Divorce

Question: divorce...................?? I was wondering if anyone could please tell me any experiences they've had with divorce? How stressful is a divorce for both parties? What is involved? and how do you help a friend who is just beginning the divorce proccess???

Answer: Emotionally, mentally and physical exhausting, grief for the loss of the person but they are still there, depression and anxiety, fear for the future, paranoia about almost anything, shock, anger, loneliness and isolation., loss of confidence and self esteem......then the dirty tactics start, you realise any promises made whatever they may be will not be kept. Then the solicitor you appoint to help you get a fair share, totals up all the matrimonial assets and then know exactly what you can afford to pay for their services leaving you with little or nothing and expects you to be grateful, you realise that 'yours' and 'their' solicitors are working hand in hand prior to court not to get the best deal for their client but to barter for an agreement and if one party won't budge on something at all and demands simple clauses like " not being contacted at work or having their employers contacted" before they agree, what it really means is that when they fail to pay court awarded maintenance, you have to spend 8 years fighting a clause before you can get an Attachment of Earnings order ( which involves contacting their employer) Oh boy is it stressful, if you survive and if you do you may still end up a gibbering wreck or an alcoholic or addicted to perscription medication or just not trusting anyone, so it totally changes your outlook, your relationships and in my case a total fear of any type of commitent. It isn't long before you realise that court orders and judgements mean nothing and will not be honoured by your ex or soon to be ex and the courts will do little or nothing about it....and that legal justice is non existent. You notice married friends keeping away thinking you are all of a sudden after their husbands, people crossing the street so they don't have to speak to you, invites from friends drop off...so more paranoia sets in and so you avoid them. My ex told our kids, I had cheated throughout our 24 year marriage several times and he had always forgiven me but I never had, I never even thought about anyone else but him, I loved him to bits, but he put enough doubt in their mind, reminding them of times ( a week or two) he was not at home when they were younger, saying he had left me several times because of my affairs, the reality was he was away on business and we spoke everyday on the phone.......and I could go on. 10 years on I have never gone out with another guy, it frightens me to death, he re-married 2 months after the divorce the girlfriend he told the kids he met after he left me, reality is he was setting up a new home 6 months prior to leaving me, re-mortgaging our paid for home and hiding the money in new accounts he set up, emptying our joint bank accounts, forging my signature on our share certificates and cashing them in, selling our second home, emptying our childrens trust accounts you name it he did it, all to stop me getting anything, yet it was all my money which purchased our first home. if you want to get away with criminal activity it is easy to do it when you are divorcing as it is a civil case and you just haven't got the energy or the money to fight a criminal case and because of the divorce the police and the CPS just don't want to know.....and when the court awarded me the house because of his deceptivenss, it means you sell it, then pay off the mortgage ( he took out and hid) and get the very little left which goes to pay solicitors fees , so you end up with nothing. I had two friends who listened, gave me a shoulder to cry on ( when I had the energy) they accepted me whatever mood I was in, whatever I ranted about, arranged simple things like a pub meal or paid for an eyelash tint, they would sit and listen for hours and bless them smile and welcome me everytime I called, they encouraged me to fight and not give up and gave me some hope that I was not totally mad however bad it looked or sounded, they believed in me...they were real GOLD friends. Just be there, listen and believe in your friend.

Question: Divorce.....? Hi, Lately I Have been wondering why people divorce eachother...and why there are so many unsuccessful relationships in the west. I live in India and there are'nt many divorces here..My grandparents have been married for 60 years and are still happy,together. My parents have been married for 30+ years and am sure they will stay together for the rest of their lives. I am not saying these marriages are perfect.I have witnessed horrible fights .. But at the end of the day, one of them compromises. Lately, divorces have become more frequent in India too. Don't you think our elders are setting a bad example for us.. I am 23 years old and am allready skeptical about marriage and I am sure a lot of people all over the world feel the same way.. Is there a way we can find a solution to this ??

Answer: education brought the second class woman into the twentieth century and with brains you get equality the problem is in many other countries the woman is taught from birth to please her man and here the little girl are taught to think for themselves. It's really not a problem but when you are a domestic goddess you aren't going to likely find a free ride as easily as staying where you are on the other hand... If you work and make enough to carry you own weight when the old man comes home late smelling like a pub and with lipstick on his collar you are easy to say buck off fastard! and leave so you do the math there kiddo and figure with education and equality you get divorce increasing off the charts because now a days there no reason to put up with any ones B S

Question: DiVORCE??? I want my mom to divorce my dad. What the heck, there not married, more like just leave him. Were in a horrible situation. my dad & brother take advantage & abuse her. I want to help. But she wont listen. Help? someone help me please. brother = mentally dad =psycially.

