Consent To Adopt

Question: If someone signs a consent to adopt, can they change their mind? My step-daughters mother signed a consent to adopt and i had agreed to adopt her. It hasn't gone to court yet, but our lawyer has the paperwork. Can she change her mind once we go to court and if so, is there anything we can do about it and have it followed through. We live in the state of Kansas.

Answer: Consent given to adoption can always be rescinded anytime before there is a court approval of the adoption.

Question: do i need parental consent to adopt a shelter dog in New york?? im 16 i want to surprise my mom with a new dog..... can someone describe to me the process of adopting a shelter dog? do i need parental consent or can i just go and pick one out? what if i came with an adult....then could i adopt a dog

Answer: You should NOT "surprise" anyone with the gift of a dog! They may not want the years of commitment it takes to own a dog and even if they do, they may not want the dog YOU pick out. If you truly want to surprise your mom with a dog, go to Walmart and buy a leash. Then go down to the shelter and take some pictures of the ones you think she'd like. Wrap those up as the "surprise". You should also know that adopting a dog isn't free. It can range from about $50 - $200. I do applaud you wanting to get a dog through adoption and I hope it works out with your mom but PLEASE, don't surprise her with it!

Question: In a state where the consent to adopt forms are signed... I was asked if the normal consent to adopt is over in 10 days, could the placing parents, and the adopting parents agree to a longer period of time for the consent to adopt forms to be over with? I just need to know if it's legal, I realize the consequences, and I know why it's harder on both sides. Can this legally be put into a longer time before proceeding with the adoption, without having to do a guardianship, then adoption?

Answer: If you are thinking that consent to adoption forms "must" be signed within a certain timeframe, and many natural mothers are told they "must" sign at the 24 hour, 72 hour, 10 day, or whatever point, that is wrong. Those are the "miminums". A mother can hold off signing for as long as she wants to. Example: she can take her baby home with her while she makes a decision. It is her baby and she has this right. There are organizations that can loan her what she needs while she decides if she has bought nothing during her pregnancy. There is nothing saying she "Must" sign at a certain point, even if agencies and lawyers hound her to do so. They are in it to make money.

Question: Can you include a consent to adopt or abandonment of parental rights in a divorce? My 5 year estranged husband and I are working on our divorce and he wants to give up his parental rights so that my fiancee can adopt our children (husband left the country 5 years ago and only recently resurfaced, which is why the divorce has taken so long). We're doing the divorce ourselves and I was wondering if I could put something in the terms of the divorce where I ask that he rescind his parental rights, or gives his consent for my future husband to adopt the children when we get married - can I do this or does that have to be a separate process?

Answer: yes but you need a witness

Question: i need to get a letter about adoption. my niece wants to let me adopt her daughter? my legal aid said i need a letter of consent from my daughter and her boyfriend. I am not sure how it should be worded. I also have to get the letter notarize. Does anyone have any experience writing such a letter or know where i can see a sample of a letter of consent to adopt? Please help!

Answer: Here ya go. PARENTAL CONSENT TO ADOPTION We, ________________________________ and _____________________________, the parents of _____________________________, a _______ (Male/Female) child born to us on ___________ (Date) consent to _______ (His/Her) adoption by _____________________________ and ___________________________, husband and wife, who currently reside at ________________________________________… (Address). In witness whereof, we have signed this instrument at ___________________________ (Place of Execution) on ____________ (Date). ____________________________________ Signature of Parent ____________________________________ Signature of Parent This document was signed in the presence of the following: ______________________________________… Signature Date ______________________________________… Signature Date

Question: is it illegal to put an ad in the paper if you want to adopt someones baby? We recently had a mother wanting to give her baby away because of her drug problems. Instead of us taking him, her mother took him, which is cool because he is still in the family, but now we are wondering if we would get in trouble with the law for putting an ad in a newspaper or somewhere like that for other mothers not wanting their children. I am unable to have kids and my husband wants one and the way the last one was set up, we had a consent to adopt signed and notorized with the option to fully adopt in the next 6 months.

