not. In theory, this is a possibility. In actual fact, this is almost impossible: statutes and cases in the US are written in English, even if English is not the official language. Any prospective practitioner would have to wade through these documents and as such, would have to be familiar with the English language. Engaging the services of such a lawyer would probably be not amount to contempt of court: I don't see how such a behavior would be contumacious to the court, although it is somewhat crude. At best, it is an attempt to embarrass the plaintiff/petitioner. The apparent target, it seems, is the plaintiff, rather than the court. Perhaps, the intentions of the defendant would ultimately reveal whether he, she or it deserves to be charged with contempt of court. My two cents worth: the court should not get offended with this act, but instead, require the restaurant owner to engage the services of an English-speaking lawyer. Easier done, less acrimony, less waste of time. More $$$ to English-speaking practitioners, too.

Question: Wisconsin visitation order violated on the first visit....... Advice? I just had my pretrial hearing for child support/custody. My child's father was awarded 2 days a week visitation, but there were stipulations on his visitation. He doesn't have a license, so he is supposed to have a family member pick up, and there is a temporary restraining order on him, so it was ordered that his roommate drop off. His roommate's name was the person listed in the order as the person to drop off. The reason his roommate was chosen is because my child and I have a relationship with her, and I trust her. He assigned her to be the person for drop off without consulting her first as to if she would even be willing to do it, and what times would be good for her. The first day he had visitation, he had someone, neither my child or I do not know, drop off. I'm upset because I don't know anything about this person, and she is a complete stranger to my child. It is hard enough for my child to get adjusted to seeing the father all the time, and now he's thrusting someone unknown into the relationship. What can I do? Can I make a complaint to someone or do I have to file for contempt of court? If I file for contempt, is the judge going to be angry with me for bringing it back on the first problem? I don't know what to do. I can't afford a lawyer. :(

Answer: Re-enforce the current court order agreement on picking up and dropping off for the sake of the children..if he has some one else picking up and dropping off the children for his visitation time, he is violating the court order..he must obey the court order..it was all decided in court in front of the judge..your child's well being and safety comes first.

Question: My daughter is 7 and cannot stand going on visitation with her father is there anything that I can do??? It takes at least 20 to 45 minutes to get my daughter to go on visitation with her father it has been like this for 3 years. Is there anything that I can do. My daughter says she hates him and she hates his girlfriend. She does not even call him Dad she calls him by his first name. He has to force her into his vehicel with her kicking and sreaming. My neighbors think that she is being kidknapped when it happens. I don't know what to do for her. My ex tells me that if she does not go he will put me in jail for contempt of court. is there anything that I can do. He has filed another complaint against me because of my daughter not going with him I have a 1 year old also with my current husband and he sees his sister screaming and crying and then he starts crying because he does not want to see his sister crying like that and being taken away from him. I don't know what to do anymore can anyone help me???????

