Forced Marriage

Question: Forced Marriage? How can someone consider themselves to be a good and loving parent and then do this to one of thier children. I am western and can just about understand how an arranged marriage may be considered beneficial provided both of the people to be married have met beforehand, got to know each other and decided for themselves that they wish to marry. What I can't accept is a parent forcing a child into a marriage they do not want. How can this ever be considered anything but abuse. Also how can someone marry a person who dosn't want to be with them, probabley hates them and whos life they will probably ruin by marrying them.

Answer: It's a cultural thing... you don't have to accept it, they do. Let them do as they see fit. If you want to change it, you will have to change their entire way of thinking and I doubt you will ever be able to do that.

Question: What are some arranged/forced marriage manga to read? I've read a bunch of mangas and came across this category of manga. It's something about arranged/forced marriage. Like the girl has some problem so she has to marry, to guy forces her to marry him or the parents make her marry the guy. If you can help/answer my question, it would very helpful to me!

Answer: Hadashi de Bara wo Fume Sumi Kitamura is the second eldest in a parentless family of six. One day after her older brother leaves town, her younger brothers and sisters are taken away. The only way for her to get them back is to make a lot of money fast. On her quest to find money, a man offers to give her the money if she marries him... http://myanimelist.net/manga/5272/Hadash… Hanayomesama Wa 16-Sai Tamaki is an only child brought up by her mother alone. But then, her mother passed away due to an illness, and now she has no relatives. When she visited the Ootori family - a family that's totally strange to her - according to her mother's will, the one waiting for her was Shinga, a super rich and hot guy, but also extremely arrogant and horrible. Suddenly, he declares that starting today, she's his wife, and he stole her first kiss?! http://myanimelist.net/manga/11591/Hanay… Hapi Mari Men - they're the root of Takanashi Chiwa's problems, which is why she never had the time nor the opportunity to have a boyfriend in her entire life. A full-time office lady and a part-time hostess, she works night and day to pay off her dad's debt from his failed business. One night at her part-time job, a high-class customer has her fired. Then the next day, she's called in to see the president - whom she had never even seen before in the office - only to find out she's to marry him! But what kind of guy is Mamiya Hokuto anyway? Will he become one of Chiwa's problems, or will he save her from them? And will this marriage even last?! http://myanimelist.net/manga/12888/Hapi_… Forbidden Wedding Hana dreams of falling in love with a guy who is like a prince. She thinks that she will meet her prince by just believing. Finally she gets to meet the prince of her dreams; however, when Hana goes home, she's forced to attend a match-making session! And the prince, Ichiya, appears right before her. Hana believs that this is a destinated match, but little does she know that Ichiya is not your avarage prince--!? http://myanimelist.net/manga/1430/Forbid… Adarushan no Hanayome The small country of Adarshan was conquered by the Castoria Empire. To tie the alliance between the two countries, the victorious shogun, Alexid Deke Adars, was forced into a political marriage with Castoria's sixth imperial princess, Justinia. But she's only 10 years old...! http://myanimelist.net/manga/6030/Adarus… Happy Trouble Wedding 19-year old Narika Yoshikawa lived a poor life with her single mother. But when Narika's mother passed away, she was forced to follow in her mother's lifestyle, which unfortunately, also included her debts. One night, some men come to her door and demand 3 million yen that Narika's mother borrowed from them. She's saved by a strange man who pays the money to the men, and tells Narika that he just "bought her" and if she marries him, he will give her anything she wants! What exactly is going on? http://myanimelist.net/manga/14734/Happy… Harem Lodge Midori lost her mother when she was young and now her father's gone too. But her dad left her with a surprise: a fiancée named Tetsuya. So now, Midori has to live in a good-looking men only apartment (Harem Lodge), which is actually filled with weirdos. What is going to happen to her? Well we just have to wait and see... http://myanimelist.net/manga/3867/Harem_… Otoyomegatari Set on the Silk Road that connected Asia with Europe before the modern times. The story of Amira, a woman skilled in archery and horsemanship, sent to marry Karluk, a boy from another village who is 8 years younger than her. But all is not well, as her village decides to take her back... http://myanimelist.net/manga/11514/Otoyo… Pig Bride Lost in the mountains on a trip to summer camp, eight-year-old Si-Joon fears he’ll never make it out alive. When a strange girl in a pig mask appears before him, he follows her to a house deep in the woods, where he is told that he must marry the pig-faced girl to atone for the sins of their ancestors. Si-Joon’s not too keen on getting married, but that wedding feast looks so delicious! It’s only afterward that he realizes what he’s done and…wakes up. Now in high school, Si-Joon Lee has been dreaming about the pig bride for as long as he can remember. But it’s all just a dream, right? http://myanimelist.net/manga/9614/Pig_Br… Ren'ai Saishuuchiten Although Jyun was arranged to marry Setsuna by her family, she came to love him. Now a married high schooler, Jyun tries her best to be a good wife, but it seems like Setsuna doesn't like her. And what about Jyun's childhood friend Kaname? http://myanimelist.net/manga/5077/Renai_… Say Love A high school boy and a female student spend the night in a hotel after drinking a little much... ... without being able to remember what may have happened between the two of them! Three months later, the female student comes back to the young man telling him she might be...pregnant...?! http://myanimelist.net/manga/4545/Say_Lo… Tail of the Moon Usagi is the granddaughter of the leader of a presitgious ninja village, but she's such a klutz that she's never made it out of the kiddie class. Frustrated with Usagi's lack of progress, her grandfather sends her to marry Lord Hanzo and have lots of ninja babies. But the lord has no interest in her or her childbearing potential! http://myanimelist.net/manga/888/Tail_of… The Bride of the Water God Soah is a girl from a small village. The Water God is upset and so a long drought has been devastating the village people. In order to appease the god, they marry Soah off to him by sacrificing her to the Water God in exchange for rain. The Water God rescues her to his Water Kingdom, where her new life begins. For Soah, this is a story of her faith...her life...her love... http://myanimelist.net/manga/1268/The_Br… Goong Monarchy ended long ago in Korea, but there are still other countries with Kings, Queens, princes and princesses. What if Korea had continued monarchism? What if all the beautiful palaces which are now only historical relics were actually filled with people?! What if the glamorous royal family still maintained the palace customs?! Welcome to a world where Korea still has the royal family living their lives! Only for this one high school girl, Che-Kyung, this is a tragedy, since she has to marry the prince who apparently is a total bastard! http://myanimelist.net/manga/1079/Goong Reimei no Arcana "On that day, I became the enemy's possession," Nakaba thought as she stood there, knowing her destiny was to be married for convenience to keep the peace between her country Senan and Prince Caesar's country, Belquat; two neighbor countries on an island. Between the two countries there has been a constant war for 200 years and Nakaba has become a sacrificial lamb for her country despite the discrimination against her red hair and the sub-person (half-human, half-animal) Loki, who is her only friend and attendant at Caesar's estranged palace. http://myanimelist.net/manga/11896/Reime… Zettai Heiwa Daisakusen The long-lasting war between the Northern and the Southern Kingdoms is unbearable. So the northern Prince Johane and the southern Princess Euda decide to tell everyone they are in love, because their marriage can stop the war. But the truth is they don’t get along at all! http://myanimelist.net/manga/6624/Zettai… Ojousama wa Oyomesama Towako the ojou-sama (daughter of a high class family) will be turning 18 years old soon. When she was very young, she was told that on this 18th birthday she is to marry the young man who was born on the same day, the same time, and the same year as she was. However, during their first meeting, Yuuga was incredibly mean to her! What's Towako to do when her husband-to-be is the shy and cool type of guy? http://myanimelist.net/manga/4192/Ojousa… =)