Answer: You can place ads for potential birth mothers. However, you cannot offer money for the adoption, and depending on your location, you may have to run any proposed adoption through a registered agency.

Question: We are legal guardians of 6 year old daughter beginning at 6 months . Can I adopt without birth moms consent? her birth mother is in and out of her life only because I encourage it, otherwise she isn't very interested. We have asked her to allow us to adopt her but she refuses always giving us some excuse. her birth mother does say that she would never take her from us but we don't really trust her and we want to be sure she will always be with us. Is there some law that would protect us from losing her to her birth mother if we chose to request to adopt her without her consent?

Answer: Unfortunately, no. Unless her mother gives consent, or you can prove that she is unfit, then you can't. It's a sad situation to be in, and to the comment below me, chances are that little girl isn't going to hate you. I was adopted, and as long as you explain it to your little girl that it was in her best interest, she will understand. What's important is that you voice to her that she is absolutely allowed to see her biological mother. If you tell her she can't see her, that could make her resent you. It should be 100% her decision if she wants to see her mother or not, unless her mother is hurting her in some way or another. Good luck. :)

Question: if im on supervision for another 10 months, can i have someone adopt me without parental consent? i am on papers until i turn 18, next april, and i cant stand living with my mom. she is what makes me go crazy and get myself into trouble, yet she wont let go of me. is it possible to become adopted without her consent? in wisconsin...

Answer: Nope. Don't blame your Mother for your behavior. after you turn 18 and move out, you will realise you are still doing the same things and getting in trouble. Only this time you will get supervised by a guard instead of your Mother.

Question: What are the steps we need to take if we adopt two children but father wont sign consent forms? My daughter is trying to adopt two beautiful children age one and three ( brother and sister). The mother is willing to sign consent but isnt sure father will. He has no part of the childrens lifes and as far as I know has never paid any support for them. But she says he likes to control her through the kids and probally will fight not to keep his kids because he loves them but because he sees them as his property. My daughter has had nine miscarriages and has went through the fertility process with no results. I know this would crush her if she would loose these children too. They are already living with her and her husband and we consider them our grandchildren. Has anyone went through similar situation preferably in maryland but would like to hear from anyone that can give advice on what to exspect and steps to take. And when she applies for adoption of the babies how long does it usually take to go through court system to have the final degree of adoption. So we can relax and enjoy Mother of children took children back.Found out three days after daughter had children that this is a pattern she follows. She gets someone who cant have children convinced that she really wants good home for her kids and then when time to go see lawyer she backs out with excuse of the father is throwing a fit and she take kids back just untill he settles down and then the kids can come back. My daughter told her she,s not going to play these games with her or be apart of her hurting the kids like that and if she turns them into the state she,d be willing to adopt them through them but she wasnt going to yo yo the kids back and forth. After talking to some other people involved with her we found out she does this alot to the point that the kids (one and three) dont cry for her or ask for her while she,s a gone.Not once in three days that the children were with us did they even mention their mother not even at night, That made me start to suspect something because thats not normal.

Answer: Tell her not to get involved in this drama - she doesn't need that - since she was willing to take older ones in - why not seek out toddlers for adoption - there's plenty of them needing homes. My friend adopted 2 children from overseas - took a year (for both times)- no she isn't rich. http://www.adoptionnetwork.com/?source=o…

Question: My former step daughter wants me to legally adopt her. I need to find out how to adopt a consenting adult? We live in Okla. I have no living children and her biological mother is mentally challanged and living in another state.

Answer: General info on adopting an adult http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/adopti… For adult adoption laws specific to Oklahoma, see: http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/oklaho…

Question: Can someone adopt a child without parents consent? I have this friend who is in jail for something You could say close to sexual assult..but also has a son and i know he loves that child...now the mother wants her boyfriend to adopt the child...can he adopt if the father has that sort of reason for not being in the childs life but wants too after his term is over? Can he fight it and get a fair chance to be in his childs life

Answer: Well the courts can declare him unfit and or not involved. It is possible for this to happen but courts like to rule in bio parents favor but with the sexual assualt charge that is tough

Question: Im in same sex relationship&want to adopt our baby what are the costs? My partner&I are using a sperm donor to conceive a baby I have been told that once the baby is 6mths& with the sperm donors consent I can adopt how much does this cost on average?