Answer: Take this back to court. Ask if your daughter can have supervised visitation only until doctors and psychiatrists can decide what's really going on. Call social services and ask them to do a home visitation. Find someone who can be an advocate for her in the courtroom and represent her. Find someone else who can represent you. He sounds rather controlling, vindictive, and vengeful, instead of being more concerned about providing for, looking to, and protecting his daughter's emotional needs, don't you think? Video tape what is going on and how she acts. The courts should hopefully do what is in her best interest, not just the parents. However I have known someone who claimed that even though a man molested his children, they were still forced to see their father during visitation. And another story where a man who had authority was doing his daughter wrong, but no one believed the mother (who I think went to jail or had her child taken away for trying to protect her), and it turned out that the judge in the case and the stepmother were bad too. I don't know if you want to scare him or not, but either do the exams secretly to see what's really going on and wait until the right time to use the documentation or use them as leverage against him (as in letting him know ahead of time) so that if he is doing something to her, hopefully he will back off and be afraid of the legal repercussions. Another thing to try to figure out is why is he being like this? What is his real M.O. or agenda? Is he doing it to be controlling you, is he bitter, raging, or trying to do something to her and covering up by trying to make you look like you are doing him wrong? Also you could try to see what matters to him, his rights or her (in general as well as her rights). Sometimes people use their children against their children's parents, sad to say. She could also be picking up on tension, they could be saying things or doing things that in your house is against the rules or what is normal and safe and secure for her, or she could be upset about the whole situation that she has 2 homes where the mommy and daddy are not together and the girlfriend is shaking things up for her (meaning there is no chance of the 2 of you getting back together as long as the g.f. is in the picture and the daddy and g.f. seem to be moving on and maybe not paying her the kind of attention she needs or wants right now), and she could be afraid to tell or not even know how to say what she needs to say. Edit: 3 years I would think would be enough time for a child especially at that age to get used to or start getting used to the situation, so I'm assuming you need to protect her and nail his tail to the wall for not being more sensitive to her needs and possibly not providing an environment that feels safe, loving, and protecting for her. And if he is the one forcing her, can't he see after 3 years of this, what it is doing to her? Why wouldn't he be the one to suggest a psychologist and mediator within this 3 year period if he loves her as a father should and if he really is not doing anything detrimental to her. IMO I think he wants a fight or is coving his tail, since he seems so willing to get her into his house and is adamant about it, but you did not mention him offering to take her to a psychologist to see how every one can make visitations go better so that she will be willing to go and be with him without resistance.

Question: Can my daughter's father make me move back to our hometown? Here is the sito, my daughter's father owes me 12,000 in child support, I called and filled a complaint. We have a visitation order in ohio (that he does not follow and did not file for until she was 7) and I live in Georgia. My husband now is military and that is where we are stationed. Our visitation agreement now states that I live out of state. Since I filled a complaint against him for child support he is threatening to put me in contempt of court for not following visitation order (even though I do) and make us move back. Can he do that, what can I do?

Answer: Get a lawyer.

Question: How do I investigate a crooked judge? (Married 21 years, no kids, I'm disabled. Divorced in Alaska) I just received my divorce decree & the Judges ruling. It is SO obvious that this Judge is so in the wrong! I swear he was paid off or something. My ex is a contractor & has on more then 1 occasion worked out deals with lawyers & a judge in Montana to take care of his legal problems, like he did some building on the Judges house in exchange for him excusing all of my ex's traffic violations. I have no doubt he's capable of doing this again. What happened at the trial was unbelievable enough (ie. when my ex was exposed for ILLEGALLY selling our house in 8/09 & took & spent $700,000 from it, never accounting for most of it, he did it without my consent & against court orders, to which another judge was considering holding him in contempt of court for, but this judge didn't care, he got irate with me saying I was "wasting the courts time by even bringing it up" & that my ex "just made a mistake & it didn't matter anymore...") When I tell anyone any of what happened, they think like I do, this Judge is not just unfair & bizarre, he's outright WRONG! The rulings however, is so outrageously unfair, I was SO SCREWED, I can't begin to list the absolute insane rulings by this judge, who was 100% in my ex's favor & 100% against me. I believe its at least in part because my ex could afford his lying lawyer & I couldn't find a lawyer who would help me since I had NO $, so I had to do all the research myself. Trust me, I did NOT want to represent myself, but I had no choice, so I used whatever means I could, still having to spend $3000 in legal & research fees (that I had to borrow because I have NOTHING since my ex financially abandoned me 16 months ago, before I even left him! Which BTW, I left him because of his abuse & neglect, I'm also disabled & often bedridden for months at a time, which I also proved in court that my ex contributed to my illness & harmed me physically, even poisoning me. All of it, according to the judge, "doesn't matter.") I filed EVERYTHING correctly & even presented my case exactly as I was supposed too, my ex AND his shyster lawyer both admitted at the trial that their records were incorrect about several things, admitted that my ex DID sell the house illegally. I proved this & so much more, I proved everything!!! 6 hours worth of a crazy trial, I was married for 21 years, I'm sick, my ex is an abusive lying mentally unstable barbaric dishonest JERK & I proved it all in court!!! & I still got screwed royally! I just can't believe it. I didn't ask for tons of money, I just needed help with medical bills & some security, something??? After 21 years, I'm sick & he's an admitted lier, he is in possession of hundreds of thousands of dollars (in $ & in marital property & assets,) ALL of which was proven in court, I'm in possession of a broken down 12 year old car & my laptop & 2 barstools, & I begged the courts for help, for 10 months I begged them, & I got NOTHING!!!!! Not even help to pay for medicine. I just don't believe this!!! So.... what can I do? How do you fight a judge? Can you appeal a divorce case? Can I have the judge investigated some how? Someone told me I can file a complaint, but then what? What happens after a complaint is filed? Does anyone care about complaints filed like that? Someone else suggested I contact the newspapers in Alaska about this Judge, what do you think? I got the court transcripts just sent to me too, BUT they're just summarized, all of it, there isn't ONE complete sentence in the entire thing, & some of it is even missing??? They're not even full transcripts! Everything is so blatantly obvious to me that something fishy is going on & I don't know what I can do about it. Is there anything I CAN do? Anything at all? (Please don't tell me answers like "Get a lawyer." I need real answers, this is my life, my whole life, this isn't petty! I need some advice! Help me, please, someone? Cliff: Don't talk about what you don't know! & trust me, you DON'T have a clue what you're talking about!

