Seven-year Itch

Question: seven year itch? is that seven years after starting dating? seven years after marriage? or seven years after moving in together?

Answer: It is supposed to be marriage. The thought here is that humans are only meant to be monogomous for about 7 years, enough time to produce two children and care for them enough so that when the man leaves the woman is better able to do her work... Of course this is in a state of hunter gatherer, not in society. Some psychologist came up with this idea years ago, and while it does make sense, theres really no foundation for it in a stable society.

Question: Seven year itch........? My husband and I have been married for seven years and we just had our first and only baby. We both work full time, and we work opposite hours so one of us is always with the baby and we don't have to put her in daycare. Between work and taking care of the baby we don't get alot of alone time.We have a great marriage and are a very happy little family....things are just getting a little bland between my husband and I. Its all work and baby right now. Im wondering how we can spice things up a little bit?

Answer: why don't you have someone watch the baby for a couple of hours either family, close friend or a daycare and DATE. Never forget to date when you're married so you wont feel like you're just working. Do little things to spice it up. Send him a sweet text message while he's at work. Before he goes to work, write him a love letter and put it in his car the night before so he'll see it when he get's in. In the morning before he leaves or whenever he gets home have some soft music playing in the bedroom and have a "yours truly message" waiting for him on the bed (get a small tape recorder and leave him a message so that he can hear your voice). Don't worry, there are all sorts of things you can do and say and that both of you all can say to each other. thank him for being a GREAT father, and how you're so excited to see the relationship between him and the child grow...talk about future plans...send him a rose at work, put a note in lunch bag...think of about 10 songs that remind you of him and make a CD.... Try to schedule some time for the 2 of you all for the sake of your marriage. Think back to why you both got married and one day when the child is asleep list "why I married you" on a paper and then swap sheets and read it to each other. no matter what, both of you have to try at something...communication...share more kisses throughout the day whenever you all see each other. Get use to kissing and holding hands again. Tell him how you miss him and can't wait until you can spend a few hours with him...make a step and I'm sure he will be delighted..

Question: do people come back after seven year itch? My girlfriend left me after 8yrs and it looks like the seven year itch. She is in another relationship already but still calls me to see what is going on in my life.I lover her to death and she knows I want to fix the relationship. Do people go back after leaving someone in this situation.

Answer: Yes, they can get back and then they break up again. It's over. Move on. If she calls, hang up! MILDRED SENT ME

Question: SEVEN Year itch....? Is it the real thing??? How to avoid it...

Answer: If you have the Real thing it will last 7 years, 10 years....A marriage is still growing in the first ten years... How to avoid it??Do not put yourself in compromising situations...

Question: How is the Seven Year Itch movie different from the stage play? And - where can I go to see the stage script? Thanks! Unfortunately that link is to the movie script and I'm asking for the stage script? Thanks!

Answer: Here's the answer from wikipedia. The characters of Elaine (Dolores Rosedale), Marie, and the inner-voices of Sherman and The Girl were dropped; the characters of the Plumber, Miss Finch (Carolyn Jones), the Waitress (Doro Merande), and Kruhulik the janitor (Robert Strauss) were added. Many lines and scenes from the play were cut or re-written because they were deemed indecent by the Hays office. Axelrod and Wilder complained that the film was being made under straitjacketed conditions. This led to a major plot change: in the play, Sherman and The Girl become intimate; in the movie, the romance is all in his head. The footage of Monroe's dress billowing over a subway grate was shot twice: The first take was shot at Manhattan's Lexington Avenue at 52nd Street and the second on a sound stage. The sound stage footage is what made its way into the final film, as the original on-location footage's sound had been rendered useless by the over excited crowd present during filming. Footage of Walter Matthau testing for Sherman is featured in the DVD of the film. Nicolas Roeg's film Insignificance features a character based on Monroe and a re-enactment of the subway/dress scene. Link below is to the Scriptorama posting of the script.

