Removal Of A Minor Child

Question: What is the process in illinois to appeal a judges decision to grant removal from the state of a minor child? The mother of my child (ex-girlfriend) has been granted permission to leave state with our 2 year old son (colorado) on the basis that her quality of life will improve by attending college their and the cost of living is cheaper. I feel the judge has not taken into account my sons quality of life by not having his father around due to the close bond we share. I lived with them the whole first year of his life and never went a day without him. This year i have had overnight visitation from saturday afternoons to sunday afternoons. The judge has said i can have 4-6 week long visits per year. I have read the eckert case wich the illinois supreme court established as criteria to remove a minor child, and beleive the judge has slighted the imortance of me being a part of his life and his quality of life without me. The mother has not looked into cheaper housing here in the chicagoland area or any local schools. Can i appeal her decision in a higher court? Please help my sons psycholgical and emotion stability is at stake, and this will affect him forever. i have made every visit and pay 200 dollars a week in child support and always have paid. the judge says i am an example of what a good father is in the state of illinois so how can she grant this request? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 I have an attorney he said we will file a motion to reconsider or something, would then the appelate court be the next step if that fails?

Answer: You can appeal to the appellate court of Illinois however you will need an attorney and it will be very expensive, an attorney can also file a writ of mandamus or simply mandamus, which means "we command" in Latin, is the name of one of the prerogative writs in the common law, and is issued by a superior court (appellate court) to compel a lower court or a government officer to perform mandatory or purely ministerial duties correctly.[1]Mandamus is a judicial remedy which is in the form of an order from a superior court to any government, subordinate court, corporation or public authority to do or forbear from doing some specific act which that body is obliged under law to do or refrain from doing, as the case may be, and which is in the nature of public duty and in certain cases of a statutory duty.[2] It cannot be issued to compel an authority to do something against statutory provision. Mandamus may be a command to do something or not to do a particular thing. Mandamus is supplemented by legal rights. It must be a judicially enforceable and legally protected right before one suffering a grievance can ask for a mandamus. A person can be said to be aggrieved only when he is denied a legal right by someone who has a legal duty to do something and abstains from doing it, but after all an attorney will be the one to specify what you need to do.~

Question: How do you have your own minor children show up to testify in court? Father is modifying custody from mother having sole to joint custody, fair visitation and removal of alimony. Mother now wants more child support and is against Father having more visitation or joint custody. Children don't understand and has conveyed they want to see their Father more. What is the court procedure in having your children show up to court to testify as a witness? State is Virginia. How do you make sure that ex wife brings children? Can it be in a private setting? Do you actually send your own children a subpoena? How do you serve?

Answer: Have Judge tell custodial parent to being them.

Question: Illinois Child Custody - Move Out of State? FACT: A child may not be removed permanently from the state of Illinois without a court order. The custodial parent must file a removal petition. QUESTIONS: When and how does the Non-custodial parent get notified of this? When and how is the Non-custodial parent given an opportunity to contest the removal of the Child? DETAILS: Divorced 4 years. Mother has Custody. 1 minor Child 16yrs old Mother is moving to another state. Child wants to live with Father and remain in the area due to Family (all immediate and extended family of both parents live in Father's home area), Church, School, ect. Mother informed Father verbally in person she is moving out of state. Mother and Father began negotiating/talking about Child living with Father for @ 4 weeks when Mother stopped communicating and said she will not allow Child to stay with Father.

Answer: FACT: Father needs to STOP talking to mother and file a show cause for contempt immediately to stop the move and an attendent motion to modify the custody order.

Question: Can someone post pictures of your minor children on Facebook without your consent? It was recently brought to my sisters attention that a person has pictures of her children posted on Facebook. The Individual is a " friend " of my sisters ex-husband. My sister has sole legal/physical custody of the children and does not feel it is appropriate for the photos of the children to be posted without her knowledge/ consent. This individual is specifically barred from being alone with the children as per my sisters divorce decree. Can my sister " force" the removal of the pictures ?