Answer: Honestly...You should stop right now. It's not right 2 people of the same sex in a relationship trying to raise a child. Its not right for the growing mind of the child. Infact I among many, believe its a form of abuse. Do us a favor, enjoy your lives as partners, but don't bring the mind of an innocent child into it. Give that child a chance to grow up healthy without it suffering confusion later. DON'T DO IT!!!

Question: my husband has sole custody of his son. Is it possible for me to adopt his son without the mother's consent? My husband was given sole custody of his son 2 years ago. I believe the mother signed off her rights to the child. Is it possible for me to legally adopt the child without having to bother to get her consent?

Answer: if she sign off her rights.not by force.but by choice.than yes..my neice did that..her ex sign off his right so he would not have to pay child support..and when she got married her new husband adopted him..

Question: My daughters Bio Father is in Prison. Can my husband adopt her without his consent? My daughter is 6 years old. Her Biological father has been in prison since she was 3 years old. He never paid child support on time. He was only a part of her life from the time she was 18 months till she was 22 months (4 months). My husband has been here since she was 2 years old. The Bio father is in prison for violation of probation with the orginial charge of sexual abuse of 14 year old child. He gets out in One year and 4 months. With that kind of charge he should have never gotten Visitation rights but in the case where the family court Judge is the fathers relative (cousin) it kinda makes it hard to win. What I am wanting to know is Can my husband legally adopt her WITHOUT the consent of the Bio Father considering the situation? Does the Bio Father still have rights even though he is in the pen and has never really been a part of her life? Side Note: We tried this before he went to the pen and he (BF) wouldn't give up rights. Also we live in Kentucky.

Answer: The only way is if you can prove abandonment Get an attorney, some even give free legal advice. And this may seem extreme, but if you think the court will be biased, maybe you should consider moving to another county. Found this maybe it'll help http://www.ncsconline.org/WC/Publication… Termination of Parental Rights Kentucky Statute: §§600.020(2); 610.127; 625.090 Grounds: Abandonment or extreme parental disinterest, abuse/neglect, mental illness or deficiency, alcohol or drug induced incapacity, felony conviction/incarceration, failure of reasonable efforts, sexual abuse, abuse/neglect or loss of rights of another child, failure to maintain contact, failure to provide support, child’s best interest, child in care 15 of 22 months (or less), felony assault of child or sibling, murder/manslaughter of sibling child, aggravated circumstances With the mention of sexual abuse, felony assault of child and child's best interest you might have some ground to stand on after all good luck. Have to add one more thing: If you take this to court to try to terminate his parental rights - Leave the step-dad out of it. Allow the court to see you are doing this for the best interest of the child and not for the sole purpose of him adopting her. My husband and I had to go through a similar custody case (though we did it to gain custody not terminate rights) and our attorney told me to just sit there and keep my mouth shut no matter what. It's a case between mother and father, no outside parties. I should clarify. Make sure the court is aware that your husband wants to be a part of the child's life, but don't make it a personal attack or allow him to do an "I'm better than you," act. Many judges can see this as an act of spite instead of something for the child's best interest.

Question: can my 16 year old daughter adopt out her baby with out the fathers consent? I do not want her to but my mother thinks it would be for the best. I would like to be able to tell my mother that the father would have to agree to it too, so she will stop talking about. The baby is almost 6months old and I know I can't live without her.

Answer: At 16 in the UK, you can't be forced to give up your baby against your will. And although your mother may think it is best for her or even in her eyes for you, you don't want to, which is your right. For now, refuse to sign the paperwork and make it clear to social services that you do NOT want to place your child for adoption. And then contact the Citizen's Advice Bureau and ask them for guidance. telling them that you are being forced to place your child for adoption against your will. Lastly, yes, you are right, in the UK you need the consent of the child's father to place the child up for adoption.

