Visitation Supervised Visitation

Question: Grandparent visitation rights?? New Jersey? Ok i need a little help, these are my reasons of why I do not want my inlaws to get visitation rights of my 3 yr old. Never changed diapers/ pullups when needed Doesn't let Karlea use the bathroom when she asks Will not let her use a public bathroom Brings Karlea home with soaked diaper, all the way through pants. Karlea has horrible diaper rash when this happens Do not help us try to potty train her. Takes Karlea out to lunch, and dinner, when asked not to do so, and Karlea having the runs day after. Lets Karlea run around and play in a kitchen, opening the fridge, drawers with sharp knives, playing with the fan, turning on and off the TV Karlea must sleep in a playpen down stairs which she doesnt fit into comfortably and is able to climb out of if she wants to and get into anything. Plus grandparents are sleeping upstairs and probally can not hear her if she gets out. Both of her grandparents tell her to call her mother and father names, such as Dip Shit, Jackass, and anything else degrading. They will ask her if we are "retarded" and tell her to call us that. Asks Karlea if she wants them to rip mommy's arms off and beat her in the head Or even get a rope and hang mommy. They do not keep their house clean, having dirty floors, to where her feet and socks turn black Their kitchen table has mildew on it, and has been over 6 months, still haven't cleaned it. Those are my reasons, please let me know if you think they are good reasons or not, and what u think that court is going to decided. thanks

Answer: You need to check your states' guidelines on grandparent's rights. A lot of states do not have them. Grandparent's rights were designed so that if parents happened to split up, the children would still be able to know and have a relationship with the absent parent's family. The in laws in question have absolutely no chance. I would document everything, take pictures of their home, pictures of your child when she returns from being over there.

Question: question on grandparent visitation rights? im adopted and just had a baby girl a month ago, and long story short we've cut off contact from my parents (adoptive mom and stepdad) because after a couple of huge fights surrounding the fact that i did not wish to make the 2 of them my daughter's godparents, my mom started looking for any excuse she could that i'm somehow an "unfit" mother and even called cps on us, to which nothing happened because they found nothing wrong. now my mom has made it seem like if we dont let her see riley she'll file for visitation or something to that end. so i researched it but i'm still confused how it would all work, right now we live in california which is where riley was born, however we will be moving to indiana in a week and a half, so im not really sure which laws apply, and in the laws it says that maternal or paternal grandparents may petition for visitation, but are they still considered to be the maternal grandparents even though i was adopted as a baby? we're also considering getting married because in ca law it says they cant file if the parents are both married and living together, however the indiana law doesnt have that because over there the child has to have been born in wedlock.. so that's why i need to know which state it would matter in. is it the "home" state? which is just watever state the child has been living the last 6 months, or is it the state they were born in???? sry this is long but it needed to be to explain everything i wanted ........ im so stressed out i dont really know why my mother is doing this to us, but i dont want my daughter to have to grow up around these people who are just going to tell her how horrible of a person her mother is, i know what that's like when i was growing up none of my family liked my mom at all and it killed me hearing people say the things they did whenever she turned her back. and i just dont want that for her,

Answer: The fact that she's your adoptive mother doesn't make a difference. Adoptive or biological is the same in the eyes of the family court. Grandparents, however, have very limited legal rights. As long as both the child's parents agree to exclude a grandparent's rights to child, they cannot be awarded visitation, in either state, whether married or not. She can file a petition, but appear as a united front, and she can't win. Relax and get some sleep, okay? ;) And, hey, welcome to Indiana!

Question: does step parent adoption cancel grandparent visitation in virginia? I adopted my stepson in july of 2008. prior to that, my wifes parents had taken us to court for custody of her son. They did not win, but instead got court ordered visitation. Does my adoption of my now son, and name change have any effect of the grandparents visitation. What about my parents filing for their visitation rights as well. Due to all the visitation that my in-laws have, we are only able to travel to Illinois to see my parents 1 week a year if we are lucky. My in-laws have tried to modify the visitation order 6 times in the past 3 years. They just won't stop. We now live in New Jersey, and I'm hoping that after we are here for 6 months we can do something to terminate my wife's parents visitation rights.