Answer: I am running into this myself right now. I have found a website (I googled "remove child facebook" and found this site): http://www.facebook.com/help/contact.php… One problem: they will only remove photos of kids under 13. If your child is over 13, they say they can't do much. I don't know how they get away with that. And the site above states that facebook can disclose YOUR name and other info to the person you are reporting! I think that's crazy. The parent should be allowed to stop photos of their own child from being posted on some nitwit's site without the nitwit knowing their personal info! Also, I have tried 2 TIMES to submit my info via the website above, and it says that it did not go through -- that there was an "error in submission". Yet it doesn't offer any solution or alternative. I know I filled out the form correctly so don't know what the problem is. ARRGGGHHH! But anyway, just thought I'd let you know in case it might work for you. Good luck.

Question: In Oklahoma law, what guidelines would justify the removal of a child on false allegations? I have a friend that has recently gotten involved in a relationship that had a past domestic abuse charge. My friends family has continuously called the Child Protective services on them. I see the couple more everyday than anyone and have witnessed that they have a very loving relationship between them and her son. Child protective services has now removed her son from the home just on minor scratches that he got from playing as children do. Is this legal? Desperate for answers or what legal means could help her case.

Answer: No matter what state she is in the best thing to do would be to get an attorney. She can't take on the government on her own, they have more experience than she does.

Question: How can you remove a person out of your property? A friend of mine was engaged twice to the same woman but the marriage never took place. There are to minor children in this relationship. He pays a substantial amount of involuntary child support. She is destroying the property. How can he get her out of this property? Does he have to wait two years after the filing of her removal of the property? Also, he put her on the deed. Need an answer asap. Thank you

Answer: sorry to say she owns 1/2 he needs to buy her out or she needs to buy him out.

Question: Do you worry about living next to a man like this? Immigration agents arrest alleged sex offender in county Published: Monday, January 25, 2010 9:22 PM CST HORN LAKE –- Immigration agents last week arrested a Mexican national convicted of fondling a minor in DeSoto County. Juan Vera-Serna, 34, was identified by U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement’s (ICE) Office of Detention and Removal Operations officers on May 7 during screening at the Horn Lake Police Department following his arrest for simple assault, simple assault with intent and felony child fondling. During an interview, he provided an alias name to officers. However, fingerprint checks revealed his true identity and the fact that he had been previously removed from the United States in 1994. Since Vera-Serna had previously been removed from the United States, his case was presented to the U. S. Attorney’s Office in Northern Mississippi for criminal prosecution as an illegal reentry. “ICE will continue using its unique immigration authorities to identify and arrest those who present a threat to our community,” said Philip Miller, field office director for ICE’s Office of Detention and Removal in New Orleans. “Criminals in Mississippi should be on notice, because we will find you and bring you to justice.” Vera-Serna’s case was part of Operation Predator, a nationwide ICE initiative to protect children from sexual predators, including those who travel overseas for sex with minors, Internet child pornographers, criminal alien sex offenders, and child sex traffickers. Since Operation Predator was launched in July 2003, ICE agents have arrested almost 12,000 individuals. ICE encourages the public to report suspected child predators and any suspicious activity through its 24-hour toll-free hotline at 1-866-DHS-2ICE. Suspected child sexual exploitation or missing children may be reported to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, an Operation Predator partner, at 1-800-843-5678 or www.cybertipline.com.

Answer: I worry about living near illegals period. I do not trust any illegal, if they would do what they do to their own children to bring them here, they do not have they same morals as I do. This seems to be increasing with the illegal alien population and something seriously needs to be done.

