Adultery

Question: Adultery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!… What would you do if your wife does adultery but realised her mistake and begs to plead.And promises not to do n repeat any kind of mistakes in future.

Answer: When I caught my ex husband cheating on me, I didn't even give him a chance to say he was sorry. I was so enraged, I committed assault on both my ex and his mistress, and tossed my ex out on the street. Of course that wasn't the right thing to do, but he also physically abused me for years...I couldn't take it anymore. After that happened, I didn't see my ex for many years. I moved away from home and stayed away from home because I didn't want to move back home. I ended up moving to Iowa for several years. After having two kids and going through hell (losing my house in a flood, and then getting evicted from my house because of my BIL) my family decided to move back home. Jobs were better, and the schools I want to attend are here. Recently, I was at Wal-Mart with my youngest daughter, and I ran into my ex MIL. She almost fainted when she saw my daughter. Back when my ex beat me, she knew that I had miscarried, and she was under the impression that I couldn't have children after that happened. When I told her I have two kids, she was even more shocked. She began to cry. When I asked her what was wrong, she told me she wished that she could have grandchildren, and she wished that her grandchildren were from me. She began to apologize for her son, but I was getting angry because she knew he was out of control. She was blaming herself. I said, that she shouldn't blame herself, and she was the one who shouldn't be apologizing. Then she saw my engagement ring and wedding band and it made her cry more. She wished I was still married to my ex, she claimed she missed me, and she always considered me as her own daughter. I tried not to get emotional because of my daughter being present..it was difficult. I've always enjoyed my ex MIL, and there were times I felt closer to her than my own mother. I felt a tap on my shoulder, and I turned around to see my ex standing there behind me, with this look of total shock on his face. I wasn't shocked, but I could feel a little bit of fear, and a lot of anger stirring up inside of me. Again I was glad my daughter was there with me so I could keep my emotions under control. When Peyton (my daughter) asked, "Mommy, who is this man?" I couldn't come up with anything right away because I was still in shock. I looked at her, and I told her he was an old friend. I could see that he was in total awe when he was looking at Peyton. I kind of knew what he was thinking...he wished that I was the one still wearing his wedding bands, and this was his daughter. I told him that I have another daughter, and I showed him her picture. I looked at him, and I saw tears begin to form. He kind of tugged on my arm, but I resisted...I had know idea what he was going to do. I couldn't freak out because I didn't want to upset my daughter, but all he wanted to do was hug me. I was standing there thinking, "In the middle of Wal-Mart?" My thinking was cluttered and confused, I saw people hugging in the middle of Wal-Mart all the time, but I just didn't want him to touch me. He said if he could take everything back that he did to me, we probably still would've been married. I was standing there thinking, "You can't turn back what you've done to me, and you can't take back what you've said to me. I'm a happily remarried woman with a family...see what you could've had?" I knew what he was getting at, he wanted to have the life I have...with kids. He destroyed every chance and beyond. But, I'm not the type of person that holds a grudge. In a way I felt kind of sorry for him. Since that day I haven't seen him...smart man. I think he knows to stay away because if my husband ever met him he told me he would kill him...and he was serious.

Question: What is adultery according to the 10 commandments? Is it sex outside of marriage? Is it adultery to merely kiss my wifes friend passionately? Is it adultery to so much as think about sex outside of marriage? How about if I have an adultery related dream? Is this sinful? Is it just better to repress these feelings?