Answer: Alaska YOU don't. Complaints and grievances are handled by the Alaska Bar Association, Ethics and Discipline. http://www.alaskabar.org or call 907-272-7469 If it is your goal to have someone consider your complaint: (1) Leave your emotions out of it. (2) Be concise (3) Be specific about acts of misconduct, malfeasance or criminal acts. (4) Stick to what you can prove with evidence or witness testimony. (5) Stick to the facts, not supposition, allegations, or angry rhetoric.

Question: How do I say this in a professional way? What is a professional way of describing the bad conduct of a Judge, I'm filing an official complaint against this judge. I have to describe why I believe his conduct at trial was wrong. I need words that are not considered emotional or name-calling, & I don't know how to say it right. I know I can't call him a jerk even if he was, but I need to make sure the complaint shows that he was unfair, even outright rude, he ignored ALL my evidence & ruled in the favor of the defendant who didn't file his evidence on time or correctly, even admitted at the trial that his info (& his shyster lawyer's info) was incorrect. I really need a correct way of saying this judge was terrible in court, he acted bored most of the time & even rested his head in his hands with his eyes closed during testimony's, & 1 time near the end of the 6 hour trial became irate & even yelled at me, saying I was wasting the courts time because I was bringing up evidence that the defendant sold a house & took $700,000 for which he did against court orders. It didn't matter to this judge that one previous judge was considering holding the defendant in contempt of court for doing this, I was told for 9 months that we would discuss this main issue at the trial & this "judge" told me it didn't matter anymore, that the defendant "made a mistake" & I was wasting the courts time by trying to talk about it. I asked him repeatedly why it didn't matter, he kept saying it just doesn't, then I asked if it really is okay that he can break the law & go against court orders & take $700,000 & have absolutely no repercussions, & the Judge got angry at me & said, "YES, that's exactly what I'm saying!" He was WAY out of line! He then took 4 weeks to file his decision & ruled completely in favor of the defendant, leaving me with thousands of dollars of debt that I proved belonged to the defendant & he just ignored everything I said, all of my evidence, everything, not just this $700,000. I was so screwed. How do I say that in a professional way? (Please don't tell me to appeal, I'm past that, I'm filing a complaint, have the proper forms, I just really need to know how to say all this the correct way.) Help please! & Thank you for any suggestions!