Answer: Somebody's acting the fool. You can always go back to court and try to get a different decision; but, it would be a better plan to try to work it out with your in-laws.

Question: How do I stop grandparent visitation? This might be a long one but please take the time to read. I was never married to my daughter's father, his name is on the birth certificate. He is currently involved in a criminal case since January, I'll spare on the details but through an act of child abuse, his infant so is now dead (the child is not mine). Department of Children and Families has petitioned for a termination of parental rights on his side in regards to my daughter. Now the grandparents are trying to get visitation and are planning on taking me to court on it. I am quite afraid that if my daughter goes to their home, I may never see her again. There is also a threat of physical abuse since her grandfather was quite abusive to her father (although I doubt anyone will testify to that in court) and I don't want my daughter toted off to a prison to visit someone who is clearly unfit. I know this is all supposed to be in the best interest of the child but as far as I'm concerned, contact with these people could contribute to her growing up in a negative way. I currently live in Florida, if anyone knows the custody laws it would be greatly appreciated. My daughter is two, and has had a previous relationship with her father's side of the family. Visitation stopped once the father was arrested. But the amazing thing is, ever since my daughter has been away from that family, she has been sleeping through the night (and in her own bed) has given up a bottle, and has not had a single ear infection or cough. How do I show all of that to the judge?

Answer: I don't know Florida law, but here are a few considerations. How old is your child? Does she currently have a relationship with these grandparents? If she is very young, or if there has been no relationship with them up until now, it is unlikely the child will be harmed by not seeing them. If the child's father's parental rights are terminated (we'll cross our fingers on that one!), you will be the one to have the right to decide who your daughter sees. You can't prevent them from taking you to court, but I think you should have a good shot at winning. Good luck!

Question: State to State Legal Question - Grandparent Visitation? From what I have read so far, Grandparents really don't have rights when the parents are together. My question is, if you want to file suit for visitation for your grandchild and they live in another state, don't you have to file suit in the state that the child lives in? My Mother lives in VA and says she spoke to a lawyer and is having papers drawn up to take me to court to see my son. Wouldn't she have to contact a lawyer in my home state (NC) in order to take me to court? Any help is appreciated!

Answer: In a custody case, a court of competent jurisdiction is one where the child can be said to have residence. If the child has consistently lived in NC, then that's where she'd have to take the legal action. If she can make a case that the child is a resident of Virginia, then she might be able to file there. However, grandparental visitation is very difficult to get. A competent parent or guardian of a child has the right to determine who comes into contact with the child. If the parent or guardian isn't competent, then they won't be suing for visitation, they'll be suing for custody.

Question: Do I have grandparent visitation rights in MD?

Answer: Contact the local Domestic relations office and tell them the situation.. You absolutely have rights.. My aunt got visitation every other weekend for her grandson and she also got too see him around the holidays.. I was proud of her for pursueing this instead of being afraid to fight it.. Go for it.. don't rob that child of a grandparent for whatever the current reasons are.. Domestics can also give you the numbers for legal assistance. Good Luck and god Bless you ..

Question: Can a grandparent get visitation of a chid two years after an adoption has been finalized? My children were adopted two years ago by my husband, my ex's mother now wants visitation, after not hearing from her for over two years.

Answer: It depends on many factors, such as what state you live in, if the biological father is deceased, if he consented to the adoption, why the grandparents haven’t seen the children in 2 years, etc. But…it would be a long, hard battle for them. You need to check the laws of your specific state.

Question: GRANDPARENT VISITATION-MN? sole custodian mother.....my daughter is almost 3,her father chooses to be an absent parent,i do not know his family-including his mother.however,she was recently granted visitation.i disagree and will not allow this to happen.any advice?

Answer: Excuse to disagree of you, but I believe that it is important you allow the visitation. Don't remove of your daughter the chance of having a family. It is a subject of mental health and the child's emotional progress.

Question: are there any laws regarding grandparents visitation in South Carolina? I have had visitation with my three grands since 2001 every month sometimes twice a month until last month. My drama queen daughter Janet has stopped this now. Any attorneys open for advice or available to help a grandmother on disability to get these children back into the life they were used too.

