Unconditional Love

Question: unconditional love? do you believe that unconditional love exists between two people? i had always thought that a truly unconditional love could only exist between a parent and child. like no matter what happens between you and the person you're with that you will love them no matter what. what do you think?

Answer: Ahhh unconditional love. It comes with much work, but so does any relationship. If you can give unconditional love, then you give much more than you think, & it's worth much more than diamonds or gold. It shows great characture, strength, courage to be able to love someone unconditionally. As well as a ton more adjectives!

Question: Unconditional love? Many christians tell me that god has an unconditional love for us as his children. I understand that, in a father's role, god could be required to punish his children. But how many parents, if their kids chose to take a different path, would throw their children into a lake of fire? How many parents would condemn their kids to an eternity of torture just because their children didn't "follow in their footsteps"?

Answer: No human parent would do that. I guess only deities are allowed to behave immorally. So why do some god-believers think morals come from deities?

Question: What does unconditional love mean in a marriage? What does unconditional love mean in a marriage? And does it have an expiration date? How many of you have examples of unconditional love in your marriages?

Answer: I personally think it means:I feel I have it first off,but I think no matter all the bullshit you go through fighting,hating each other in the end you know you will miss the person you're with after you leave or divorce.And you love that person and are glad you can spend the rest of your life with he or she.And no other person can compare to them,you feel like your soul is complete and torn when not together.(I wanna make you smile Whenever your sad Carry you around when your artherisits is sad oh all I wanna do is grow old with you) wedding singer song :-)

Question: What happens to unconditional love in the event of a full transformation of the soul? Would unconditional love survive, even if its object were changed so completely, that it were hardly recognizable as what it was in the beginning?

Answer: Unconditional love means love under any circumstance so yes it is still unconditional love

Question: What happened to good old fashioned unconditional dog wagging Love? It seems people have gotten too into themselves and really don't know what unconditional love is. A hug is a hug and a kiss on the cheek means you care. Has society put too much pressure on people to comform to social acceptabilities that uncontional love has become to conditional?

Answer: *wag* *lick* *patter patter*

Question: How do you maintain unconditional love for a spouse? Unconditional love-you marry them aware of their faults and sure that you are able to deal with it for the long run, but as time goes by their self centered behaviour and offensive language grates and you become resentful. How do you get past this when opting out is not an option?

Answer: If you can't get him out of your mind and you just miss him when ever he is away, then you really love him unconditionally. You accept all his flaws, but you emphasize the positive in him and cultivate the good in your marriage. Otherwise, you need to make some hard personal choices and consciously build your own self-esteem while maintaining your relationship with him. Always keep communications line open with your spouse. To do otherwise will work against you.

Question: How can I encourage and grow the emotion of unconditional love? I am interested in nurturing the emotion of unconditional love... I'm not asking about romantic love in this question. Thanks very much for any help. Please note that I do not believe in a God or any religions, so answers relating specifically to 'God' would not be helpful to me, although i'm always interested in ideas and other people's perspectives.

Answer: Hi Zag! I think that it all starts with unconditional acceptance of other people as they are, for what they truly are. And that starts with unconditionally accepting yourself as you truly are, whatever you happen to be at the moment. My therapist is showing me her unconditional acceptance for one hour each week, and for the first time in my life I'm experiencing its transforming power. If you can do that, completely accept yourself unconditionally, with all your perceived shortcomings and imperfections, I think you'll be on your way to accepting others, and then on to unconditional loving. That's just my guess, or course, as I'm far from it. It's not an easy task for me, I've discovered. However, you sound like you're already moving in the right direction. And I think you've gotten some wise advice in these answers. I suspect myself that some religious people, especially Buddhists, have a lot to offer us on unconditional acceptance, even though I am not a follower of any religion, nor do I myself believe in God. Good Luck, and please wish me good luck as well!

Question: Which is the correct meaning for unconditional love? 1 Term used to define the love between family relations regardless of their actions, circumstances or any conditions- in other words, to love them completely. OR 2 Loving someone through their flaws and all. Accepting and embracing each others differences and compromising with their offerings. Are people actually aware of love when it is unconditional? Are they aware of its presence and pre-existence even if they think otherwise? If its unconditional, does that mean it is a subconscious feeling? Is it always there and will it always remain no matter what.