Answer: Just wanted to say Cliff has no idea what the heck he's talking about!

Question: What about Israeli Discrimination? Is It Good? What about Israeli Discrimination? Is It Good? The ultra-Orthodox network that runs the Beit Yaakov girls school in the West Bank settlement of Immanuel must pay NIS 5,000 for every day it continues to violate an August court order requiring it to eliminate any vestige of ethnic discrimination at the school, the High Court of Justice ruled Wednesday. Seventy-four girls, mostly of Ashkenazi origin, have been studying in an adjacent unauthorized school since the court, along with the Education Ministry, called on the school to stop holding separate classes for Ashkenazi and Sephardi students. Wednesday's ruling came in response to a petition by the head of Noar Kahalacha, an organization that combats anti-Sephardi discrimination, accusing the school of contempt of court. The High Court said the school had authorized the girls' absence. Noar Kahalacha lawyer Aviad Hacohen called implementation of the court's ruling "an important test of the rule of law." "It is hoped that the parents of the students and the teachers and all the others involved in the improper discrimination come to their senses," he said. No response was available from the ultra-Orthodox education network. The court has scheduled a hearing with the parents of the 74 girls, who will be asked to explain why they should not be viewed as accessories to the violation of the earlier order. They will also be asked whether furniture and equipment from the Beit Yaakov school is being used at the unauthorized institution and whether teachers from Beit Yaakov are being employed, either directly or indirectly, at the new school. The school administration and municipal council have refused to get involved in proceedings against the parents, prompting the Education Ministry to file a complaint with the police contending that the new arrangement is a violation of the compulsory education law. Several weeks ago the ministry also ordered the unauthorized school closed. Source: http://www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/1161596.html

Answer: Discrimination against anybody is never good, be it in Israel, The U.S. or any other country I agree with the court ruling, just as I agreed with the U.S. laws and courts which helped in large part to end blatant discrimination in that country.

Question: What's a good word to use to describe a bad? judge? I'm filing an official complaint against a judge & I know I have to keep emotion out of it, but how do I describe him? What are words that say he was a jerk, unfair, woman-hater, probably was paid off, he even yelled at me, he ignored all of my evidence & ruled in favor of the defendant who had no proof to support his lame side, but in fact falsified his records & even admitted it on the stand, yet the judge still ruled in his favor. He also ruled that I get stuck with thousands in debt that the defendant stuck me with (which is what I proved at trial as well). AND the defendant took $700,000 from a house sale & spent it all & did it against court orders & another judge was going to hold him in contempt of court for it, but this judge told me I was wasting his time for even bringing it up in court & that he (the defendant) "made a mistake" & what I was saying "didn't matter." So I got the form to file a complaint, but I obviously can't say all the above that way & that I think he's a creep & probably paid off. So how can I say it & sound professional without the emotion behind it? (Please don't tell me to appeal, that's not my question, I'm looking for answers on how to write this out & use the right words.) Thank you for any suggestions! Maybe I wasn't clear enough. I'm asking what words can I use to describe this judge? I KNOW I can't call him a jerk or an @$$hole or a louse, even though he was all those things & more, I am needing words I CAN use in my official written complaint. Is anyone good with words? Please answer for real!

Answer: If you want a good outcome, leave out the name calling. Describe exactly what happened, including that the defendant admitted falsifying records, defied a court order, and had no valid proof for his claim. Once you start defaming the judge, your complaint will lose all credibility. Stick to the facts.