Question: Why are Social workers failing women facing forced marriage? The laws are in place to help social workers but why a people in the UK forced to marry others, it's the 21st Century! • Protection orders remain unused, say police • Nearly 50% of orders made were for under-18s http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/jan… Sofie social workers? Kitten and Kurds & all peoples who follow that way.

Answer: FAO Kitten - I am a social worker and would like to suggest you learn the difference between 'forced' marriage and 'arranged'. They are certainly not the same thing.

Question: Is anyone out there a child of parents who were forced to marry by an arranged marriage? I am in my forties and still have huge issues with my parents arranged/forced marriage. It has devasted my mom and I now deal with the aftermath everyday.

Answer: Not me but have relatives. Neither they nor their children seem to suffer. But some marriages do not go well, as can be love-marriages. Your parents should not insist in you about this. But if they do; 1- If you have someone you love and want to marry, tell them that you have someone and introduce her/him to them. 2- If you do not have someone, meet with the girl/boy they want you to marry. Who knows may be he/she is the one you are looking for. If you do not like her/him tell the reasons to your parents.

Question: forced marriage? Ive been kinda waiting for my boyfriend to ask me to marry him, but I dont want to press the issue. I feel like he is just taking the ride. Lots of women tell me that I have to stay on him about it, but I dont feel that is my responsibility. If I keep begging him, it will spoil the surprise. Another thing, I am in charge of the finances. how can he get me a ring without me knowing it? How do we do that?

Answer: Woah! Steady on missus! Why not just enjoy your relationship for what it is rather than focusing on when he is/isn't going to pop the question? Don't set yourself up for a fall, he may never propose - then what are you going to do? My advice? Less "life mapping" and more "go with the flow", if it's meant to be it will happen, no amount of hoping or persuasion will twist his arm if he really isn't the marrying kind. If he wants to marry you, I'm sure you'll be the first to know - when the time is right!

