World Marriage Day

Question: Has the modern day world had a effect on christians' views on sex before marriage? Do you think that the christian view of sex before marriage has changed since jesus' time? For example I know that back then, sex was seen as a way to confirm a marriage therefore if you had sex with someone without being technically married, people would see that as you cheating on your future husband or wife it you get my drift. This meant that people would be scared to have sex outside of marriage because it would be seen as adultery, which is breaking a comandment. However now, sex is not seen as a way of confirming marriage. I know just this reason doesnt change the whole christian view on sex, there's still lots of negative thoughts in that direction, but has the modern day world had a effect on how serious us christians feel towards sex before marriage? (I don't mean that it's alright to sleep around, but if you really care about someone before marriage, would a christian consider sex? Maybe you've been in that situation. So you know, im a christian myself.

Answer: Orthodox Christian doctrine has not changed. Sex is for marriage. Outside of marriage it is fornication/adultery. I think it is probably true, sadly, that there are more Christians who compromise this teaching, both through words and actions. One comes across sincere people who say 'I really love this person so it must be ok'. This is to ognore God's teaching. The Bible does not teach that if you love someone it's ok to have sex. It says that sex is a great gift for people who've chosen to commit in marriage. But people are fallible. Trust in the Word of God, and obey the maker's instructions. Otherwise things end up not working so well!

Question: What would you do if tomorrow (God forbid) was the last day of the world? I would: tell all the people who i like that i like them, make out with the guy i like right now, all day lol, forget marriage no time hehe, go on a date (never been on one) travel across the world and see everything i wanted see with the one i love. all in one day.....i don't think that's all possible but i would try and do that! what about you????

Answer: Spend it with my family and loved ones.

Question: Now a day's ....In this modern world....After a 5 year marriage !? Now a day's....In this modern world...after a 5 year marriage. Should a clp feel left out if all around them ..."more experienced "..cpls are swinging. Should they stand their ground or should they join the crowd all around them ?

Answer: What a couple does or does not engage in should be left up to them and their comfort zone. If they want to swing, they should - but they should do it responsibly. If they choose to remain monogamous, that's cool too. I have a hard time believing that more people swing now than in the 60's - but I suppose it's possible. I think maybe that people are not quite as secretive about it "now a days". If one person wants to join in the reindeer games and the partner doesn't, what will you do?

Question: Is the marriage system in the modern world all "mess up"? In the past, people looked at marriage differently. Like if you get married to a person,you will have to be devoted and divorce shouldn't be a common thing. But in the modern world, people this days look at marriage like is a "no big deal". Divorce or anything like that ,even cheating, is just something so common and we heard it almost anywhere. I would like to say do you think people this days "mess up" the marriage system that marriage have become pointless?

Answer: The "marriage system" isn't messed up, but many of the people just don't follow the "system". The system is: Meet someone you like. Get to know them in a group (non threatening) environment. If things go well, date them If things continue to go well, date them exclusively for some time If things continue to go well, get engaged and stay engaged for several years If there are no major red flags during this period, set a date for the wedding If during the preparation for the wedding (very stressful usually) still no MAJOR red flags, get married. After a couple of years of getting used to each others very personal habits, have children. This way you both REALLY know each other well. The modern way: Meet Move in together (Quite often) have a baby or two Argue due to lack of money due to one wage and lack of any planning Get married (why?) or just keep living together Find out things aren't as rosy as you thought (because you didn't spend the time to REALLY get to know each other) Cheat or Divorce or move out (depending on your situation) Blame the institution of marriage, but not yourself for breaking the rules of the "system". Pay maintenance for many years to come; have difficulty getting a new partner because you have one or more children.... WHY? WHY? WHY? Why don't people stop, look and listen? None of it is rocket science. It's all been done before. It's not that hard......just needs a bit of common sense and lack of "me before you".

Question: How many marriages happen per day all around the world? Just wanted to know....

Answer: About 2000 or more. But there are far more divorces than marriages in this day and age.

Question: how important is marriage in to-days world?do good marriages make our society healthier? they ethos good society, begins with a good family, therefore it is important marriges to do well in keeping a society healthy ,

Answer: MARRIAGE IS VERY IMPORTANT IN ONES LIFE. IT MAKES A PERSON A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING.

