Bride Price

Question: What do you think about the bride-price? Do you think it makes the woman look like an object or not? Well, the question is if you think the bride-price should exist or not, and if it makes the woman look like an object. And why? Thanks bride-price is a price you pay for the bride when you want to marry her, in some countries you pay the bride's family or her to marry her...

Answer: Since marriage is supposed to be (in modern times, anyway) an equal partnership, neither the bride nor groom's family should have to pay the other in order for the marriage to happen...unless they both want to pay each other the exact same amount, in which case they can just split the cost of the ceremony. Both the dowry and bride-price treat the woman like property. While a dowry would suggest that the woman is a burden that her family is paying the groom's to off their hands, the bride-price would suggest that she is an asset that is being sold to the groom. Neither option accounts for the bride's possible choice to divorce her husband, or to cause him a great deal of grief (in the case of the bride-price) or to go out and work and support him (in the case of the dowry). If they were to try and account for those possibilities when arranging a bride-price or dowry, they would be looking at the bride as an investment rather than a person. If not, they ignore the bride's free will much as one would when trading livestock. Either result would be that the bride would be regarded as an object rather than a person. The bride-price also forces women to marry men who have a certain amount of wealth; a man with less money, even if he had her heart, could not afford to marry her, and those who could barely afford the bride-price could hardly pay for a proper wedding. The dowry, on the other hand, while potentially paying for the wedding, can also lead to...issues if the money does not come through. Issues such as the groom's family burning the bride alive. So, yes, I do think the bride-price system is sexist and treats women like objects rather than people. I think the same thing of the dowry system.

Question: What is a reasonable price for a Russian bride? How much can one expect to pay for a Russian Bride these days? Has the recession helped bring down the price for one of these? Is there a price difference if one is new or used? How can I tell if she is really Russian?

Answer: Russians have noticeable similarities and usually if she is mail order she will speak Russian. I am not sure of the cost, you can look on websites that specialize in mail-order brides.

Question: How can we stop the payment of bride price (dowry) in Africa since its the cause of women rites violations?

Answer: I agree with the first answer. ~

Question: Can someone tell me how the bride price system works in Islam?

Answer: It's not a bride price. It's a gift TO the bride. It can be anything of little or great value. It could be an iron ring (as Prophet Muhammad, God bless him and grant him peace) gave his wives, or it could be a quarter of Texas. It belongs entirely to the bride, not to her parents, and it is hers to keep, invest, fritter away, or give away, just as she likes. It can even be a service, such as the promise to teach her how to read the Qur'an. Most often, these days. the mehr consists of gold jewelry, some cash, and an agreement to pay more cash at a future date. If the husband later divorces the wife, he has to give her whatever remains of her mehr immediately. If she divorces him, though, she has to return the mehr to him.

Question: How much is a bride price usually in Thailand?

Answer: how much do you think your worth nikki

Question: what is the average price a bride will pay for her wedding dress these days? these days prices seem to be plummeting and surprisingly wedding gowns don't cost as much now as they did before at all. so this is kind of like a poll to see what the majority here thinks. thanks!

Answer: http://www.kanaccasbridal.com/home.php?cat=583&catexp=583

Question: What is the conflice for the book called "The Bride Price"?

Answer: Your question makes no sense but here ya go

Question: What should the bride price be for a lady who has kept herself pure? My best friend Angela is getting married to one of my male relatives soon. He originally was going to give her father 5 acres of land in Wisconsin but when he found out she did not have a hymen, he is only going to give 2.5. I know she is a virgin though (she lost her hymen horseback riding). I just wished guys could understand that sometimes girls lose their hymens without having sex and it isn't their fault. :( Do you think she should have had that new hymen reconstructive surgery? I know its wrong if she had already had sex but I know she didn't. I had my virginity intact and my father received a small box of silver "coins". I'm not sure how much they were worth. I also have known fathers who received only a penny but it wasn't out of disrespect, it was because their fathers only wanted a token that the man was willing to give his money away for her - kind of symbolic. Should the bride price be less for a virgin who has lost her hymen but not by sexual intercourse?

Answer: Oh goodness, yet another question from Little Angel. People, read this person's other questions and answers. *sigh* Cow-patties, all of it! Cow-patties!

Question: Which is better- the dowry system or bride-price system? You did not answer the question- this question is not implying either is good, but which is worse.

Answer: The best system is when women are not considered the financial property of their families or their husbands. I saw your edit. Both are equally bad and that is what my answer expressed. Systems like bride prices and dowries by their nature imply that a woman's value can be measured in financial terms like a cow or a piece of land, but a man's value is inherent. It's appalling.

Question: Things Fall Apart bride-price: Why did they settle at 20 bags of cowries when 10 were added sticks to the 15? In Chapter 8 of "Things Fall Apart," Obierika's daughter is getting married, and they are bride-price is to be determined by bundle of sticks. Obierika's camp gave a bundle of sticks (30 of them) to the suitor's camp. They came back with only 15 of them, and gave them back. Obierika's camp added another 10 sticks, and the bride-price is finally settled at 20 bags of cowries. So why not 25 bags of cowries? Why 10? Correction: Why 20 bags of cowries, and not 25?