Answer: Get her pamphlets on abuse from clinics. Read it with her. Make her understand what she is going thru and that she is not alone. Give her the courage she needs. Even better if you can bring her to talks on abuse. She needs to see from other perspective for her to have a better understanding on this issue. Hope this will help, best wishes.

Question: DIvorce..............? I got married in july 2005 and we fight all the time. I just cant continue to feel bad anymore over stupid crap. we got married in nevada but we live in california. How do i file for divorce or do Ihave to file for legal seperation

Answer: if you live in ca, you file in ca. it doesn't matter where you are married. also, if you want a divorce you can do that too. the filing fee will be 320.00

Question: DiVoRcE.....? my boyfriend's parent just told him tht they're getting a divorce. what can i do to ease his pain? serious answers plz! 5 stars 4 best answer!! *parents sorry..

Answer: It's not something you can DO ... just BE THERE with him ... respect it when he wants to be alone .... occasionally remind him it's not his fault .... and that he stil has two parents .... You could also ask him what he would do to prevent this ever happening in his future marriage. Don't accept abuse .... but try to hang in there when his moods change....

Question: .....DIVORCE...............? If u are separated from your spouse for years (over 10) and have no contact with them, live in Ireland, and the spouse cannot be found (last living in England) is there a way to divorce without been in contact with the spouse??

Answer: Yes, but contact a lawyer. There is a waiting period, but it's once you state to a judge that you can not find the spouse the waiting period starts.

Question: divorcE......? do you agree on divorce? why or why not?

Answer: I agree with divorce. We are just people after all and we do change as we grow older. Sometimes that change in us and the changes in life with the people we are committed too just don't work out. It is a part of life. If we knew the path our life was going to take, we would have reached our destination some time ago, but we don't. We live for the now, plan for best and have faith in what we believe. The choices we make are the ones that drive our feelings, at times those choices become what we feel are mistakes. We live, we learn and life goes on. When we are broken from love, we find it in ourselves to move forward, while at times when moving forward - we leave behind our lovers. Why? It is just the way life roles some......

Question: How do I get a cheap divorce without using a divorce attorney? I know that divorce for men is not easy. My partner and I are done, so how do I leave my ex without spending all my money on a divorce lawyer? Is there a way to get a free divorce? Any divorce advice that will help me win my divorce is greatly appreciated.

Answer: Hey Greg, I have been divorced once already and am going through my second divorce, this time without a divorce attorney. A cheap divorce for men is tough, and knowing how to get a divorce without breaking the bank is even tougher. I just came across http://newdivorcetactics.com/ and there is some great advice for men and women planning a divorce here. This site is filled with divorce tactics and strategies that will allow you to learn how to move on, and keep the divorce attorneys from stealing everything you and your ex have accumulated. I love my kids and get along with my ex, but not enough to go bankrupt in the process. Hope this helps you figure out how to get a divorce!

Question: What are the main causes of divorce? I know there are many reasons as to why people get divorced, but what are? the main reasons, situations, causes, that cause a wife and husband to break-up. Is it financial problems? Communication? I know cheating or having an affair is obvious, but I don't think that happens as often for other reasons, what usually causes a wife and husband, even if they have children or not, what usually causes them to fight and argue that will ultimately end in divorce or separation? I am just wondering because the divorce rate is very high, like at least 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, what are the main causes of divorce?

Answer: it begins with being unable to communicate, or problem solve, but betrayal is the real reason it ends.

Question: After my divorce hearing, will they mail me a divorce certificate? How long does it take? I already had my divorce hearing, and the judge signed off on everything, but i forgot to ask if they were mailing me the paperwork. Are they going to mail a divorce certificate? And if so, about how many weeks will it take?

Answer: Yes, all courts will mail a final divorce decree however when depends on the state and the court. Some states have waiting periods after the divorce papers have been filed. Some will require a wait of 30, 60 days even up to 6 months after the papers have been filed before you are legally divorced. If your state has a waiting period, you will receive papers by mail once the time has expired. If not, it should not take more than a few weeks to a month, all depending on how busy the clerks office is.

Question: What is the divorce rate between average americans and the celebrities? I need substantial proof and great information. Can anyone tell me what that rate of divorce between the famous celebs and the average americans are? What my actual question is; is the divorce rate among celebs higher than the divorce rate of average americans? Because in today's society, in my opinion it seems average Joe's can stick it out in marriage with more problems than the celebrities can? Anyone who can help me discover this assumption to be true would be terrific help to me!!!

Answer: I bet for celebrities it is higher because the pressure of traveling and doing love scenes in movies can be hard for the spouses. You have to be a strong person to hear about or see the love scenes. Celebrities also get a lot of flattery.

Question: Will getting a divorce make it harder to get permanent residence? I received my conditional green card based on my marriage to my wife. We are planning to divorce because it is just not working out between us. I have to apply to remove the conditions on my green card 90 days before it expires. I looked on the USCIS website which says that you can still apply if you get divorced. But my question is if it is harder to have the condition removed if I get divorced? What are they looking for in order to accept the removal of the condition? Thank you.