Question: Crucible Questions! HELP! please!? 22. How does Rebecca react to Ruth 23. Why does Rebecca say to wait to call in Rev. Hale 24. Why does Proctor refuse to go to church 25. According to Rebecca Nurse, why are families staying away from the church 26. How educated is Parris 27. What complaint doe Parris have concerning his salary. What suggests that he values money over god 28. Who has a habit of suing people in the village 29. Why does Putnam get angry when Proctor asks Giles for help in dragging lumber 30. Describe Revered hale—to what profession is he compared 31. What happened the last time Hale thought he had found a witch 32. Does Arthur Miller believe that witchcraft was being practiced in Salem Village 33. Giles questions what behavior of his wife’s 34. What happened in the forest with Tituba and the girls 35. What names did the girls give at the end of the act, and why those names 36. Who discovered the girls dancing in the forest Act II 1. How would you describe the relationship between Proctor and his wife 2. What reason did Mary Warren give Elizabeth Proctor for going to town 3. How many people have been jailed. What power does the court have over these people 4. What does Elizabeth want her husband to do 5. Why does Proctor hesitate in proclaiming Abigail a fraud 6. Does Elizabeth know of the affair. How is this shown 7. What gift does Mary Warren give Elizabeth 8. To what did Sarah Good confess 9. How does Elizabeth rationalize Sarah Good’s mumbling 10. According to Mary Warren, the women will nothing if they . . . 11. Whose life does Mary claim to have saved 12. Why does Elizabeth think she was named 13. What does Elizabeth want John to do 14. Why does Hale visit the Proctors 15. What questions does he ask 16. Why does the issue of the candlesticks bother Proctor 17. Why did the Proctors only have two of their children baptized 18. Which commandment could Proctor not remember 19. When Proctor tells Hale that Abigail made up the witchcraft story, what is Hale’s response 20. According to Proctor, why have the people confessed 21. Hale tells the Proctors, “God keep you both, let . . .”—what does he tell them to do 22. Why has Giles come to the Proctors’ house 23. With what has Rebecca Nurse been charged 24. What is the charge against Martha Corey 25. What incriminating evidence is found against Elizabeth 26. What does Proctor want Mary Warren to tell the court 27. For what reason has Cheever come to the Proctor house 28. Why does Mary Warren tell Proctor, “I cannot, I cannot” Act III 1. Describe Judge Hathorne 2. Describe Deputy Governor Danforth 3. How does Giles Corey feel about telling people about his wife’s reading 4. Why did Mary Warren appear before Danforth 5. What proof does Proctor have that states that Mary Warren lied 6. How does Proctor react to Mary Warren’s testimony 7. What do we learn about Elizabeth Proctor 8. What does Parris keep insisting that Proctor has come to do 9. Ninety-one members of the church have signed a letter attesting to . . . 10. Why do Proctor and Francis Nurse fear for the safety of the people who signed the letter 11. What accusations does Giles make against Putnam 12. What does Putnam stand to gain by charging people with witchcraft 13. Why was Giles charged with contempt of court 14. Hale tells Proctor that he should return with a . . . 15. According to Danforth, why is witchcraft a difficult crime to prove 16. Danforth states that if Mary Warren is lying in her deposition, her punishment will be . . . 17. Does Parris admit to seeing the girls dancing in the forest 18. How does Mary Warren explain her fainting during the trials 19. How does Abigail distract Danforth 20. what does Proctor do to Abigail. What does he tell the court 21. When questioned about her husband’s affair, what does Elizabeth tell them 22. How does Abigail cause Mary Warren to reverse her testimony Act IV 1. What is the antecedent action that precedes this act 2. How has Herrick changed from the previous act 3. Why has Hale returned to the jail 4. How does Hathorne describe Parris 5. To what does Cheever attribute Parris’ madness 6. Parris is deeply troubled by Abigail’s actions—what did she do 7. What has happened in Andover 8. What does Parris propose to Danforth and why 9. What is the incident with dagger 10. Why won’t Danforth discuss a pardon or postponement 11. What details do we learn about Proctor’s imprisonment 12. How does Hale now view his position as a minister 13. What does Hale want Elizabeth to do 14. What was Giles Corey’s fate. Why did he do it 15. How does Elizabeth respond when John asks for her forgiveness. What does she mean 16. How has Elizabeth come to view John’s adultery. How did she view herself as a wife 17. What does Proctor do to this confession and why 18. What is the final scene of the play 19. What do Elizabeth’s final words suggest 20. According to Miller, how does the witch trial hysteria come to an en Its for the Crucible by Arthur Miller

Answer: It sounds as though you are struggling with the whole play. This should help you from Shmoop.