Question: Illegal supporters,how long until we start seeing stories like this in every American city? Ethiopian Review Ethiopian News & Opinion Journal Mexican predator arrested by ICE, placed into deportation proceedings ethiopianreview.com | January 8th, 2010 at 6:49 am MEMPHIS, Tenn. – A illegal alien from Mexico, who had served a prison term for sexual battery of a child, was arrested on Wednesday by officers with U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE), and placed into deportation proceedings. Ignacio McDonald-Lopez, 47, was arrested as a result of the Joint Criminal Alien Removal Taskforce, which focuses on identifying, locating and arresting criminal aliens. McDonald-Lopez pleaded guilty in a Tennessee court in August 2000 to aggravated sexual battery and was later sentenced to 10 years in prison. ICE’s local Fugitive Operations Team arrested McDonald-Lopez Jan. 6 after receiving information from the Board of Probation and Parole regarding his impending release from prison. McDonald-Lopez is currently in ICE custody and is awaiting deportation. Aliens with aggravated felony convictions, such as McDonald-Lopez, who re-enter the United States after having been formally deported, commit a felony punishable by up to 20 years in prison. “ICE will continue using its unique immigration authorities to identify and arrest those who present a threat to our community,” said Philip Miller, field office director for ICE’s Office of Detention and Removal Operations in New Orleans. “Criminals in Tennessee should be on notice, because we will find you and bring you to justice.” This case was part of Operation Predator, which is a nationwide ICE initiative to protect children from sexual predators, including those who travel overseas for sex with minors, Internet child pornographers, criminal alien sex offenders, and child sex traffickers. Since Operation Predator was launched in July 2003, ICE agents have arrested almost 12,000 individuals. ICE encourages the public to report suspected child predators and any suspicious activity through its toll-free hotline at 1-866-DHS-2ICE. This hotline is staffed around the clock by investigators.

Answer: This is going on too much in many of our cities where illegals are present. Yes there are Americans who are predators, but as said a million times, there would be no victims of illegal aliens if our laws were enforced as they should be.

Question: Should Jose Medrano-Zuniga receive amnesty he is Illegal Immigrant Back Again for the 3rd time? 35-year-old Mexican national convicted of second-degree sexual assault in Fort Smith was arrested earlier this week in Calico Rock, according to a news release from the U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement. This is the third documented illegal entry for Jose Medrano-Zuniga, 35, who first illegally entered the United States near Brownsville, Texas, in 1996. In May 2004, Medrano-Zuniga illegally re-entered the United States near Eagle Pass, Texas, according to a news release. On April 6, 2005, the Fort Smith Police Department arrested Medrano-Zuniga and he was charged with rape in connection to having sex with a Fort Smith teenage boy in exchange for money. Medrano-Zuniga paid the boy $40 for sex after giving him and another boy a ride home from school. On July 1, 2005, Medrano-Zuniga pleaded guilty in Sebastian County Circuit Court to a reduced charge of second-degree sexual assault and was sentenced to 180 months in prison. He was arrested Monday at the Calico Rock State Facility by officers assigned to ICE and the Office of Detention and Removal Operations assigned to the Criminal Alien Program, which oversees the screening and identification of criminal aliens, according to the release. Based on his criminal and immigration history, immigration authorities will detain Medrano-Zuniga until he can be removed from the United States to Mexico, according to the release. This case was part of Operation Predator, a nationwide ICE initiative to protect children from sexual predators, including those who travel overseas for sex with minors, Internet child pornographers, criminal immigrant sex offenders, and child sex traffickers. http://www.swtimes.com/articles/2010/02/…

Answer: Since the pro illegals are for child pornography I am sure they would have a problem deporting this guy. The pro illegal agenda are a bunch of perverts and fags.

Question: Should Minor-Attracted Adults accept disability? According to the APA, any adult who is attracted to someone dubbed a minor by society(which changes from based on location) falls under the banner of pedophilia which is on the apa's dsm or list of mental disorders. Some MAA's believe that for us this is a sort of quiet way of accepting our orientation while not publicly accepting it while others believe we are due at least this much based on the way society chooses to label us all child molesters and at times chooses to destroy our lives even though some of our attractions fall well within the range of being legal in most states and countries! So here is my real question. If we all got organized and began a national push for acceptance and a removal of the more socially acceptable aspects of our attractions to be removed from the dsm and began this push by publicly opposing any disability payments or special rights based on a disability on the grounds that we feel it is normal do you think it would have any impact on social acceptance or acceptance by the apa? I think it's a question worth asking but what do you think? Keep in mind that my personal interest lies in girls of 15-16 which is as I was saying legal in many U.S. States and most parts of the world. And just to be clear: My argument is not attempting to promote relationships between adults and anyone unable to give consent. I probably should have mentioned this but before I took it upon myself to begin dating a young lady I would make sure it was acceptable with her parents. Even though I realize that it is considered old-fashioned to the point of being archaic these I feel that it is not only a wonderful idea but is also at least in my case a practical concept predicated by legal need to avoid incarceration, and by the way thank you for mentioning that. I also want to mention how unfortunate it it is to me that I didn't realize who I was until after years of various forms of treatments/therapies and broken hearts not to mention confusion, depression etc. Well at least I finally know and luckily for me society is at least somewhat accepting even if the majority of people don't find it to be proper. In truth I want a family just like anyone else though and I look forward to the day when I can make that happen