Question: Exactly what exactly is " the seven year itch"? I seem to remember that that expression is connected to one of marylin monroe's movies in regards to the first seven years of marriage or matrimony, believe that she refers to that as the 7 year itch, if that is true i don't understand what "itch or itching" has to do with the first seven years of marriage or matrimony, what? does itch have to do with the price of milk? in other words.

Answer: Whereas it's true that the seven year itch refers to the boredom that often occurs in a marriage after seven years, and the "itch" or urge to look for greener pastures, from a skin point of view, the disorder "scabies" has also been called the seven year itch, because without treatment, the disorder can easily continue to itch for seven or more years.

Question: who took the photo art work for the seven year itch with Marilyn monroe? AKA who took the photos for the cover of the movie, or who took photos of monroe with her dress blowing???

Answer: Matty Zimmerman was the photographer who took those famous shots of Marilyn Monroe in 1954. Hope this helps. Phyllis G.

Question: I have a white dress like the one Marilyn Monroe wore in the seven year itch? I am going on a moonlight cruise can I get away with wearing that beautiful white dress after labor day or is there some etched in stone rule that I cannot.

Answer: Go for it - just don't stand upwind! hehehe

Question: What is the best way to scratch the "seven year itch?"?

Answer: Find a little honey that'll scratch yer post,if you know what I mean....

Question: What does it mean when someone says a boy has the seven year itch?

Answer: "The Seven Year Itch" refers to the amount of time it takes for a man to become bored of his relationship/marriage and to want some "outside action" to "scratch his itch." Clearly, this is not a real condition. It is like a "mid-life crisis" in that it provides an excuse for bad behavior. So if someone has a "seven year itch" it refers to boredom in the main relationship.

Question: Why do people have the seven year itch and what happened after they got over it? The seven year itch is when a spouse after being married for 6 to 7 years decides that things in their life aren't what they expected it to be. Is there anything that can be done, will counseling help?

Answer: Life changes , people take each other for granted and don't work at keeping the relationship fresh.Marriage takes work to keep it fresh and exciting.People get tired and bored .After the newness goes away , so does the passion.Next thing you know someone else is paying attention to you,flirting etc..Back comes the excitement and next thing you know you mess around and your marriage goes to hell.My rule of thumb is this for all married men.If you have kids,find out what your child support payments will be.From that point on every woman you look at or flirt with must be viewed as a revolving credit payment .Example :you have 3 kids and your child support payment would be $1500.00 a month.Now you must look at this woman and say is she worth $1500 a month?If she is go for it,but I will bet you money if you look at her that way you won't stray.That would be your $1500.00 Rule.Just remember this you don't think you will get caught,but you WILL.

Question: The "seven year itch" is here? and is begining to pass but any advise from you long term folks on how to get over an affair she had. It's truely said and done now but how do I cope while getting over it. We are in counsiling and they just say I "have to let it go" but never say how and now I'm despeate obiously I've turned to internet land for a Yahoo answer.

Answer: Fire your counselor if the only answer they can give you to just "let it go". This was a terrible emotional trauma and a severe damage to trust in the marriage. It takes time and lots of effort from both spouses to heal a marriage after this kind of betrayal. Your wife will have to earn that trust and work on her own "why". Something was lacking within her and she looked for outside validation, making very poor choices. An affair can happen at any stage of life. Don't make excuses or give it some label. She always had a choice, if she wasn't happy, she could have done something to work on herself and put that energy into building a stronger self and marriage. Marriages can survive an affair, but it takes lots of effort on both sides to rebuild. You need to confront the problems and work through them, not just past them. Sweep it under the rug and the problems just fester over time. People will tell you to "forgive and forget", but that is not realistic. You cannot just forget. It was real and damage was done. Eventually, you will move towards forgiveness, but that takes time for most also. You have to deal with all the mixed up emotions first.

Question: Where did the saying "The seven year itch", come from"?