Answer: I would go with 1 because I think number 2 IS conditional because of the nature of compromising. But I don't think we notice unconditional love enough because we notice when things are wrong more. If everything went great and everyone was loved....then there isn't a reason to notice anything. IDK....but I tend to think it's more of a chemical reaction and we are slaves to it.

Question: How can you have unconditional love without attachment? A love of a parent for her naughty little child. The love for life. These are examples of unconditional love, but they also involve a great degree of attachment...if the child or the life disappeared, it would make us sad! The love we have for people we don't really know is true but without attachment, though conditional on them being nice to us. So is unconditional love possible without attachment?

Answer: the key is DETACHMENT. and yes a parent can have healthy detachment with a child and a lover can have healthy detachment with her/his love. when we are enmeshed or worse yet - codependent we rely on the other person/people for our feelings. then there is conditional love. the principles of ALANON really teach this the best if someone truly applies the principles. being in the moment and letting go of results and knowing that one has truly no control over another... these are the important things!

Question: What does unconditional love mean? Do Christians unconditionally have to love atheists then? Unconditional love means to me that you love and respect someone regardless of their religion, sexual orientation etc. I also thought that this is an Integral part of the Christian religion? Why do I sometimes get the feeling that there is no love on this forum?

Answer: It is a part of Christianity. Unfortunately, men have taken verses in their book out of proportion, and used their "logic" to justify hatred and intolerance of others. Remember, Ghandi said that he really liked Christ. But he didn't like Christians. "They act nothing like their Christ," he said.

Question: Do you really believe in unconditional love in a marriage? Most relationships start in an unconditional way but as you get to know your partner in marriage things change. A love for your own child is unconditional for most of us. Ask yourself - do you love you partner like your own child?

Answer: I don't believe in unconditional love in a marriage...that would mean that if my husband came home and beat me to within an inch of my life I'D STILL HAVE TO LOVE HIM??????Not likely. Love for my children however is completely unconditional. There is nothing any one of them could do that would make me stop loving them. Couples in a marriage should always be making sure they are worthy of the love and respect from their partner.

Question: What is your definition of unconditional love? There are so many types of 'love' but how would you truely define 'unconditional' love?

Answer: When you love someone no matter what .

Question: Spiritually speaking; What is Unconditional Love and how does it effect ones decisions? I see a lot of discussion about you should do this or you should do that. It makes me wonder how many see the world from Unconditional love. I expect few answers for those that see the world with Unconditional love, I expect a lot that have no Idea and use logic. I hope I am wrong.

Answer: Thats an easy one. Unconditional love is true love that does not require anything else in return. When someone has unconditional love for his wife then he loves his wife always no matter how annoying she might be occasionally. It is love without a condition. That is completely forgiving. Love for loves sake. I think thats a good enough definition. It affects ones decisions because it sets ones values. It is where the sense of duty comes from and the sense of right and wrong comes from god.

Question: Unconditional LOVE? still love my ex and its been 10 months already since we broke up see the problem is i broke his heart twice becuase i didnt feel nothing 2nd time he started acting diffrent and changed and now i love him still so much and i know he loves me to its just that i will never know what will happen if we dont try something with our love or just keep going on loveing each other forever and remember im only in high school but no matter what i do or who i go out with hes the guy that i always compare to the others help me do i tell him that i want him back and we should give it a 3rd chance??

Answer: Ok hold up, did you break up with him, or him with you? If he's broken it off twice, you're just asking for a beating by going back for a 3rd time. If you've broken it off with him twice, you're only messing with his head and to be frank, a total jerk to try to goad him into a 3rd time. Let him go...you're only in high school, you have plenty of time yet

Question: How does you define unconditional love? Does it differ from how it is presented in the bible? I ask because I was told that "Unconditional love means calling someone out when that person tells lies" I define unconditional love as compassion.

Answer: A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it. After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing. Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do. I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time. I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do. If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking. I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress. Love and blessings Your brother Don

Question: Why do some people think Childfree people will never experience unconditional love? I've read about this on yahoo answers and heard people talking about this in waking life and I don't get it. Most people get unconditional love from their loved ones. So why do some people say childfree people don't experience it?