Answer: I get the impression from Exodus, Leviticus, Deuteronomy and Numbers, that the Israelites considered sex with a woman who was married, or pledged in marriage, to be adultery, and punishable by execution by stoning. I don't think it was considered adultery for just sex outside marriage, but you'll have to marry her afterwards. Deuteronomy 22:28-29 says: "If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days." Kissing your wife's friend passionately comes dangerously close what is described in Deuteronomy 22:22, "If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel." In Matthew 5:27-28, Jesus is attributed with the idea that just thinking about it is adultery: "Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." This probably applies to your dream as well. Paul of Tarsus comments on whether you should repress these feelings. In 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 he says, "It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." So it looks like you're caught all ways. And if it isn't adultery, it's probably fornication. Or, we can take a slightly more liberal view, and let people be responsible for their own behaviour, deal with the consequences of infidelity, use contraception, or deal positively with unplanned pregnancies; or arrange things between them to accommodate needs that aren't recognised as moral in the Bible. If merely kissing your wife's friend passionately with your wife's blessing is involved, then today's more sophisticated morality will probably just accept it.

Question: What is considered adultery in the military? I have been talking to this guy for ab 4 months. He is in the military and lives 4 hours away. We have never met but talk daily and have grown very fond of each other. He is married but she lives 7 hours away and they are going through a divorce. Nothing is final yet though. Someone caught word that we were talking and the military is trying to take action. Can they charge him with adultery if we have never had any sexual contact? What are the guidelines of adultery in the military?

Answer: Dustin is correct about Article 134 stating (1) That the accused wrongfully had sexual intercourse with a certain person. A fellow military spouse, a close friend of mine. Caught her husband sending naked photos of himself to other women and receiving naked photos from them, emailing them, texting them, etc etc and those emails and texts consisted of Sexual actions both him and the other women were wanting to do to each other. She printed everything off. Gathered photos of the two meeting up. Took his cellphone. Everything she could get. Nothing that actually PROVED they kissed or had sex, anything like that. Took it to her husbands command and they did charge him with adultery. Obviously she filed for divorce after she turned everything in. You really should stay away from men until they are fully divorced, and women for that matter be the circumstance reversed.

Question: Is it considered adultery for two persons both unmarried to have sex? Or, only if at least one of them is married? What happened if one's married but separated, is that still adultery? Is it just "cheating", not adultery? Is there still a term called adultery nowadays?? Or is it a historical thing, like women are not allowed to vote?

Answer: Uhhh, the root meaning of adultery is sleeping with someone else who is married, but I guess if they are separated then it's fine.

Question: What makes homosexual behavior different from fornication and adultery? If you assert that premarital sex and adultery are wrong, you're okay, but if you assert that sex between two people of the same sex is wrong, you're a "bigot," "hatemonger," "homophobe," etc., Gay sex, fornication, and adultery are all exactly the same to me and I don't understand how objections to gay sex are any more sadistic than objections to the other two sexual behaviors. Can anyone explain this distinction?

Answer: Of course it's adultery/premarital sex. You won't let them get married! That's like outlawing condoms and then complaining about teen pregnancy.

Question: What makes homosexual behavior different from fornication or adultery? If you assert that premarital sex and adultery are wrong, you're okay, but if you assert that sex between two people of the same sex is wrong, you're a "bigot," "hatemonger," "homophobe," etc., Gay sex, fornication, and adultery are all exactly the same to me and I don't understand how objections to gay sex are any more sadistic than objections to the other two sexual behaviors. Can anyone explain this distinction?

Answer: Actually you're not okay to assert premarital sex and adultery are wrong nowadays. Look at hollywood, everybody's doing it. Pretty soon we'll start seeing gay hollywood couples adopting babies all over the news.

Question: If adultery were a punishable crime would it reduce its occurrence? I am very interested in changing the laws in my country (Australia) to see adultery not as a religious sin but as a crime that inflicts as much pain on the innocent as do most crimes (if not more in most circumstances). In particular I would like to see that the third party be deterred in becoming part of the”crime” by there being consequences to, in probably most situations, taking advantage of an unhappy spouse seeking short term rewards without consideration of the other spouse or possibly children.

Answer: No, it probably wouldn't. People who have affairs don't expect to be caught, and there are generally unpleasant consequences when they are, even without criminal sanctions. In any case, the harm caused usually has more to do with the breakdown of the relationship than with the actual act of adultery.

Question: What is the difference between rape and adultery? I think both are different and even in rape cases the woman is discharged finally and in adultery both are willing partners.