Question: Misandric and gynocentric feminist laws and societal changes simply due to the law of unintended consequences? Is it possible that VAWA was just an accident, along with everything MRAs seek to change (family court bias, custody bias, rape bias, domestic violence bias, legal bias, mental health bias, breast cancer bias etc....). Or more likely that the feminist movement simply took advantage of the age old idea created by men - the female victim, the untouched virgin, the princess in the tower, the damsel in distress etc.... And simply used it against them, to gain preferential laws. Take note, that most of these laws were commissioned by men. And congress is not simply a legislative assembly predominantly composed of men looking out for men; they will more likely protect what society has traditionally deemed to be the more vulnerable sex (since many men already feel they need to protect women in the first place). The Men’s Rights Movement is not simply a backlash, like many feminists describe as “men having a tantrum after losing their privileges”. Some even compare it to the White Power movement in response to African-Americans gaining rights during the Civil Rights Era. However unlike the feminist movement, in America there aren’t any deep cultural traditions favoring blacks. It’s pretty hard to talk about female power, without being laughed at or ridiculed, since it’s a subject of such taboo. Here are some concrete examples: “I personally don’t think women should be in combat, but that’s a personal view based on feeling that women are too valuable to be in combat” – Former Defence Secretary – Casper Weinberger – “This Week” ABC News, June 8th 1997. Drunk drivers who kill women get prison sentences 56% longer than the prison sentences given to drunk drivers who kill men – Derived from the National Bureau of Economic Research at Harvard University – April 2000. “It is an amazing thing to see in our city the wife of a shoemaker, or a butcher, or a porter dressed in silk with chains of gold at the throat, with pearls and rings of good value....and then in contrast to see her husband cutting the meat, all smeared with cow's blood, poorly dressed.... but whosever considers this carefully will find it reasonable, because it is necessary that the lady, even if low born and humble, be draped with such clothes for her natural excellence and dignity, and the man be less adorned as if a slave, or a little ass, born to her service” - Lucrezia Marinella, “The Nobility and Excellence together with the Defects and Deficiencies of Men”, 1600 “A boy is to be a boy, and then becomes a man. A boy becomes a man by gaining strength, courage and chivalry. He is taught to respect females as a higher category of mortal being” -- Karen De Coster, August 14th 2001. “What bothers me most is the visible, although often unspoken, thread of contempt that runs through women’s conversations about men. The assumption very often is that men are boys who must be outfoxed, manipulated or dealt with in a calculated manner that women rarely use among themselves” —Phyllis Theroux in GQ, February 1986 “Looking at how easy it is for women to treat men in cruel ways is oddly liberating” —Naomi Wolf in her 1993 book Fire With Fire Last of all one of the flaws of modern feminism, is the western centrism and triviality of what a lot of feminists are fighting for in the US, rather than focusing most of their efforts focused on the East. Imagine a migrant farm worker in a steamy bunkhouse with a broken fan. Imagine a guest in a luxury hotel whose air conditioning isn’t working just right. Who is more likely to complain? Who has more to complain about? Sometimes a complaint tells us more about the expectations of the complainer than the actual circumstances the complainer is in. What’s your view? An (old) example of breast cancer bias: In Fiscal Year 2000, the federal government funded research into breast cancer—which kills about 41,500 women per year—at $424,900,000. Research into prostate cancer—which kills about 31,700 men annually—got $190,000,000. In the same budget, breast cancer outreach and screening programs got $185,000,000, while such programs aimed at prostate cancer received $11,000,000. That’s $14,700 per female death, $6340 per male. On February 14, 2001 Representative Randy (Duke) Cunningham (R-CA) introduced legislation to establish an Office of Men’s Health to parallel the Office of Women’s Health, which was created in 1991. Rio: Yeah I was reluctant about putting that Naomi Wolf quote in their, since I thought it sounded odd coming from her considering her admirable track record. She's one of the few feminists I respect nowadays.