Answer: If they accepted homosexuality, why not minor attracted adults ? Gays were ilegals once but now they brag about it . Fight for your rights

Question: I have a 98 Subaru Impreza that I would like to have tuned up and some minor repairs done. Need suggestions.? I am the only owner. I have taken good care of the car. It's got 109,000 miles on it. I had been planning to sell it because we have our third child on the way, but just discovered that our six yr old can go without a carseat. I am thrilled to keep my little car. I know with some care, it'll get me along for another 100,000 miles. Anyway, I have another car I'm selling. I'll probably get $1500-2000 for it. I'd like to put some of that into my Impreza, but I'm wondering what I might be able to get for the money. The things I know I will have done are as follows: New set of tires Alignment The thing that holds the hackback open has to be replaced The flashers (emergency lights) don't work. Seam is torn about 4 inches on outside edge of drivers seat. A full tune up. I'd love an idea on price and if there is anything else that a car with 100,000 miles should get. The power windows are VERY slow to go up and down...could that need a new motor? There are minor dings and scratches on car...would it be worth a paint job and dent removal? I'd really like to drive this car for another 10 years if possible. I don't want to take it to a mechanic without having an idea of what I'm looking at cost wise and what I should and shouldn't bother fixing/repairing. Any thoughts appreciated. Thank you.

Answer: - I'd make sure the emergency lights were fixed asap, if a police officer realized they were not working you could get ticketed. As far as I know this shouldn't be too expensive, it might be something as simple as replacing a fuse or lightbulb, and might be cheaper to do yourself once you determine what the issue is. - I had the same issue with the things holding the hatchback open on an old 1991 subaru, just replace them and it'll work fine, but have them check the lock on the door- all 3 subarus that I've had have had issues with that lock, and it can be really annoying when you have to put the back seat down to put groceries, etc in there. This wasn't too expensive compaired the myraid of other things that can go wrong in any car, and should be able to be done quickly. - if you are going to get new tires make sure you get the alignment- remember that badly aligned tires quickly lose their quality, and you don't want to have to buy another 4 tires. ;) Keep in mind though that some places may offer a free alignment if you buy the tires from them, at the very least it's worth checking out, maybe you can work out a deal since you're spending the big bucks on tires. (and make sure the tires you are getting fit the climate you live in- do you live in an area with a lot of rain, snow, etc?) -Remember to have your mechanic check your belts (such as your timing belt) if you haven't done so recently, if the wrong one breaks at the wrong time it can easily break your engine or cause other (costly) issues. Just make sure you can trust your mechanic, as they are something that they will tell you will need to be replaced just to get extra money from you.

Question: Having intense fear over upcoming laparoscopic gallbladder removal...seeking input from anyone who's had this.? I am scheduled for laparoscopic cholecystectomy next week, and I am petrified. I am a mother of several children, and am 37 years old. I have never had any serious medical issues in my life, nor have I ever undergone any invasive procedures (although I have had anesthesia a few times for minor procedures). I had one acute attack a month ago, with pancreatitis from a stone lodged in the common bile duct. It subsided, and I was released after four days in the hospital, going from NPO to liquids. I tolerated foods the last day, and my levels were normal, but I was pregnant at the time and could not have surgery as I was only 10 weeks. I sadly lost my pregnancy, and decided to have the surgery now so as to avoid a repeat episode of pancreatitis. ...and I am scared beyond belief. I am afraid of dying during surgery. I am afraid of needing an open surgery, although I am asymptomatic at the moment (knock on wood). I am afraid that something will happen to me, taking me away from my children. I know pre-surgery anxiety is common, and yes, I HAVE spoken to my medical professional(s) about this, but it would help more to hear from anyone who has had gallbladder removal surgery. Thanks so much for your time in reading this. I know I am probably irrational with this fear, but I just can't seem to get past it...