Answer: grandparents have no custody rights in SC if the parent say no, then that is it speak to her and see what her problem is, if it is on your end... FIX IT if she is just a bitch then too bad... for you and the babies don't try to hard. dumb moms like to use their children as levarge and bait when it comes to grandparents and father. the more she sees it hurts you, the more she will fight it good luck!

Question: what can be legally done when an abusive grandparent wins visitation? this grand parent was abusive to all of his children both physicaly and emotionaly and has developed a weird fixsation with his grandson says child is his son we are in fear for the childs safety the judge was totaly on his side what can be done

Answer: You can always reprot the Grandparent to Protective Services. By the time they get done investigating, the child may be of age to express their own wishes.

Question: what is the longest amount of time you have heard of supervised visitation? Like how many months or longer did some get supervised visitation? And does the Guy most the time get tired of? Thanks for any help

Answer: My uncle got 2 years 1 hour a week. He kept missing his drug screenings so they wouldn't let him change to non-supervised. Finally they took all his rights after that, it was obvious he wasn't going to get clean.

Question: how can i get the court to grant supervised visitation when my daughter hasn't seen her father in about a year? my daughters father has not seen her in almost a year since may of 09. he just requested to get visitation rights and my daughter doesn't know who he is. I want to know if i can try to make him get supervised visitation for the first few months. my daughter is two years old and hasn't really spent any time with him in over a year.

Answer: I assume he's the one who contacted me because he didn't know what to do about you denying him access? I told him the first visitation will likely be supervised, but they must be video taped, after which he wants Bird Nest Custody. \\\\\\\\\\\\

Question: In what circumstances can you get supervised child visitation? I've written before about this crazy situation. Basically, I had a child in June with an illegal Mexican (I didn't know this until my last trimester). He threatened me 3 times in the past that he would take our son to Mexico and I'd never see him again. He says now that he didn't mean it, that he was just mad. But I've never left the baby alone with him because of this. In the last 2 1/2 months, he's only come to see him 3 times. And since his birth, he's only given me 3 checks of $125. He and I are going to court in 2 weeks. I'm seeking sole custody with supervised visitation. He and I were never married. The county prosecutor told me that I will get child support, regardless of his legal status. But given the fact that he's a "flight risk" who has threatened me, do you think they'll let him take the baby to his house without supervision? I'm so scared. Until now, he has come to my house for visits. He's very clever and sneaky as far as knowing how to work the American system.

Answer: You can request this regardless of any circumstances. Your lawyer needs to present this fact to the judge..that he is a flight risk and that he has threaten you before. You can set up an ideal plan to the judge for supervise rights and the judge can grant this with or without modifactions. So if you want the child's father to have supervised visitation it is imperative that you and your lawyer mention this to the judge. Failure to mention this could result the completion of the threat. Don't be afraid to ask for it. Also be prepare to have these visitations to be somewhere else other than your homes. So be prepare to pick an alternative place a counseling center is the best place to have them. But just make sure you request these supervise visitation, I can't stress that enough....

Question: What is supervised visitation? Would I be able to be in the room if the court decides to give him supervised visitation with my newborn baby girl. Would the court ever do that? He went to prison for raping a three year old! I dont want him to have any rights and I want to be there if he is having any visitation. He hid his criminal background from me.

Answer: Supervised visitation is where someone else is in the room with you at all times. If the court grants him visitations then yes you can be there but someone else will be with you in the room the whole time. They will not leave and there will be rules and guidelines you must follow. I would not get my hopes up with visitation being granted if indeed the person you are wanting to visit with a newborn is in jail for raping a three year old child. Hope this helps.

Question: how would i make my ex boyfriend have supervised visitation? i live in ny what would make someone have supervised visitation? he imed me saying "how about the baby just dies" and "i dont care about this child" can an IM convo help in the eyes of court or no?? thats what i was afraid of, he could say it was someone else. and its not a text from a phone it was instant messages from the computer. he imed me. =[[[[ i need to wait until he HARMS the baby?!?!?!?