Answer: The quotes you mentioned that come from feminists were written in tones of contempt, not appreciation. Wolf's Fire With Fire draws a line between "victim feminists," who think women have everything going wrong for them and take it all out on men, and "power feminists," who acknowledge sexism and are optimistic that they can overcome it or do away with it. The victim feminists (who, oftentimes, care so little about true equality that you can't even call them feminists) are the ones who either created or supported gynocentric laws.

Question: What can I do if ex is not feeding kids dinner before dropping them off? My ex is playing games with my older kids again. He has them every other weekend and is a complete failure when it comes to providing for them. My biggest gripe today is that every pick up, on Sunday at 6pm, I hear that my kids have not eaten since before noon. It takes me and hour and a half to drive home from the pick up and my kids are hungry and complaining. That's a loooong drive when you're hungry. It's hard for me to plan anything because after driving so long (3 hour round trip) & after working all day I'm wiped. To combat the complaining and need to feed them we typically stop and grab something from McD's before the long trip home. It's becoming an expense that I can't keep up since I'm already dumping an extra $30 in gas every other weekend for the drop off/pick up trips (6 hours of driving per visitation). I was packing them sandwiches and drinks, but my hours were changed and I simply don't have the time to go to work, do groceries and make dinners and run out the door without being late. My schedule is all messed up and since Sunday is the only day for me to go shopping I'm feeling stuck. I would prepare food in advance, but if the food isn't there, there isn't much I can do. I only have time to grocery shop on Sundays after work before pick up. My question: How friggin' hard is it to feed them dinner before leaving at 4:30?! I do this every single time I drop them off. I rush home from work, cook dinner, the get home from school, I feed them and run out the door!! They are fed and I don't have to worry about hearing complaints or buying expensive fast food. I've already dumped over $2000 into a lawyer earlier this year only to have to start driving half way and not seeing the things that the ex agreed to being completed. I don't have the money to keep taking this back and forth to court (even though he's in contempt since he did not fulfill the court orders) nor do I have the time to drive 3 hours back to Cleveland to attend hearings. Does anyone have any rational ideas? HELP!!!! It's a 3 hour round trip to go half way on Friday and then another 3 hours round trip to go half way on Sunday. We live 3 hours apart. We do meet by fast food places. There are even a few restaurants in that area, but he won't feed them. He'll buy them something to drink at the gas station that we meet at and that's it. For the poster thinking that I don't work 7 days a week - I work 12 days straight split shifts. I am pregnant and I don't make enough money to pay a sitter to watch my kids at night so I can go to the store and shop. Hence, the reason I go on Sundays when I have the time. My time on Friday is spent driving home. Oh... and I live in the boonies where people roll up the sidewalks at 6 pm.

Answer: I didnt even have to read the entire thing. Sorry to say that this man is a loser. You are a good mom who makes sure that her kids see their father no matter what. I do not understand why their own father cant give them food or at least money for food while they are with him. Another thing i cant understand even more is why he cant drive them back to your place when the weekend is over. This is that typical example of an overworked women who gets no credit,im sure. Maybe instead of your kids going to their fathers house for the weekend you can just find the time to do something special with them. Tell the father, until he gets his act together, he cant see his kids. That is a form of neglect in the courts eyes. Maybe you can file something just to be on the safe side.ooo and i like how the poster above me is trying to make this your fault(sarcasm) that is really sickening...what a shameful thing to say.

