Multiracial Adoptions

Question: Is 60 too old to adopt a newborn? I know a couple who adopted a multiracial newborn when they were 60. Am I right to assume that she was adopted out of foster care, since I've read here that most private agencies have lower age cutoffs? And do you believe that they were right to adopt a newborn at such an old age? The adoption took place in the state of Texas.

Answer: If they were young enough to be her foster parents then they are young enough to be her parents. Age can not be a determining factor in any state or federal program!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question: If we ban same-sex marriage licenses will that lead to...? banning of marriage licenses for multiracial couples and non-Christian weddings? Then banning adoption for all the above? Then what's next - banning of licenses for dogbreeding?!

Answer: I like this tack...much better than the "legalizing gay marriage will lead to all kinds of further degradation!" crap.

Question: Angelina Jolie's adoption craze: "balancing out the races"? I commend her for her UN work and adopting underprivileged children. But isn't it a tad bit... overboard for her to actually consider "adopting another asian child for mad" or "an african kid for z". I mean, go ahead and adopt another kid, I'm all for adoption, but for those reasons... euch. I thought she was all about being multiracial, but trying to "balance out the races" is kinda segregating them. Ok, so I do KINDA understand where she's coming from. The problem is, does she herself understand what she is doing? She says that she will raise her children according to each of their cultures, and if she is indeed doing that, then "balancing out the races" is indeed the wrong idea. Being Asian doesn't make people the same. Has she forgotten that however it may be now, racial tension has existed in the past, and that could very well be what and un-homegrown child chooses to identify with? God forbid she adopt Chinese kid AND Japanese kid (though that probably won't happen anyway). That's exactly it. Her kids aren't supposed to care about politics. But apparently their mom does.

Answer: You have to remember, she's not all there. She used to have makeout sessions with her brother.

Question: I need a counter argument for pro life situation in a debate ? I am pro life in my debate coming up what can I say if my opponent says this. The questions is why cant the rape victim give the baby up for adoption? Heres my opponents answer: I would like to address my opponent’s statement on the decision to give the child up for adoption. Rape is already a horrible situation for a woman to go through. For a woman that was raped to have to keep her rapist’s child is an unbearable thought. Carrying his baby inside her would create constant torment and would be a continuous reminder of the act he committed against her. Also, just because a child is put up for adoption does not mean that child will be adopted. It is a fact that babies who are multiracial, or suffer from a disability are unlikely to find homes. Why put a child through this situation? What can I say to counter this??? Im sorry the exact question is: So do you feel that a women raped should keep her child regardless of the fact that she is still traumatized by the event and must raise her rapist child because it’s the law, speaking as if abortion was illegal?

Answer: That their argument is based on the "mother's mental situation" as an effect of the standard of conception. Does this mean any pregancy should be terminated if the mother does not like situation in which the child is concieved because it is a "reminder" of the supposed faults of the father she personally considers "unbearable thoughts"? Your opponenets argument is not based on the question they posed which is Why put a child through this situation? ...because they are concenterationg on the mother's situation. As for children havign a hard time to find homes if guiven up for adoption, you can argue that the federal laws not allowing gays to adopt and making the prices and standards so high for even average families to do so is the culprit of that. Many people would happliy take children and adopt them if they were allowed, but the rukles are too tight...yet the laws allow anyone to concieve a child without standard at all. Good luck.

Question: Why do people say that American are losing their freedoms? If anything, we have more freedom than ever before. I'm always hearing and reading at how America is losing it's freedom and that we're turning communist, and yaya yaya. Back in the 1800s, black people weren't even treated as people, they're were regarded as property and animals. Sure doesn't sound like much freedom, does it? Up until the 1920s, women were not legally allowed to vote. In the 1920s, up until the early '30s, we had Prohibition, when it was illegal to drink. In the 1950s, women were excluded from several job professions and many colleges even banned women from entering and applying for their colleges. And in the 1950s, many states gave husbands total control over family finances. Women were frequently denied the right to serve on jury duties, convey property, make contracts, take out credit cards in their own names, or establish residence. Spousal rape and beating was legal and was considered okay. You used to be legally allowed to discriminate and harm people of other races. Whites and blacks were not even allowed to be married, and in some cases, were not even allowed to be together at all. Also, in the 1950s blacks and other minority groups and white students were segregated in schools, they even had separate public drinking fountains, separate bathrooms, separate seating areas on buses, etc. The KKK group used to be much more prevalent and larger than it is today, thankfully. Before the 1970s, in some areas of the country, teenager girls who pregnant if they did not marry were forced to live with a distant relative for the duration of their pregnancy and give their babies up for adoption and come back home and never speak of their pregnancies again, today we have groups to support unwed teenager mothers, unfortunately. Today, we have our first multiracial president, something that would have been a huge shock 50 years.

Answer: Political correctness being shoved down our throats 24 hrs a day tends to bring out these feelings. Offending the self appointed thought police can lead to ridiculous censorship of free expression. Fortunately there are still no actual laws are in place as they would violate our constitutional rights to express ourselves, unlike in some other "progressive" countries.

Question: Transracial/International Adoption: What is your experience being raised( or raising) in a multicultural home? to adoptees adopted by parent's of a different race- what was it like? did you struggle for an identity? were you shamed of your birth culture( i read somewhere that research shows that kids adopted by white parents often ask "why aren't they white" or that they want to be white)? How did you deal with racism? Do you believe in "love is colorblind? to people who adopted transracially- how did you bring your children's culture to your home? did you bring it? do you live in a multiracial environment/city/town? how did you deal with people's questions and stares? do you believe in "love is colorblind" BONUS: if you adopted international- then why? why did you choose to adopt a child from China instead of adopting a child in the U.S. who needs a family as well? thank you so much : )

Answer: I'm not adopted, but my little brother is, and I have a biracial family. My dad is black and my mom is white. They had me and my sister, and then adopted my brother from South Africa. I live in the Washington, D.C. area, so I live in a very ethnically diverse community. My little brother is very familiar with South African culture. We go there on vacation quite often, and we go to a lot of performances and cultural events. He takes gumboots (a form of dance that originated in the gold mines of South Africa) lessons, and he recently had to do a project for school where each child built a model of a house from a different culture. In the midst of 24 igloos, there was one traditional african mud house. He is very proud of his South African heritage. Most of his friends think it's really cool that he's South African. In terms of questions, stares, etc., it has been harder for my sister and me than for my brother. I have a dark complexion, where as my sister is very light. When some strangers saw her with my dad or me with my mom, they would say "Oh, how nice of you to adopt" or something else along those lines to our parents... Where I live, transracial adoptions are way more common than biracial adoptions. There are three other adopted kids in my brother's class, where as there are only two other kids in my class of 110 students who are biracial. As to why my parents chose to adopt internationally, in the U.S., children who are not adopted are put in to foster care. Where my brother was, he would be sitting in a small building with 100 other kids and 5 caregivers until he turned 18. My brother has 20/200 vision, has had dental surgery 6 times in 9 years of life, and has severe learning disabilities due to lack of prenatal care, fetal alchohol syndrome, and his birthmother's drug use, and was taken by police from a homeless man who found him abandoned on the street. The sad thing is, he was still much better off than most of the kids in his orphanage.