Question: Can my husband adopt my child with the consent of the biological father? We will in Jefferson County NY.My child's biological father has not had anything to do with my child in 5 years and rarely pays child support.My current husband has been my child's daddy for 5 years.We want to know is there a cheap way to have my husband adopt my child without the concent of the biological father? I do not know where he is so getting him to sign the papers is impossible.

Answer: Yes, in NJ state there is something by which the baby might be said to be abandoned after a sufficient length of time. You do need a lawyer here but maybe you can get one through CPS or a religious organization. Even a lawyer might do it for a reasonable amount. at least you can try. My kids were adopted like this, their dad took off and within three months of looking for them and an investigation of our home by DYFS we went to court and my hubby adopted my kids. Hope it works out for you.

Question: i am 16 year old and live in maryland is it possible for another family to adopt me without my parents consent i hate the life i have with my family it is very abusive and i wish to get out of it. i do not wish to live in some random place or with anyone i dont know. i know a family that would adopt me and i was wondering if it would be possible for them to adopt me without the consent of my parents. i have asked my parents many times and their only answer is to send me to military school. i just want to know if it would be possible for this to happen

Answer: You can contact child protective services if you are being abused. They will investigate and go from there. You can also petition the court to be declared independent. You would need to be working in order to show the court that you can meet your financial needs.Then you can live elsewhere without your parents' consent.

Question: If you want to give your child to someone to adopt, does the biological father have to consent? I'm about 4 months pregnant. The father knows he's going to have a child in December, but is not offering to help or inquiring about his child. When I have the child, and if I decide to give him up for adoption, can I do so on my own as a single mother? Oops! I didn't know I posted this question twice...but thank you all for answering.

Answer: You really need to ask this? Yet again, he was good enough for a ride, but to hell with him when it comes to his own child? He may want nothing to do with you, but may want his child. What info can you offer him about the child? Not much, and maybe he just doesn't care about hearing about you! If you want to disregard your own flesh and blood, that's one you, but the father has just as much right to the child as you do.

Question: Can a woman have an abortion with out her husband's consent? My cousin is in a bad relationship and she wants to have an abortion. Does she have to have her husband's consent. I want to adopt the baby, but her husband is already saying he will win custoday when they split. I don't want her to have an abortion, so I am trying to find reason's to convince her she can't.

Answer: Yes, Tell her she'll regret it later. Mothers seem to get custody over kids more then dads anyway. fight the hardest court battle you can.( she can get one with out his consent cause it's her body)

Question: How can my current husband adopt my kids w/o thier birth Father's consent? My kids birth father has not been in thier lives for the majority. No child support, no visits, no phone contact. For the past 8 years, my 2nd husband has been their support both financially and emotionally. Now we (the kids, my husband and I) want to make our lives fuller by having him adopt the kids.

Answer: State laws on stepparent adoptions vary. Most States have a streamlined process for adoptions by stepparents whereby the judge hearing the adoption petition has the ability to dispense with the requirement in State laws for an adoption home study. When a stepparent wishes to adopt a stepchild, the child's parents (the stepparent's spouse and the noncustodial or absent parent) are usually both required to consent to that adoption. In consenting to an adoption, the noncustodial parent relinquishes all parental rights and responsibilities, including child support. If the noncustodial parent objects to the proposed adoption and refuses to consent to it, State laws may prevent the adoption from proceeding. Some State adoption laws specify special circumstances under which the noncustodial parent's consent is not required. Other States have made special provisions in their adoption laws to allow stepparent adoptions to occur, even over the objections of the noncustodial parent, in cases where the noncustodial parent has failed to maintain communication with the child for a specified period of time. Here's a link to more info about stepparent adoption http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/pubs/f_step.cfm Here is a link to search statutes by state for issues related to child adoption. Results will provide summaries of State statutes (and full text of laws, in some cases). http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/general/legal/st… best wishes and God Bless