Answer: Call CPS and show them the IMs.

Question: how do i go about getting unpaid child support and organising supervised visitation rights? my ex refuses to pay child support, working cash jobs on the weekends just to avoid it. we have a 9 month old son. He wants to see our son, but only to get at me not to actually see him. He drinks alot and both him and his parents (where he lives) are chain smokers, and his father also an alcoholic and mother a gambler. Do i have to give him visitation rights and does it have to be in that house? and without the visitations how do i go about getting child support without going through expensive lawyers?

Answer: I'll assume there is a court order or other notarized agreement specifying child support and visitation rights? As such, you are both bound by that unless modified by the courts, which generally involves a lawyer. There may be low cost family aid lawyers where you are who can help. You didn't say where you live, but you can contact the court issuing the support order for assistance in collection.

Question: Are there criteria for a mother to ask for supervised visitation or can it be awarded if she requests it? I was wondering if a new father who wants to spend time with his infant son has rights to see his child without the mother present. The father was present throughout the pregnancy (went to all dr. appts, lamaze class, and parenting classes) but now that the baby has been born, the mother refuses to leave him alone with the child. He wants to go to court and she threatened to demand supervised visitation. Can she do that? (the father has no history of drug or alcohol abuse, no criminal record, and no history of violence of any kind).

Answer: No, most courts will not grant her that. My step father has supervised visits with my brother because he did have a drug problem, and to ask for supervised visits you need to present valid evidence that the party is incapable of responsibly caring for the child alone or may pose a flight risk or threat to the child. If the father has no history of violence, druge abuse, etc. then getting supervised visitation will be next to impossible without reason because it impedes the father's right to privacy and right to his own children for unjust causes.

Question: How do you become a supervisor if a court orders supervised visitation? You know those people who stay neutral in settings where the divorced parent gets to see thier child(ren) but are required by court to have someone there? How can you become one of those? I've been trying to research it and I'm finding nothing but what is required if the court orders you a supervised vistitation. I'm in California so I'm sure we have to go through schooling of some sort. Thanks !!!

Answer: These are usually court-appointed child advocates or employees of DCFS. Check with your local juvenile court on how you can become one. I'm sure there are stringent requirements but if you are a normal person who has never been convicted of a crime and you successfully complete whatever classes are required, you will have no problem qualifying.

Question: what does it take to get supervised visitation please answer quickly? this man has never has anything to do with my grand son. my daughter goes to court tomorrow for child support. she wants him to have supervised viitation. he has a criminal record , has never talen care of the child in any way she has tried several times to get him to sign the papers stating he his the father , to get him on the birth certificate. is it possible to get supervised visits. the baby is 21 months and dont know him from adam.

Answer: well, if he wont sign the paper, she can have the court order a DNA test to prove he is the father. thats what courts do today... because the honor system doesnt work. supervised visitation is for the truely terrible parents out there, unfit, unhealthy and a clear danger to their child. its rare and hard to get. even if the baby doesnt know the man, he still has a right to vistitation with her, after he is proven to be the father. he will end up not seeing her too much; at first he will 'enforce' his rights and demand to see her. then it gets old... so they stop seeing the child(ren). it will take its course, believe me. when he starts working under the table to avoid child support, report him to the IRS. tell her to stay strong and stand her ground. that baby depends upon her to do so. some links to help; one is a calculator; just click on the state where she lives and fill in both parents incomes (states go by both parents incomes today). it will give you an amount he is supposed to be... just a general idea. there rest of these links are to help answer any other questions. just click on the state you live in and find the section you need (child support, visitation, custody, etc). http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/ http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/ http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html http://www.supportkids.com/ http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm http://www.singlemotherresources.com/ http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp http://www.mowaa.org/ http://modestneeds.org/ http://freecycle.org/ http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp

Question: My x-wife has supervised visitation. Do I pick the days, times, and place? My ex wife has supervised visitation. She has not asked to see the kids yet but she came to my home banging on the door wanting to see them and the police made her leave. The papers just say that she has supervised visits at my discretion or something. Do I just make a schedule and tell her what it is?

Answer: Yes you should to let her know when, where, and what time