Answer: I've had surgery, but it wasn't to remove a gallbladder. You will be okay. Laproscopy is the least invasive type of surgery there is. On the day of the surgery, doctors will give you a sedative and then follow it with general anesthesia. For the laproscope, they will make some small incisions for the scope and do the whole surgery through those small incisions. Once things heal, you won't even have a big scar. You'll be sore when you wake up and you might be sick from the anesthesia, but you won't die. Really and truly. Doctors do these surgeries routinely and they are trained in what to do if anything goes wrong. Find some peace, hug your kids and focus on your life when you're back to health. You'll be fine. I promise.

Question: If Obama didn't want the Feds to enforce laws, would they have nabbed 370 convicted criminal aliens, fugitives? Some people say that Obama doesn't want the Feds to enforce our laws. If this was true, would they have nabbed these 370? This is not about numbers, its about whether they are doing their job or not. For more numbers, visit ICE's website. If you can't stick to the question, please move on! http://www.ice.gov/news/releases/1008/10… ICE arrests 370 convicted criminal aliens, fugitives in enforcement surge throughout 10 Midwestern states CHICAGO - In the largest operation of its kind ever carried out throughout the Midwest, 370 convicted criminal aliens and immigration fugitives have been arrested following a three-day targeted enforcement operation by agents from the U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) Office of Enforcement and Removal Operations (ERO). During the operation, which ended Thursday evening, ICE officers located and arrested 347 aliens with prior criminal convictions including nine gang members and 16 convicted sex offenders. More than 56 % of the criminal aliens taken into custody had prior convictions for serious or violent crimes, such as armed robbery, drug trafficking, child abuse, sexual crimes against minors, aggravated assault, theft and forgery In addition, 51 of the individuals ICE officers took into custody were immigration fugitives, aliens with outstanding orders of deportation who had failed to leave the country. Arrests were made in the following 10 Midwestern states: Illinois, Indiana, Wisconsin, Kansas, Missouri, Michigan, Ohio, Iowa, Minnesota, and Nebraska. This Midwest operation is the latest in a series of similar Cross Check operations around the country. The first Cross Check occurred in December 2009, and ICE has since conducted Cross Check operations in 37 states, including in California, Texas, Virginia and Arizona, as well as regional operations in the Southeast, Northeast and now the Midwest. All together, ICE has arrested 2,064 convicted criminals, fugitives, and aliens who have illegally re-entered the United States after removal around the country. Billy, can you provide a source to backup your claim? If not, then your claim is bogus.

Answer: Those are just bogus talking points created by people that hate the President of the United States. If anything, they should be the ones deported for being un-American.