Question: PLEASE help:Is anyone out there a child of parents who were forced to marry by an arranged marriage? I am 22 years old and still have huge issues with my parents arranged/forced marriage .hell...i just can't take it anymore....i am unemployed too .Now i can't handle this pressure.i am indian.I am trying to find a in aviation industry . should i go for an arranged marriage or wait?

Answer: hi im indian too. i strongly believe do what u think is right. i was forced to get married when i was 18 but i didn't and i moved out wif my bf instead and i've been wif him for the last six years. in the process i think i've hurt my parents alot and alothough i know i did the right thing by me i still regret hurting them. i could say just sit down and talk to them but chances are they won't understand tell them what's on ur mind anyway. at this day and age you don't have to get married young and if u prefer to be single go for it. get a job see the world and when ur ready to settle down then make that choice. marriage life has a lot of pressure and ur talking in a lot like in laws and babies and all that so do it when ur ready and not when ur parents think ur ready. if ur only gonna do it for them u will regret it and neva truly be happy. it's ur life so respect ur parents but do what u feel is right by u.

Question: When most forced marriage work then why is it illegal is sum places? Most forced marriage of the forced arranged, shotgun weeding and general forcedsort actually work very well. Many people learn to love each other later on or don't bother and have a good life together any way. So why is it illegal in some places? I am aware that sometimes the person may be in love with someone else or hates the person that they are being forced into marrying, but these faults can be worked on after marriage or they might decide to have a open marriage later on. The only bad thing about forced marriage is human trafficking and the domestic abuse found in these marriage. Other than that what are the negative aspects of such marriage that i don't know about

Answer: WOMEN'S LIB!

Question: What does the Bible say about forced marriage? and mail order brides? Where does it specifically mention forced marriage?

Answer: Duteronomy 22:28-29 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

Question: In which countries is forced marriage legal? am doing a presentation on marriage rights and forced marriage. i know that it is illegal in the UK but was wondering where it IS legal. correct answers needed asap :)

Answer: Your problem is going to be defining a forced marriage. Where does an arranged marriage (perfectly legal, happens all the time - even Prince Charles did it) become a forced marriage? Is is where the couple did not meet? Nope, nothing illegal about marrying someone you have never met. Is it where a girl is locked into her room until she agrees to marriage? Nope, it is the imprisonment and/or kidnapping that is illegal. Actually, a forced marriage is invalid not illegal. But one party or the other has to declare that they were forced to marry for the marriage to be annulled. You could argue that an arranged marriage becomes a forced marriage when a girl is too young to be able to make a reasoned choice. Until very recently, girls from wealthy families in every country in the world including the USA and UK were commonly told by their families who they were to marry. Girls were considered chattels to be bought and sold. Often the only women able to marry for love were poor girls and wealthy widows and the poor girls often had to make do with a common law marriage rather than an official contract. Countries where girls commonly marry very young? Parts of Africa, much of the Muslim world and extremist sects in all countries especially America. Child brides are supposed to be illegal in India but still exist.

Question: What movie am I thinking of? Humanoid dinosaurs, forced marriage, love potion, time travel? I can't remember much about it, but I think it saw it on network television a few times maybe ten years ago. The details are super vague in my head. I think it involved time travel and a scene I remember involved a lady who was being forced to marry some creature and being given a love potion beforehand and she has these like humanoid dinosaurs as bridesmaids and she is rescued before the wedding. Any idea?

Answer: This reminds me of "Babes in Toyland" http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0090683/

Question: Should we all applaud UK law that a women whom was held captive for a forced marriage has been released? "'Forced marriage' doctor can return to UK from Bangladesh" http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2008/dec/14… It does stick in my throat - a new labour good law - 1 in 3,600!

Answer: what a great out come. yea!.....ok I 'begrudgingly take my hat off to a new labour law that set free a good decent human being. ,poor woman, i cant help but feel so sorry for her. what a tough call to have to make. BUT she did well to stand up for her parents even after all that......she deserves a hug and a welcome home from the whole country i think.

Question: is the police able to stop a forced underage marriage? 16 year old pregnant girl is being forced by her family into marrying the father of the baby.she is completely against it.who can stop this marriage from happening? this is here in the united states.california to be exact.

Answer: The police can as she is underage to be married without court approval. This should be reported to your nearest police station.