Question: Is 12/21/2012 the day the Supreme Court will force us to accept homosex marriage and end the world? (((Boris))) (((Avocado))) (((Ann))) (((Mia))) Can we all feel the love here tonight? I do.

Answer: We should be so lucky. (((Olga)))

Question: What can you get the best guy in the world for Valentines Day? We've been together for about 16 months, and i'm crazy about him. He's 16 and i'm 17. My main issue is, i've pretty much given him all of the classics... i've made him cookies, i've made him a scrapbook, I've given him several pictures of us in frames, T-shirts, and pretty much everything that i've seen suggested to other people. He's a videogame junkie, but pretty much gets every game as soon as it comes out. As much fun as naughty gifts may be, we're both saving that for marriage, so dont bother trying to suggest that. He's a very sweet guy, and I really want to show him how much he means to me. Usually i'm really good with gifts, but i've never met someone as difficult to buy for as him. Help? Thank you! :) If it helps, I can add a few more details about him. We're both very involved in theatre, he's a very proud cajun (lol), and he usually tends to like current rock music... you know, the stuff that you listen to and it hurts your head? lol. Thanks again!

Answer: Try asking him what he wants ... because you may actually be able to 'give that to him' and that is 'the best thing' for the 'best guy in the world' whether it's tickets to a sport game that you really don't like (even though you'll go, and 'enjoy it' with him, or to a play or a musical ... or ,maybe all he really wants it for you to spend some 'alone time' with him (and that doesn't have to be 'naughty' either).

Question: What's your sign or venus and what's your view on marriage in today's world? Does anyone else feel extremely hesitant to ever get married? It seems like marriage is a lot less sacred these days with divorce and cheating seeming so common. I would love to get married one day but honestly it really scares me. I never want to go through a divorce. Anyone else agree or disagree that marriage has lost it's value and importance? I'm a Taurus.

Answer: I think it's better to get out of a marriage that is not working than to stay in it and **** up with your emotional security. I think what people need to do BEFORE they marry is to decide if that is what they really want and if they are ready to get married to that person. I also think they should ponder, "Can I live with this person? Can I cooperate with this person? Can I still remain an individual and not lose myself with this marriage? Can I imagine myself with him or her with the rest of my life?" Things like that. I do not think marriage is sacred to begin with, as i am not religious. But I do think if a couple can remain together in a marriage and cooperate/work things out, then I think it's a great thing. I think it's a great thing for a couple to work as a team and to love each other. I think people marry too fast. They think they are with "the one" when they aren't. There is no such thing as "the one." You just have some men/women whom you are compatible with and others you are not. I think people go too much for chemistry instead of compatibility. Compatibility is MORE IMPORTANT than chemistry in marriage. Wayyy too many people are obsessed with chemistry and I sometimes wonder if I am the only woman who uses her head with regards to romance. Sagittarius sun in the 9th Leo moon in the 6th Scorpio Venus in the 8th Venus SEXTILE Saturn -- > Big one.

Question: How tough is marriage and relationships? Ok, I'm a very negative person when it comes to relationships. I see women as being master manipulators with their husbands, too many want children (I'm the opposite). Women often try to change men. Women are way stuck up on a man's appearance, and most are gold diggers. I'm not gay and never will be. I'll just have to deal with what I hate in this world. Why is marriage and relationships tough in this day and time? Why do women get away with so much during marriage and after the divorce? Why are they so complicated to get along with?

Answer: You just haven't met the right woman for you. I'm having the same problem as you are. I don't want children and most of the men I've been with want them. I'm not a manipulator, I'm pretty independent and I don't need to manipulate a man to get what I want. I don't want my man to be less than average (Appearance wise) but I'm not looking for more than average.... I'm not a gold digger because I make such a good living and I've never asked a man to buy me anything. So, you just haven't met the right person (Nor did I).

Question: What is marriage all about anyway in this modern day society? This fast pace world of visual and audio as well as capitalist materialism has changed the human focus on marriage. I think that we are now marrying for what we can get out of marriage and not what we can add to it. We certainly are not marrying for procreation because for many of us, we can do that as singles. We are not marrying for love because often love withers on the vine. We are not marrying to grow old with a precious partner because once those good looks are gone then we seek out a newer, sexier model. We will marry for money in a heartbeat and we do love our live-in trophys.