Question: If the Feds didn't want to enforce immigration laws, would they have arrested 370 convicted criminal aliens...? ......fugitives in enforcement surge throughout 10 Midwestern states? I've heard some people say that now under the Obama Administration, the Feds don't want to enforce our laws, or they've been ordered not to. So if this was true, would they have caught 370 throughout 10 Midwestern states? What say you? http://www.ice.gov/pi/nr/1008/100827chic… ICE arrests 370 convicted criminal aliens, fugitives in enforcement surge throughout 10 Midwestern states CHICAGO - In the largest operation of its kind ever carried out throughout the Midwest, 370 convicted criminal aliens and immigration fugitives have been arrested following a three-day targeted enforcement operation by agents from the U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) Office of Enforcement and Removal Operations (ERO). During the operation, which ended Thursday evening, ICE officers located and arrested 347 aliens with prior criminal convictions including nine gang members and 16 convicted sex offenders. More than 56 % of the criminal aliens taken into custody had prior convictions for serious or violent crimes, such as armed robbery, drug trafficking, child abuse, sexual crimes against minors, aggravated assault, theft and forgery In addition, 51 of the individuals ICE officers took into custody were immigration fugitives, aliens with outstanding orders of deportation who had failed to leave the country. Arrests were made in the following 10 Midwestern states: Illinois, Indiana, Wisconsin, Kansas, Missouri, Michigan, Ohio, Iowa, Minnesota, and Nebraska. This Midwest operation is the latest in a series of similar Cross Check operations around the country. The first Cross Check occurred in December 2009, and ICE has since conducted Cross Check operations in 37 states, including in California, Texas, Virginia and Arizona, as well as regional operations in the Southeast, Northeast and now the Midwest. All together, ICE has arrested 2,064 convicted criminals, fugitives, and aliens who have illegally re-entered the United States after removal around the country. EDIT: it's not a question about numbers, it's a question on wether they are doing their job or not? This is just one of many examples from their website. Please visit the site, and come back to answer before slapping these men/women in the face. ok?

Answer: The Federal Gov't under the Obama Administration is doing a great job. Funny! but people didn't even go and read the website because they think this is the only operation.

Question: Repeat Question : need help a guy legally(?) stole my friends kids? a friend of mine has 4 kids, she lived in white cloud michigan, she decided to move away, her landlord and father of one of her children first stole her student loan check and then kept two of her kids not even the one that is really his. here is how this happened...when she first moved there with her kids she lived with him and his wife, space for all was tight so they remodeled a pole barn and she with two of the kids moved out there, this guy that has been like a dad to these kids for years, so even though she was still on the same property, and they shared the kids because he has been like a dad to them, and even though they switched which kids were with what parental figure...when she decided to leave he decided to try to stop her, he felt she wouldnt move away if he wouldnt let her kids go, she left anyway because the mental and physical abuse had to come to an end...the police were called and they said the kids had to stay...stating it would be unlawful removal of a minor..help ok lets edit this...she did not move to another state, she moved to another house in the same town, she did not want to be around the abuse anymore, and why do people answer questions if they have no idea about it? what is unlawfully removing a minor in michigan? this lady has a very good job, a degree, and had no trouble getting into a new place, this guy just kept her kids is all, how it is legal to keep kids that are not yours by blood or court custody?

Answer: A lot of BS above...the most revealing of which is that your "friend" left her children and moved to another state. 'nuff said. The whole "story" sounds suspect. At the very least, dear ole mom put those kids in some very unhealthy situations. Something stinks here .... and it's not the barn. It doesn't make sense...still. Mom moves in with a man and his wife and lets the couple have 2 kids with them. Then must leave because of "the abuse.".."from a man who was like a dad to the kids." The "like a dad character" (and his wife I assume) then don't let mom have 2 of her kids back (a different 2 then were living with them originally) when she flees from "the abuse." Yet, this woman is smart and capable. Doesn't add up. Sorry. There's something we are not being told.

Question: Should green card holders with criminal records be exempt from deportation, if they have American-born kids? 88,000 US Citizen Children Lost Lawful Immigrant Parent To Deportion: Children Left Behind Suffer Psychological, Behavioral Problems The United States government has deported the lawful immigrant parents of nearly 88,000 citizen children in just a decade, according to a new report released from the University of California, Berkeley, and the University of California, Davis law schools. The report, "In the Child's Best Interest?," finds that forced removal of lawful permanent resident parents (or green card holders) convicted of relatively minor crimes can lead to psychological harm, behavioral changes, and disruptions in the health and education of tens of thousands of citizen children. The report, based primarily on new analysis of data provided by the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, is a joint project of the International Human Rights Law Clinic and the Chief Justice Earl Warren Institute on Race, Ethnicity and Diversity at the University of California, Berkeley, School of Law; and the Immigration Law Clinic at the University of California, Davis, School of Law. Drastic revisions to U.S. immigration laws in 1996 have led to large numbers of deported lawful permanent residents (LPRs) who now make up nearly 10 percent of immigrants deported from the U.S. More than 68 percent of this group is deported for minor crimes, including driving under the influence, simple assault, and non-violent drug offenses. The revised immigration laws now severely restrict the ability of judges to consider the impact of deportation on children. In the Child's Best Interest? recommends restoring judicial discretion in all cases involving the deportation of LPRs with U.S. citizen children. http://www.medilexicon.com/medicalnews.p…