Question: questions on enforcement of alimony? My Mom is supposed to receive alimony each month. but her ex has stopped paying it. She is on disability and without the alimony she cannot even come close to paying her bills. she lives in Nevada and he now lives in Tennessee, but is often working in China so hes out of the country alot. He has not told her a phone number or even an address for her to contact him to ask for the money owed. I found his address by searching online and also found where he is working. His work directory lists an email address for him but he does not answer emails sent. My Questions are: What types of motions/complaints should i file with the courts? She cannot afford a paralegal, without her alimony she cant even pay apria for her oxygen. I talked to the nye county courts clerk and she told me I cn use clark counties fill in the blank legal forms if i just change the header to nye county courts. i just dont know what all to file,,im thinking a motion to waive costs, a motion to enforce, and see if i can get him charged for contempt....any advice would be so very appreciated. thank you

Answer: You're on the right track with those motions. As he is employed by an American company, his wages can be garnished here. That's promising. Have you attempted contacting his supervisor? Is your mom getting maximum state/ county benefits? Find out by applying for Food Stamps. There is also help available with electric bills and medicine. Start by dialing 211 and asking for referrals. Catholic Charities is a good place to start. You have to be assertive and have good follow through. Keep track of everything in a notebook.She's probably eligible for Meals on Wheels. Best of luck. Contact me if I can answer anything else.

Question: Where would I send the negative feedback for the attorney? During the representation of my asylum case as homosexual Dmitry Paniotto reveal contempt to me, used jokes which sounded like a personal threat 'people who has complaints at our office do not stay in this country anymore' When he received my documents from the russian authorities he refused to sign any paper that he is receiving them. He 1) collected $3,000 2) he does not know and never asked what was the reason of my first entry in the US 3) he represented my persecution as gay, but he does not know and never asked the name of my first lover. 3.5) his activities were consistent of receiving money and providing me with 3 pages document, after that he was almost non-responsive and completely forgot about me. 4) he was absent (on vacation) during my court hearing on 14th of May. 5) he did not send most of the documents, I provided to him or copies to Anaheim, but only the asylum petition and a couple of documents, so my application referred to the absent documents, which made me look stupid before the US authorities, while I was instructed by him represent myself on my own on the interview. 5.5) he sent some documents which I never had a chance to see before the Anaheim interview, so I could not represent them during the process of interview. 6) he refused to give any of my documents back when I visited him in person on the 8th of July (more than 2 months after the Anaheim interview). I can prove the existance of the documents (I made the notarized copies), first he approved that he had the documents and have forgotten to send them, but promised to return them to me later, now he claims that he never received them from me. He has some of my documents but refuses to return them and offered ridiculous discounts for continuance of my representation in the immigration court.

Answer: File any complaints to his State bar association

Question: Contempt of Court for Visitiation Breach? In a nut shell the mother is refusing to bring the child for visitation as stated on a court order. What is the repercussions of these actions and how does the court see this? She is the custodial parent, she has police reported complaints for calling and threatning the father and cursing the father violently over the phone prior to these problems. She is also living with a convicted felon with the child. Can anything be done to prevent the child from being around this man?

Answer: Well first of all, file contempt of court charges against her. She’s breaking the court order by preventing the father to maintain a positive relationship with their child as well as refusing visitation. Have you shown up on her door step, court order in hand, requesting visitation? If not, call the police and see if they will escort you and take note that she is refusing visitation. I know when we had this happen, the police said they could not help us but could take note that she was refusing. They can’t enforce it, but they can make sure nothing violent takes place and if it does, they’re there as witnesses. Get badge numbers and names. But if you choose this, tread carefully. Sometimes it’s not always the best way to go… As for the convicted felon, you can request that she not have this man anywhere near her child when in her care. Make it a serious issue, mention change of custody if she breaks this and explain it’s in the child’s best interest and safety to not be around this convicted felon. Find out what he did if you can and use that as your basis of argument. Check out this site: www.deltabravo.net for great resources. We use this all the time because it leans more towards fathers’ rights. Click on the articles and read about things relating to your situation and how to go about it. BEST of luck to you guys!!