Answer: I have to agree with you on what you have said here. Today's society have made a mockery and a joke of what marriage should be all about. Today people are selfish and only get married for selfish reasons and not the right reasons. Love however does not always wither on the vine. Love can last forever if you choose to work at it and make it last no matter what! Love is a choice and you can either choose to care for and nourish it and keep it blooming or you can ignore love and not care for it and let it wither and die. You are right most people today do not get married to grow old with their wonderful partner or spouse but i choose to grow old with my husband and love him till death do we part. Looks fade with time it is what is inside that will last and shine through for ever. People may want to seek out a younger sexier model but the ones doing the seeking are not so good looking anymore either and they are fading in outward looks just like the one they dont want to be with anymore. Marriage today should be based on the principles it always has been. Dont vows made before God mean anything anymore? We vow before God to love honor and cherish the other person through sickness and in health. forsaking all others till death do we part NO MATTER WHAT!!!! These are vows made before Almighty God and even if we choose to break thm and not keep them God sees all and knows all and we will pay for it if we choose to break and not keep our vows. Marriage is a commitment and should not be entered into lightly. If you CANT say I do and mean it then don't marry in the first place!

Question: In a mathematical world would gay marriage be legal?? I had math the other day and we were discussing how you cant add 2x+2y because they have different variables but you could do 2x=2x because they are "like" terms so i was just wondering if we were to live in a world thats stricktly based on math would we all be gay??

Answer: no it would not as it is not logical

Question: What happened to arranged marriages in the western world? I know that people choose who they want to marry. Also, I know that in the western world, less people are getting married and a lot of people who do get married get divorced. So I was wondering the lack of arranged marriages these days means people that try and be with the perfect wife or husband which is unrealistic. Also because of this, people believe that they can upgrade on their husbands or wives. And because of this, people look too much into other people's appearances and lifestyle I think that the way arranged marriages are perceived is not correct Does anybody else agree?

Answer: No.

Question: What's your view on marriage in today's world? ? Does anyone else feel extremely hesitant to ever get married? It seems like marriage is a lot less sacred these days with divorce and cheating seeming so common. I would love to get married one day but honestly it really scares me...I never want to go through a divorce. Anyone else agree or disagree that marriage has lost it's value and importance?

Answer: If you believe that marriage has value and is important, you have no reason to feel hesitant to get married as long as you find a partner who believes the same things.

Question: seeing that the world will become really evil in the last days, why arent christians happy about gay marriage? gay marriage=the end of the world btw ...did you know that "chain stores" was a sign of the end times back in the 1930s ? about 10 years ago, my mother told me the "government clock" was a sign of the end of the world. this is what her pastor did a sermon on. (you know, those self-setting clocks that pick up the time signal from the local PBS station)

Answer: Christians don't seem to be too happy about anything gay people do or don't do or think of doing. Christians got the ' hate the sin' part down pat, but seem to be having trouble with the 'love the sinner' part

Question: Will all races be wiped out one day? with interracial marriage at an all time high? Will we become a world of mix races? I'm glad to see so many positive reponses to this issue. I will also be glad at the day racism ceases to exist.

Answer: My family is certainly on the way, I'm Australian of Irish decent, my husband of Austrian descent, my daughter in law of Aboriginal descent, 1 son in law of Irish decent, the other of Dutch descent, 1 sister in law italian descent, and another Greek descent....definitely no room for racism

Question: How do I restore some romance and passion in my marriage? Married 10 years, together 7 before that. Wife seems bored and it feels like we are in a rut. What are some little things or big things that I can do to show her how much I still love her and put some romance and passion back in to our marriage? She is my world and my soulmate and I want to make every day happy for her.

Answer: When was the last time you told her she is your world and soul mate? If you haven't in a while then I have a tough project for you. Write her a letter. You may have to rewrite it 5 or 6 times to get it right. Tell her how much you love her. Tell her how important she is to you. Tell her exactly how she is your world. Tell her what she means to you. Is it going to sound mushy? It better! When your almost finished find a an semi expensive Italian restaurant and make reservations. You'll want two candles on the table. Preselect wines. Before dinner, during dinner and a nice after dinner liqueur. The restaurant can help you with this Give her the letter after dinner.And from now on don't stop letting her hear how you feel. P.S. Go to a marriage encounter weekend.