Answer: That is why they cry about breaking up the families. This is utter nonsense and it is being done on purpose. They know full well that the children go with the parents. They are using this as an escuse to open the borders and replace Americans with illegal aliens. They want a cheap work force. We Americans no longer count in this country.

Question: My 2 year old is hitting and pushing at daycare for no reason. What can I do? My son is a sweet and smart boy but for the last 6 months he has been hitting and pushing at daycare for no resason dispite time out's, priviledge removal and lots of talks. If you ask him if we hit he says NO. He knows we don't push either but he is having 3-8 time outs a day. He is about to be asked to leave daycare. I don't know what to do. At home he is the only child so I don't see him hit or push but the reports I get from daycare say he is not improving despite all her efforts. When we do go to friends with kids he has minor pushing/hitting but not to the level he is at daycare and he alwyas get's punished immediatley for it. I "observed" him today and saw him hit 2 times for no reason, she put him in time out, made him apologiize and removed his blankie for 10 minutes, then a 1/2 hour later he did it again. What do I do? I feel like a horrible mother, no one wants their kid kicked out of daycare.

Answer: He probably needs to be in a smaller setting with more attention--that behavior is a cry for attention. He doesn't have words to say he needs more attention at that age. He's not necessarily being "bad"--he's just signaling he's over his head where he is. If you can't afford a nanny, consider looking for a stay at home mother who will watch him and who has a slightly older child who can cope with the hitting--maybe a three year old. In my community, craigslist.org's childcare listings are a good place to find SAHMs that want to watch another child. Good luck.

Question: What do you think about these hospitals in S.Africa up to western standards? S Africa illegal kidney deals tied to Israel Fri Nov 12, 2010 3:3AM Share | Email | Print The biggest health care provider in South Africa has been involved in illegal kidney transplant operations. Netcare, the biggest health care provider in South Africa, has pleaded guilty to charges of performing illegal kidney transplant operations using Israeli-linked organ trafficking syndicate. In return for charges being dropped against Netcare's Chief Executive Richard Friedland, the firm acknowledged in a plea bargain that, "payments must have been made to the donors for their kidneys, and that certain of the kidney donors were minors at the time that their kidneys were removed." The suit follows a seven-year investigation into the illegal operations at St. Augustine's Hospital in Durban in association with an Israeli-linked organ trafficking syndicate. According to reports, while organs had originally been sourced from Israeli citizens, they were later obtained from poor Romanians and Brazilians at a lower cost. According to prosecutors, the Israelis were paid about USD 20,000 for their kidneys, while the Brazilians and Romanians were paid an average of USD 6,000. Other related reports surfaced regarding 25,000 Ukrainian children who had been brought to Israel over the past two years to be used by Israeli medical centers for their "spare parts." Additionally, the Israeli military was accused of stealing the organs of Palestinian prisoners. The illegal operations in South Africa included the removal of organs from five children. The healthcare firm was also forced to admit that, "certain employees participated in these illegalities, and [the hospital] wrongly benefited from the proceeds," as five notable South African physicians were also indicted in the case. The hospital has agreed to pay nearly 8 million rand (USD 1.1 million) in fines. The charges account for 109 operations carried out at the hospital between 2001 and 2003. Seems like their getting good at these transplants . Why should people give away what's theirs for nothing if it has value?