Answer: I`m not sure about the saying, but i believe there was a movie called The Seven Year Itch!

Question: Have you experienced the Seven-Year-Itch? Does it really exist? I just got married a month ago - but my husband and I have been together for almost 5 years. Does that mean we'll egt "the itch" in 2 yrs. .......or 7? I can't imagine ever thinking about cheating on him - and he's very loyal to me. Does it happen to everyone? What about you?

Answer: I think that after a few years, you have learned every last NEGATIVE aspect about your spouse.. and you come to a cross roads, where you are evaluating your relationship, because you realize that he/she ISN'T the perfect being you once thought (you know, in those early years of intense lust, haha). So then you start wondering if they are what you really want and you start to wonder what else you could be missing out on. So I think all couples go through this eventually. In my opinion, these thoughts are only natural - not to mention healthy. It is important to evaluate relationships and see if they are healthy and stable and mutually satisfying. Do I think people should cheat? No, but I'm just saying, people SHOULD evaluate their relationships and recognize things that may need to be worked on and also recognize the good things too. Hope this makes sense lol :)

Question: Where did the saying "The Seven Year Itch", come from"?

Answer: It was a movie starring Marilyn Monroe.

Question: is it real married couples experience " the seven year itch" after seven years of their marriage"?

Answer: Not everyone goes through that. It depends on the people and their frame of mind in regard to the relationship. If you are in a committed loving relationship with your spouse - you both are interest in each other and intend to keep it as such then this will likely not occur. I think this occurs when one person is not really committed to the relationship or not happy - either they are not telling the other person or the other person is not listening thus the need to look for some one to just (listen to you or more).

Question: Exactly how would you describe the Seven Year Itch and have you ever had one? Yes, I asked because it just started on TCM.

Answer: 7-Year Itch" that claims a significant proportion of men have extra-marital affairs after seven years of marriage- its about the time we start taking each other for granted, and feel like there may be something more exciting to be had by having a fling. And, I had a 15 yr itch, I suppose, and got it scratched, and then Left the husband- he was not taking care of business:)

Question: Is there such a thing as the seven year Itch?

Answer: I bloody well hope not. I itch for about ten minutes at a time and that's bad enough ! ! ! !

Question: Who directed Seven Year Itch?

Answer: I get the joke but it's a great movie. Billy Wilder. George Axelrod and Billy Wilder wrote the original script.(No book). Mmm Marilyn was in it. btw The idea for that famous scene of her skirt being blown up by the warm subway airvent was taken from real life. When the Flatiron building (Fuller Building) in Manhattan was built in 1902 it created a 'wind tunnel' effect in the street and there are photos of womens skirts being lifted as they walked past the new building. The idea was used in an early photograph of a girl standing over a airvent (Can't find it) but see http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/hosiery-thats-pretty-lingerie-thats-swell-vintage-postcard.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/2009/07/ephemera-really-blows-my-skirt-up/&usg=__rQJrESAsleMJ2jwnE6lQ-Ir_DB4=&h=1029&w=1627&sz=356&hl=en&start=226&zoom=1&tbnid=fdM5OvJbEWSm1M:&tbnh=116&tbnw=184&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dwomens%2Bskirts%2Band%2Bthe%2Bflatiron%2Bbuilding%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DG%26biw%3D1024%26bih%3D587%26tbs%3Disch:10%2C6450&um=1&itbs=1&iact=rc&dur=574&ei=sMDqTJWXH5C24AbS2Pz4Ag&oei=fMDqTImJLca2hAfVypUP&esq=13&page=15&ndsp=15&ved=1t:429,r:2,s:226&tx=102&ty=70&biw=1024&bih=587

Question: Do you believe in the seven year itch? Just wondering cause im going through a not so good time with my boyfriend and well it has been 7 years! we have 2 kids together and live together as far as marriage I dont care for it ..

Answer: it itches every year, its just around year 7 it gets harder to ignore.