Answer: Jeez, you are being way too literal. You are supposed to use your brain, and realize that at some point, a pile of 20 sticks was sent to one family, and the other family returned the pile at the same size. The author is not trying to get across the exact sequence of the exchanges, only to present how the bartering is done.

Question: What are the average price that bride gonna pay for her bridal gown?

Answer: 300-800 is a good quality, you day kind of dress. anything cheaper is not so good quality. anything more expensive is designer

Question: is it biblical and important to produce bride price during marriage? many people are blessed by God with spouces but they fail to mary each since they have to give out the bride price thus making those who cant afford to end up making private and ungodly marrige.

Answer: It may be biblical. But there are many biblical things that are no longer relevant, like killing witches and adulterers. The gift of a dowry is a cultural tradition. If it is important to the families involved then it is important. It sounds like it is where you are from. If it is not important to the families involved, then it is not important. It is not important to most people in the United States of America. With love in Christ.

Question: people i want to know whether i have to bring the bride price during marriage ? can u pliz help me out there for the third time im saying we as christians what do we do if we want to marry without a bride price since its not sinful? and because the bible somewhere in the old testament shows that samson brought fourth honey as a bride price 'that is what they are saying and isaac herded 14 years in order to get a wife ,so what if i totally dont believe in bringing out the brides price? am i sinning regardless of what my culture requires since if its not sinful if so?

Answer: Under Islamic teachings you HAVE to give your bride a gift or pay what she demands from you, so I recommend that you give her a gift if possible find out if she is demanding anything

Question: what makes marriage counts;'is the bride price or covenant? suppose you get marriage what will your consider between the two.

Answer: The commitment. No one is paying a bride price on me- I'm no one to profit off of.

Question: Digging stick bride price? In some horticulture societies, a man gives a broken or worn down digging stick to the woman's family for bride price. Based on the idea of marriage as an alliance, how would you describe this brideprice?

Answer: One interpretation could be that it symbolized the man as a hard worker and good provider. At least one culture has the mother of the bride swinging a digging stick or club and raging at the loss of her daughter.

Question: what is christ saying about the bride price &marriage? i want to know whether the paying of the bride price has got power to stop or hinder the proceeding of my marriage as a christian?

Answer: so we know what you mean exactly, could you provide a reference (book Chapter:verse would be great) thanks. i'll have a go at it then, once i know what you are after

Question: Did the groom "let the cup pass" if the bride price was too much? I know in ancient Jewish wedding custom, the groom offered a cup to the bride if she accepted his offer of marriage, but when the fathers of the bride and groom, and the groom were setting a bride price did the groom refuse the offer by letting the cup pass (not drinking of it)?

Answer: Hallelujah! Jesus did not let the cup pass! He bought me with a high price! Thank you, Jesus, blessed be your name! x

Question: Do men in western society pay "bride price" these days? Do men in western society pay money to the father of the woman they are going to marry? some cultures do this

Answer: As far as I know they do not. In past times, the dowry system was more common in western society. A woman brought a sum of money or other valuable possesssions when she married, these were supposed to be used for her upkeep. In Greek and Roman times, if a couple divorced the woman would normally get the dowry returned to her, unless she had been divorced for adultery, in which case I thinkt he husband got to keep it. In medieval and early modern Europe, the dowry would be given to the man on marriage, and he in return would endow the woman with her 'dower' - the amount of his property that would be hers for her lifetime after he died - normally at least a third and sometimes more. The dowry system died I imagine because fewer people were able to come up with the money. But it certainly remained important to many men especially of the upper class to marry a woman who had money - see the novels of Jane Austen for example, especially Pride and Prejudice, which discusses money as an effect on a woman's matrimonial prospects in some detail.

Question: Bride price in Egypt? I'm just curious - what is the most common bride price paid among Egyptians? The amount of money the husband has to give his wife (or her family) upon marriage? I know it varies whether the woman has been married before and how rich her husband and her family are, but what is the "going rate" for a girl past 25 who is a student at uni? How much does a marriage cost in total, who pays for it, what is the money spent on? I do not wish to say anything against Islam or something, I'm just curious. I know how much it is among female muslim students in Europe and I am trying to compare. Errr ... I already know about dowry and mahr and how it works, don't need the lecture on it (I took 4 years of Islamic studies at uni and have lived in the Middle East). I also know the mahr can be very low in money (after all teaching the quran is considered to be the best mahr) - but how much is it on average among Egyptians with an income of 200 to 1000 LE per month? Any Egyptian girl be able to answer?

Answer: the average dowry for a girl from a good family is 50,000 LE.the wedding gift is about 25,000LE. however, when the girl is rich , she asks the man to put both sums in the wedding gift . if the girl is well off and the man has a good future, he can only get the gift . in other words, these figures are just average ones and they can differ according to the situation. moreover, the man has to provide the home, owned or rented, and the electrical appliances , and is expected to own a car or two . the bride gets the furniture , the carpets, the curtains , the china, and all the kitchen utensils. it would be an asset if she has her own car . thses details convey the idea that marriage is expensive. yes, it is. but each case can alter the details according to circumstances .

Question: has any one read the book the bride price? what is the book about. i just cant get in to it and its for a class

Answer: i've never read it. you can go to sparknotes.com though. it gives you a chapter summary for each chapter. thats waht i always do. hope that site helps ;)