Question: A film i believe it was based on english history about a forced marriage with a young girl and a boy? I want to know the name of a film where it was based(victorians) i think in england maybe somewhere sort of (classic queens and kings film) else and it was a forced marriage between a girl and boy they hated each other at first then they fell in love but because something to do with the family line they are be headed killed or one banished....please help me if u know this film

Answer: Lady Jane (1986) starring Helena Bonham Carter, Cary Elwes, John Wood, Michael Hordern, Jill Bennett, Jane Lapotaire, Patrick Stewart, Joss Ackland IMDb synopsis: The death of King Henry VIII throws his kingdom into chaos because of succession disputes. His weak son Edward, is on his deathbed. Anxious to keep England true to the Reformation, a scheming minister John Dudley marries off his son, Guildford to Lady Jane Grey, whom he places on the throne after Edward dies. At first hostile to each other, Guildford and Jane fall in love. But they cannot withstand the course of power which will lead to their ultimate downfall. TRIVIA: Cary Elwes is related to both Guilford Dudley and Lady Jane Grey on his father's side. Because Dudley and Grey never had children, Elwes is the direct descendant to Dudley and Grey's siblings: Mary Dudley, Guilford's sister, and Katherine Grey, Jane's sister, who was also the wife of Edward Seymour. The film portrays Jane as a dark-eyed, dark-haired girl when in actuality, Lady Jane Grey was very fair with blond hair and light eyes. She was described as very pleasant-looking except for her freckles, which were considered unbecoming on a young lady at the time. In reality, Lady Jane and Guilford Dudley barely knew each other and were not together during their imprisonment. // Obviously, history shouldn't stand in the way of a tragic love story. Here's the movie trailer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQq98K-82… YouTube has the film in 14 parts. Here's Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeT4x27to…

Question: Help:::Is anyone out there a child of parents who were forced to marry by an arranged marriage? I am 22 years old and still have huge issues with my parents arranged/forced marriage .hell...i just can't take it anymore....i am unemployed too .Now i can't handle this pressure.i am indian.I am trying to find a in aviation industry . should i go for an arranged marriage or wait?

Answer: You think you have it bad??? I am 26 years old and they still will not get off my back. I am Indian too. I obviously am waiting mainly because I just cant marry someone I've never really met or hung out with before and secondly because I am still studying and trying to launch my career. Unlike you, I am employed so at least I get away from all that BS for a good 10hrs a day (I do feel for you). I say wait and fight for what you want. They really cant make you do something you dont want to do. If you do go ahead and give in, imagine the dreams you are giving up... dreams that you actually convert into reality!! And you dont even have pointless dreams and goals... trying to get into the aviation industry is pretty big! WAIT!!!

Question: Do you know any plays that deal with arranged or forced marriage? I'm writing an essay around this and would be grateful of any suggestions.

Answer: A Midsummer Night's Dream

Question: Whats the difference between pimping and forced arranged marriage? Whats the difference between pimping and forced arranged marriage? Other then number of people the girl is made to go with. in both cases the girl is made to have sex with somone she does not love or like or know. In both she is controlled. In both their are consequences often violent if she refuses or picks a partner herself

Answer: True, and in many cases of arranged marriages, the girls a young teenagers. At least hookers are usualy above the age of consent.

Question: help:::Is anyone out there a child of parents who were forced to marry by an arranged marriage? I am 22 years old and still have huge issues with my parents arranged/forced marriage .hell...i just can't take it anymore....i am unemployed too .Now i can't handle this pressure.i am indian.I am trying to find a in aviation industry . should i go for an arranged marriage or wait?

Answer: Just because your parents had an arranged marriage doesn't mean that you should. Yes you would be breaking tradition, but personal happiness is more important that tradition. Lots of people have found their own partners in life and they didn't do it through arranged marriages. You just have to take your time in getting to know someone and deciding if they are for you. As for a job, it helps to be independent. Whoever controls your money, controls your destiny. Its just the truth.Its best to be independent in life even if you do find mr. right. Its just good to have peace of mind, knowing that you have your own money.

Question: in afganistan, are women forced into marriage? how does it work? I hear that young woman get forced into marriage with older men. I get it, older man wants something fresh, etc.... But, how come the guys get married when they are old? Do they stay single for a long time or can they marry all the woman they want? how does this thing work in that country?

Answer: Google it.

Question: Tougher law targets forced marriage - why has it taken so long? I would have thought these laws would have been put through a long time ago, why has it taken so long? "New laws to stop women being forced into marriage and to protect those already married against their have come into force. The Forced Marriage (Civil Protection) Act 2007 will give courts the power to stop forced marriages." http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/feedarticle…

Answer: The way women's rights are violated in the name of political correctness and fear of "offending" other cultures is ridiculous and coward. If people want to immigrate into a Western country they have to accept human rights and women's rights, no excuses. By the way, do you think that in their countries of origin people and governments are so understanding of other cultures? I wouldn't like to try to find out myself.

Question: Spiritually speaking; I live in Canada and am being forced into a gay marriage. Who wants me? The ceremony has been set by the government for next week, but I need to decide which place of worship will be forced to perform the ceremony. If possible, I'd like it to be catholic, but anything will satisfy the "one religious gay marriage per person" law.

Answer: I'm not gay, but if that's your real hand: sure. Just name the date and place, and I'll be there.