Answer: Imagine that love is the base need for every living creature. So, naturally, you can love anything from rocks to people, and from dogs to children. They all need love, and then love will come back to you, after you give it. So, when some people say a thing like "unconditioned bla bla can be experienced only by those with children like US" they only say that they themselves cannot love unless they have a baby, a personal baby of their own. Kind of limited state of being. In which passesiveness plays a key role. Not quite loving if you see it this way. I don't say the parent-child relationship it's not special. But the base of that relationship is the base, or should be the base of every other relationship. No discrimination here. Because love has to circulate and needs to circulate. Hope I helped.

Question: What does unconditional love mean when it comes to your dog? When people say 'my dog gives me unconditional love', what does this mean?

Answer: Ladies and gentlemen...please help me understand one thing....A dog is born with a certain temperament, certain drives and that is it, period. As an animal it is not capable of concepts other then what is needed for survival and procreation. Its brain cannot understand nor conceptualize the term "love", it is impossible. So, when everyone says that "my dog loves me unconditionally", they are simply engaging in wishful thinking, that is it. The dog is not capable of understanding love, never mind concepts as complicated as conditional and unconditional. If that dog is truly "loving" you, is it love or a need for having its fundamental needs and drives met? Let's argue for a moment that a dog understand "love" as we humans do...he is still incapable of understanding ideas such as conditional and unconditional, therefore his "love" is not being given out of choice, it is just a part of his genetic make up, he does it because he has no choice. Is that type of love the love you want? The type that satisfies you seeing how it is not a love made out of choice, but out of a genetic drive? For me, I would rather have a human love me unconditionally because I know that said human took the time to evaluate those feelings and made a CONSCIOUS decision as to love me or not, that human had a choice, the dog, if capable of love, did not have any choice at all, it was simply programmed that way by nature. How exciting that must be,how fulfilling, to be loved and accepted by an animal that has no other choice but to accept you in his life as a means to survive....think about it, I did!! Hope I helped.

Question: Do you believe parents should have unconditional love for their children? Or are there some things a parent just can't accept? I'm not referring to murder or suicide, but things such as who their child has decided to date, what the child plans on doing with their life, if he/she is on drugs, etc. Should a parent always possess unconditional love and support for their children? I'd like to get some parents' answers on this.

Answer: I think unconditional love is a must. You may not agree as to decisions that your children make make, but as a parent I believe I would always have unconditional love and support for my child no matter what. If there was something I did not agree with I think that you could offer help and support in trying to change that if it were something wrong!

Question: What is one scripture passage on unconditional love? I need word for word for word from a passage not what unconditional love is.

Answer: The bible mandates child abuse. Deuteronomy 21:18-21 "If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son... Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city... And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die..." 23:2 "A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to his tenth generation..." II Kings 2:23,24 "And as [Elijah] was going up by the way, there came forth little children [who] and said unto him, 'Go up, thou bald head'... And he... cursed them in the name of the Lord. And there came forth two she bears out of the wood, and tare forty and two children of them." Proverbs 20:30 "The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly." 19:18 "Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying." 22:15 "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." 23:13-14 "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell." 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." 29:15,17 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.... Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest." Hebrews 12:6-8 "For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.... But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons." 12:11 "Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." Psalm 137:9 "Happy shall he be, that taketh and dasheth thy little ones against the stones."

Question: Unconditional love can only exist between a parent and a child? Do you agree? Most relationships are convenience relationships. I give you something, you give me something back in return. Whether it's company(friends), a sense of security(marriage partner), affection. Endless unconditional love, care and affection, can only exist between a parent and a child. the rest is just because humans cannot live by themselves and in order for society to function well, relationships are necessary.

Answer: I can understand where you are coming from but i do not agree. I have seen and felt unconditional love outside that of a parent and a child and I have seen how a even a parent won't have unconditional love for a child. When parents get divorced, regardless of how much pain they are going to put the kid through, that is not unconditional love. Real love would be sucking it up, dealing with the marriage and finding a way to make it better so that you give your kid the best life possible. Unconditional love with about caring for the other person more than you care for yourself and divorce is (typically at least) selfish. And yes, the purpose of relationships is for company and security and affection but that doesn't mean that relationships are a convience thing. You want those things because of love, because you know that's what the other person craves from you because of love. Unconditional love is sticking through it and making the concious choice to love no matter what and I have seen that in many relationships that are not parent and child.