Answer: Rape is an act of power and rage. Adultery is two willing people having sex outside of marriage.

Question: What are the army regulations that states the adultery laws of a divorce? A man is in the military, and him and his wife are going through a divorce, and his wife isn't in the military. She commits adultery, and admits it. However, I haven't been able to find a law that states whether he has to pay her anything or not. HELP!!!

Answer: I'm sorry, but, under UCMJ, adultery is a punishable offense. However, that's for the service member, not the service member's spouse. He is bound by military laws, she is not. She is only bound by civilian laws. It depends on your state, but most states these days are no fault divorce states, so it doesn't matter why they get a divorce, the divorce process is still the same. He needs to take this up with a divorce lawyer to see if he's entitled to pursue this. But it's definitely not a military issue since she's not in the military. She didn't swear any oath to the Army. Sorry!

Question: is it adultery to have relationship after husband committed adultery and divorce is in process? my husband committed adultery. im filing for a divorce. if i have a relationship before divorce is final, is it considered adultery?

Answer: yes and he could turn things around on you and make you look just as guilty in front of the judge as he is... don't do ANYTHING until it's completely over.... you could have to pay spousal support even though you're not the one who did it first

Question: What is the definition of the word adultery? After over 2 years of being celibate I had a fling with this guy I have known for about 1 year, and my girl friend is saying I committed adultery and should pray to God for forgiveness because we are not married. Is that the definition of adultery? Un-married sex?

Answer: Biblically, yes, it is. The modern definition is 'cheating on the person you are married to', but originally - and certainly in the sense intended by the Bible - adultery is 'having sex outside of marriage'.

Question: How often did Adultery occur during the two World Wars? You know, when the cats away the mice will play. Does anyone know how common adultery would occur while husbands were away at the front? Would it have been prevalent? Or do you think that the social times would have controlled it - there was a much greater stigma on adultery in the 1920s than there is now. Cheers I know that WWI ended in 1918. But the 1920s were approximately halfway between them

Answer: It happened a lot. your right about the catplay. If I was in a war fighting for my life and a young woman wanted to make love with me I would do it no matter if I was married or single. I may die the next day so why not plus if she did not looked like any woman I ever seen before so yes I would do it. and if I would do it I bet they did it to.

Question: Can muslims, who have committed adultery in the past and then repented marry virgin muslim women? I want to know that those muslims who committed adultery in the past and then repented are they still eligible to marry virgin muslim women? Does islam allow it?

Answer: Just to be clear and very shortly ther's is a very very clear rule in Islam Unless u deny the existence of GOD, so Whatever u did in your past life ,if u repented honstly and gave up from all bad things u did b4, for sure ALLAH will forgive u and your repent will be accepted. But with three conditions : (1) To be sorry and regret from your heart about all what u did (2)To stop doing these issues from this moment(3) To intend not to come back and do these things again. If u made (BUT TAKE CARE THIS MUST BE B4 U R DEATH, AS MANY PEOPE SAY THAT THEY WILL STAY ALL THEIR LIFE HANGEING UP HAVING RELATIONSHIPS, DRINKING AND WHEN DEATH COMES TO THEM THE WILL REPENT, NO ALLAH WON'T ACCEPT THEIR REPENT )these three conditions and your mistake wan't DENY OF GO EXISTENCE so u can continue your life normally, and there's more as we learned while we r young that GOD(ALLAH) is being so happy if one fom humans repented and ALLAH supports him in his life to be more straigh " IF YOU ARE WITH ALLAH. THEN ALLAH WILL BE WITH YOU". This what I know and what we are used to,but also it's better if u consulte some scientist in Islam

Question: what is the real meaning of adultery in 7th of 10 commandments? 7th commandment says You shall not commit adultery. Now, I would like to know the Hebrew word used in old menu-scripts and and its exact meaning. Does it mean sex out of wedlock or this means if a married person make sex with someone who is not spouse. And also how religious Jews interpret it.