Question: Is this accurate statement regarding marriage being half deen? A couple is typically (but not always) two young people in early 20s who have not yet lived on their own or supported a family. They face for first time realities in their marriage of: -- personality conflicts and communication problems they will have with one another -- stress from conflicts with other family members/in-laws -- stress from employment (stress from the job but also from loss of job) -- paying all the bills for providing food, shelter, clothing, transportation, health care, zakat, and recreation -- having children and all the extra expenses, and all the extra stress of taking care of babies and toddlers and then children and then teenagers (!) -- miscellaneous The partners in the marriage are to help in the calming of worries of the other one of all the above stress factors. To not worry about things, they are supposed to train each other by quoting Qur'an and appropriate hadith and act in other loving ways in their communication with one another. Neither partner at first will have experience in doing this unless they learned it from their parents and practiced the skill with siblings. Given the way the world is today and given prophecy that every home would have family strife, most people coming into marriage these days (let alone in the past) are not going to have these skills. The partners have to train one another in the skills. When one partner has a stress crisis, the other one works to calm with ayat and hadith. Both of them do this for one another. In this way, they re-inforce each other in becoming full Muslims who put their trust in Allah for the outcomes. Your deen is completed not simply because you are married, but because through the marriage you become truer Muslims by following Allah's advice in the scriptures and you put into practice becoming people who can resolve conflcits for peaceful and mutually beneficial outcomes that make both sides happy. Is that accurate statment? Are some parts right and not others? BQ: Anyone ever had a relationship or know anyone who has that the two partners did this for one another?

Answer: I believe that you do become a stronger believer if your spouse is. I was newer to Islam when I married my current husband. My first husband, also a Muslim, was an evil man who abused me and did not follow Islam. I was ignorant and did not know my rights, so I assumed like many other westerners, that this was the norm. My second husband (my current husband) met me almost a year after my divorce. He has taught me so many things like how to pray, and everything thing else. He made me a better person and a stronger Muslim. He has taught me so much and I don't feel I can ever repay him for it. My husband and I study Islam together. Sometimes I find evidence that goes against something he always thought was the truth (for example, music. He always listened to it, but I found strong evidence from hadiths to support that it is haram) and we agreed to implement it in our lives. We feed off of each other's knowledge to increase our imaan and deen. That is how a marriage should be.

Question: My family background influence my idea of marriage? My mother is unhappy every day. She has always been an angry person, whereas my father is more of a passive man. To be honest, I have never really seen my mother happy before. It seems that no matter what the entire family did, it's never enough for her, and she's constantly angry over everything. My father is also unable to tolerate her anymore and ended up snapping at her. I was wondering, why do many people stay in an unhappy marriage? Are my parents gonna be unhappy forever until the day they left this world? Is this the true definition of marriage? I don't feel sad about my family background, but I feel sad for my parents because they are both unhappy. Nowadays, when I think about marriage, it makes me feel scared, I don't wanna end up marrying to the wrong person and feeling unhappy till the day I die. It's a very scary feeling. I would appreciate some uplifting words for my situation. Thanks!

Answer: If you think about it....MOM WOULD NOT BE A HAPPY SINGLE PERSON EITHER. That is just her. You are you and if you are determined to be a happy person, choose a mate well and not just because of the butterflies he renders, you can be a happy bride for all your adult life. HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE. THE CHOICES YOU MAKE IN LIFE, OFTEN DETERMINE IF YOU LIVE HAPPY. MAKE BAD CHOICES...YOU EXPERIENCE AN UNHAPPY LIFE. Perhaps your mom feels she should have never married your dad and thus, she is unhappy. I married twice and was unhappy, after a few years. I chose to leave that unhappy situations and I am glad. I am now married 18 months to a wonderful man. He is not perfect; however, HE IS PERFECT FOR ME. I chose well, my 3rd time out, and living a fairytale love affair, EVERYDAY. NO KIDDING....THIS RELATIONSHIP IS TOPS.

Question: Marriage and the modern world? With all the divorces and pre-nups etc etc Lawyers and solicitors, is there really any point in marriage nowadays? Is it just an expensive day where your family get drunk and end up fighting? Should we stick to tradition and go for the big white? Or has the stigma attached to getting married in a registry office gone and that is ok? Answers appreciated :)

Answer: Get married in a registry office and spend the cash on a good honeymoon congrats.