Answer: it happends all over the world i saw a show about people in india selling their organs and women having babies for wealthy westerners homeless get kidnapped their organs removed too , scary doctors all over the world should have an ethical code

Question: Rib cage deformity without scoliosis?? please help Hi, I have a rib cage deformity in which one side of my ribs stick out more than the other due to a rotation that normally occurs in scoliosis (spinal curvature). However, oddly enough, I do not have scoliosis which is what causes the rib rotation. The deformity is very visible, and began to first appear in my early adolescence (age 14 - I'm in my 20's now by the way) and has since progressively worsened. It often causes me a lot of pain. I was given various conflicting answers to my problem. I've been told by some that it cannot be fixed. Other say it's related to posture and leg length (one of my legs is slightly shorter than the other). I've been told that it can be fixed by strengthening my front muscles and wearing a shoe lift. However, nothing seems to have helped me so far. I've done the exercises my chiropractor instructed me to do (on and off due to other responsibilities in life and time constraints), the only time I did them on a consistent basis was for 4 months, which didn't show any results. My chiropractor told me that it would probably take a year to show results; however I believe if this was going to help me it should have shown at least a minor change which it didn't. It seems more likely that my chiropractor was after money. Now I am even more worried about this issue, considering I cannot even give my condition a name, and I believe it may affect my ability to have children, since one of my ovaries has been pushed to the back due to this rotation (it is not easily visible in an ultrasound). It would be very helpful if someone has answers to this problem I have. And even more importantly, is there any way to fix this? By the way, I have been looking into surgery as an option as a last resort (costoplasty - rib removal), and VATS (which is minimally invasive), but I wanted to get a second opinion to ensure I've explored all other options before I make such a big decision as surgery. I have also been considering joining a gym, so that I can strengthen my muscles on a regular basis to see if that offers any changes. Thanks so much for all your help in advance.

Answer: If it were me, I'd avoid any doctor that uses manipulation to treat bone problems. I could be wrong, but it just doesn't make sense that adjustments can treat bones that have grown curved. My guess is that you haven't found the right doctor. In scoliosis, there are some that are more experienced than others. I'd bet that there are super specialists for orthopedics also. So how do you find the doctor you need? Ask the people that know. Contact other orthopedic doctors for references. You might also join a couple of orthopedic Yahoo Groups to see if the members can recommend anyone.

Question: Buyers Market vs. Insulting Owner? We've been approved for a loan ($180,000---wooo!) and now we're doing the house hunting "thing." We meet with our real estate agent tomorrow, and we just have a few questions for the community of Y!A. All of these houses are in Johnson County, Kansas (Kansas City metro). 1) The house we are in love with thus far is listed at $163K. Obviously we will bid for less, but how much less? We want to get the best deal without insulting anyone. 2) This house also has a nearly $200/month HOA fee, one of the downsides. Included is trash, snow removal, lawn mowing, and use of the pool/tennis courts. On the upside, we will have two small children and having someone to mow and remove the snow would be nice, but is it really worth $200/month? We are HOPING for under $140K, because that may just make the $200/month worth it. The house itself is in great shape and will just need minor touchups. Any advice? What would you do? Oh and I should mentioned that we do get a lot of snow here most winters. This winter we had around 2-3 feet of snow, but usually we have around 16 inches annually. And I WILL pick a best answer. I had to briefly go to the hospital after a bout of flu thus ignoring my questions. Sorry.

Answer: First, the seller is not going to pay the HOA fees. It is up to you to decide if the $200 is worth it. For some people, that is less than what they pay for a person to come and do the yard once a week ($80 or so here is SW FL). If you get a lot of snow and have two small kids, who is going to be shoveling that snow? I am sure the two of you want to be inside playing on the cold days, or outside on the warm ones, not worried about doing yard maintenance. Do you have a lawn mower and all the tools already or is that something you would have to buy. If that is your only hangup, just look and see if it is in the budget? Also, think about the house - can you see yourself living here in 10 years? Are their good schools? Good shopping close by? A Real Estate Agent told us to bid about 15-20% under the asking price - and the people took it. When we were selling, we would have taken any decent offer. Offers don't really insult - people like offers. Also, if they have said what their rock-bottom that they would take is - the agent must legally disclose that. Ask how long the house has been on the market. Warranty or As-Is? Would you be putting at least 20% down to cover PMI? Good Luck!