Answer: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adultery According to this it is a Latin Word, has Latin Origins The Hebrew Bible (the Tanakh or Christian Old Testament) prohibits adultery in the seventh of the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:14). Deuteronomy 22:22 defines adultery as sexual relations between a married woman and a man other than her husband. Both are guilty, and the penalty is death: If a man commits adultery with another man's wife — with the wife of his neighbor — both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death.[18] A consequence is that, under biblical law, sexual relations by an unmarried woman does not lead to adultery, whether the man is married or not. These provisions are consistent with the provisions covering the practice of polygyny. It also fits with the prohibition of polyandry, as a woman cannot be married to more than one man without committing adultery. It has been suggested that the reasoning of these rules is to ensure that a child's paternity is always known, and not in doubt.

Question: Is adultery a worse sin when it is committed by a woman than by a man? Under Mosaic Law, adulteresses were stoned, whereas there was no automatic punishment against adulterers unless the person they had intercourse with was the wife of another man. Even in the New Testament, Jesus said husbands could divorce their wives for adultery, but said nothing about empowering wives to divorce their husbands for the same sin. What should we make of this?

Answer: Yes, what you have found there is that in Moses' time, men enjoyed plural marriage. If a married man went out and found a single woman, it was not adultery....she was a potential wife and he was out romancing, looking for a bride. The same could not be said for a woman. However, it was important that he not go for an associate's wife. The Ten Commandments, as originally written in Hebrew, are NOT what they are today in English. They have been edited through the centuries, to say the least. The command to "not kill" was originally "not murder." The command to not covet thy neighbor's wife or property was originally to not covet "thy associate's wife or property." That is why it is so important to have a copy in the original language if you are a serious student of the Bible.

Question: What are the spiritual effects of adultery? I've known people who have commited adultery, and it always seems that in time, without a genuine change within themselves, and a complete stance of forgiveness, their lives fall apart. Family, children, financially, etc. It's almost like there is a failure to thrive after this. Any ideas? Can you back your idea with scriptures, please. I'm curious.

Answer: It's an indication of a larger problem. At the least, it's a suggestion of selfishness and a totally disrespect towards the person's partner and their family. .

Question: What is the advantages of proving adultery in divorce? Two attorneys in a law firm, both married to other people begin an adulterous affair. One's married 30 yrs the other 11. Children. Homes. Assets galore. Both injured parties did not find out about the cheating until after the Separation Papers had been agreed upon, even though their affair had preceeded the legal separation time frame. If adultery is brought into it after the fact, will there be financial benefits to the spouses who are being dumped?

Answer: it depends on where you live at, in most states in the US, due to no fault divorce, it doesnt factor in,,,,

Question: What are the consequences to committing adultery? isn't it still considered adultery even if a person isn't fully divorced but is seeing other women? like if someone is going through a divorced, but it is not finalized, but they are dating other women as if they were single. are there earthly consequences? i know there are consequences you pay when you die, but what about while you're still on earth?

Answer: Yes, it is adultery if you have sex with someone other than your spouse and are separated. Consequences? You hurt your spouse. You open yourself up to all kinds of disease.

Question: In the Crucible what would have happened if Elizabeth Proctor admitted her husbands adultery? To everyone? Would Elizabeth along with the prisoners be released? What about John Proctor? Would he be punished for adultery? And the girls, what would be their punishment for lying?

Answer: Yea, the whole thing would have probably ended differently. Abigail would have been ruined, and then known as liars. But of course, Elizabeth ****** it all up... The girls would probably have gotten hanged or some crap for lying.

Question: Can you sue a husband whos commited adultery for breach of contract? If a husband commits adultery, (specifially a long term affair) can you sue for breach of contract? Can you sue for anything? If it helps, i live in illinois, i want an illinois law if they vary state-by-state please.

Answer: Other than divorce, no. So called "heartbreak suits" almost never succeed.