Answer: Yes it is harder. They will look at your time here. Have you held a steady job? How long were you there? Did you get arrested or have convictions while you were here? Can you support yourself? Do you already have a place of your own to live? These are the kinds of things they are looking for.

Question: Whats the difference between contested and uncontested divorce and whats the duration ? me and my spouse are planning to seperate and divorce. I would like to know how long does contested divorce and uncontested divorce take place ? also, is there a time frame for legal seperation ? if so how long is it ? and what is the time frame for uncontested divorce ? how long does contested divorce take ? To add to this, I also do not own any property as im just renting an apartment will I have to pay anything for spousal support ? I also do not have any kids with my spouse.Please advise.

Answer: From what I understand an uncontested divorce is where both party's want the divorce. A contested divorce is where one of the party's don't want the divorce. Also I think an uncontested divorce takes a lot less time. They said my uncontested divorce will take about a month and we probably wont even have to stand before a judge. I live in Georgia.

Question: How to get a divorce when husband and wife are in different states? my wife is in Arizona and I've moved to Virginia because of irreconcilable reasons. How do I get a divorce from her. Do I need to go back to Arizona to get the divorce or I can get it while still in the Virginia? My wife is agreed to give me divorce.

Answer: If you have established residency there, than you can file there, provided there's no children. If you are in agreement on everything, it can be handled using a certified mediator. http://mediation_n_family_court.dads-hou… Doing it Pro Se. http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/ http://dads-house.org/ \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\

Question: How to divorce a Filipino without going to the Philippines? My brother has a wife in the Philippines that he wants to divorce. He is in the US and cant go there anytime soon. He lost his job, like many people in the US, and cant afford to go there right now. He does not want to tie up her life being married to him. Is there a way for her to get a divorce without him going to court. He is willing to sign papers he just cant go there for a good while.

Answer: As far as I know divorce is illegal in the Philippines. It's not illegal in the US. Consequently I expect he can't get divorced from her in the Philippines, only in the US. http://jlp-law.com/blog/annulment-divorc…

Question: How soon after a divorce can one re-marry in Pennsylvania? A friend of mine just filed for divorce in the end of March; both her and her husband agreed and the divorce should be final in 3 months as there was nothing to fight over. She has been separated from her husband for 1 year already out of their 3 year marriage due to some infidelity on his part. During their separation period, she met and got engaged to someone else. She is currently planning her wedding to this gentleman. So, how soon after her divorce is finalized can she apply to re-marry? Thanks for any advice.

Answer: As soon as she gets the divorce certificate.

Question: How to file a divorce for couple who got married in Turkey but didnt live together? A friend of mine is married to an Iraqi woman in September 28, 2007 in Ankara Turkey and stayed together for 10days after marriage. He went back to US and the wife went back to Iraq. They don't have children together and now they both decide to file a divorce because their marriage is irretrievably broken. They don't have property together. They are considered divorce in Islamic way. But they need the divorce that will be honored in US government. They both want to move on.

Answer: http://diylegalinfo.com/Divorce_Links.html/ has all kinds of legal information on divorces and how to handle a divorce without a lawyer yourself.

Question: How to file for divorce when someone other than parents has custody of children? I have a friend whom is wanting to do a do-it-yourself divorce. Him and the ex have two boys ages 8 and 9. The maternal grandmother has full legal custody of the boys and lives in Nebraska. Divorce will be in Kentucky. The grandmother left KY and moved to Nebraska. My friend already pays child support to the maternal grandmother. So his question is since neither parent has any rights to the children do the children still need to be listed in the divorce? Thanks.

Answer: When I filed the papers ask if someone else had custody of the kids. There is a box to check for that, but this is in Alaska. So, just go to the courthouse and get the papers and see what they say.

Question: How long does an amicable divorce take to finalize in the state of Oregon? Hi Everyone, If one were to file for an amicable divorce in the state of Oregon, how long does it take for the divorce to finalize? Also, would one have to file for separation before filing for divorce in Oregon? Anything helps! Thanks!

Answer: An amicable (or uncontested) divorce is much faster than a contested. However the state of Oregon has a 90day mandatory waiting period. What this means is after all the paperwork is done and filed you need to wait 90 days after the day of filing before you will become legally divorced.

Question: What effects would divorce and a bad father have on a child later in life? The divorce would be pretty be average by today's standards, but the father issue is the biggest issue. Say post divorce the father became disconnected with his kid(s) and pursued various relationships with younger women placing those and work before his family. What effect might this have on the child(ren) later in life say when they are 18+?

Answer: Too many variables. The attitude / mental / emotional strength of the kid What happened before the divorce What happened after the divorce What kind of influences there were (adult / family / peer)