May-December Marriage

Question: (Mature) Love quotes or where i could find them? hello. :) Where can I find intelligent/mature love quotes that are still...well, something a teenager would use? haha, I know that sounds weird. But I dont want a stupid, "bby;;;i..luvv..uu'" thing. haha. But i dont want it to be something your grandma would send you in an email. Thanks in advance, if you can post links to sites,you're great. :P

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Question: Do you believe a 13 year can be mature about love? I know a 13 yr old who is very mature he doesn't play video games...etc he likes to read and he can like a girl for a long time and not play games with her... He is not even interested in sex...WOW!

Answer: No!

Question: 14 years and i love kids and i am mature and sensible live newport south wales in uk can u offer me a job? i need the money but i really love kid and i can work on weekend and around from 5.30 on school days. please can u give me a job. i am very reliable.

Answer: It's not very safe trying to get a job on here. There's loads of creeps out there. I'm 14 also. They should give us 14 year olds more choices of jobs instead of just the paper route and baby sitting. =(. I jus ask my dad for money. LoL

Question: What does it take for just romantic love to turn into mature love ?

Answer: At first everyone is going to have romantic love and think you guys are in mature love. Alot of people say time, but no matter how long you date you guys can be mistaken between the both kinds. You guys need to see how you guys care for each other. WOuld you guys give up something you truly love for your love? ALso see how you guys take care of problems. DO you guys talk it out or just forget about it? Hopefully you guys talk it out.

Question: Is mature love "union under the condition of preserving one's integrity, one's individuality" (Erich Fromm)? Erich Fromm , one of the noble souls of the USA, defined mature love in his book " the art of loving". http://www.apocatastasis.net/OccultLibra...

Answer: I think it depends on what you define as your integrity and individuality. People who cling to their "individuality", to the point of egotism, at the expense of considering and caring for others have carried individuality too far, whether you are in a relationship or not.Individuality and integrity are only worth holding onto if they are only defined in terms of meeting the needs of others and considering others as yourself. This concept requires balancing ones own needs with the needs of others such that one maintains one's individuality and support the individuality of others. Many thinkers of great ideas failed to follow their own precepts in their own life. Seeing the mote in your brother's eye is much easier than seeing the plank that blinds your own.

Question: "Young love" to "mature love"? im doin a comparison about how young love is different then mature love.. but im curious as to how long after a couple has ben together does it evolve from young love into mature love ( i guess about 5 years together or married). and if you can give me some of your own opinion on ho its different that would be helpful and interesting as well.

Answer: i believe mature love is when you can know everything about that one person and still love them no matter what. age has nothing to do with love.

Question: What are some Animes that are similar to Blue Gender? i love the more mature feel to the show/post-apocolyptic? setting. the mecha battles are also something i enjoy.

Answer: Blue Gender was so boring, lol. A much better post-apocalyptic giant-bugs-take-over-the-earth anime is Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind. A very good movie with a similar plot, if I remember correctly. (although it is much less starship troopers, and more epic fantasy/science fiction) Wolf`s Rain may have a similar "mature" feel to it. It's post-apocalyptic with some weird wolf stuff going on. (the main characters are wolves, but they aren't, but they are?) It's been quite a few years since I saw it--it was my first anime. (5 years ago maybe?) I liked it very much at the time, but my tastes and expectations have obviously changed--no idea how I would view it watching it now. If you'd like another mecha anime, RahXephon is probably your best bet.

Question: What are some mature mangas filled with sex and love? I dont want anything that takes to long to read like 60 chaptersbefore they kiss and another 40 before they hve sex somthing short and sweet.

Answer: Here as some (smut) mangas that i liked: Private Prince ~ Enjouji Maki Hapi Mari ~ Enjouji Maki Teacher's Pet ~ Aihara Miki Hot Gimmick ~ Aihara Miki Midnight Secretary ~ Ohmi Tomu Honey x honey drops ~ Minami Kanan 17-sai Hajimete no H ~ Shinjo Mayu Love & Sex ~ Minami Kanan Renai Shijou Shugi ~ Minami Kanan Jun'ai Koza Kemono Shiyou ~ Minami Kanan You should try all works of Minami Kanan and Shinjo Mayu, because almost all of them are smut manga.

Question: Mature love quotes? Whats a site where i can find some MATURE quotes on love/relationships....not the same old same old ones you see on people's myspace pages.

Answer: www.xanga.com www.hot-lyts.com

Question: Is it possible for a 15 year old to be mature enough to truly love someone, and continue to? I know it doesn't happen often. I know it's incredibly rare. Is it impossible though?

Answer: any thing is possible

Question: What was the anthropological significance of older men marrying younger women? [Otherwise known as May-December marriages.]

Answer: A lot of it had to do with establishing a stable environment for the wife and children. In the modern world, a young man can get married his own house, car, job, or education because we have a well-established middle class. We basically get married at a young age, and then the husband and wife both work toward retirement. In cultures where there was no well established middle class, no government supplements, no health insurance, etc., a man generally had to reach "retirement" status (as far as wealth and property are concerned) before he could afford to support a wife and children. The other problem was that women were not capable of establishing an independent, single life like they do today. Women (and men, for that matter) couldn't just move into an apartment and get a job like they do today. A woman was dependent on her father until she was married. So, put the two together, and you see a culture where the men work through their early adult years until they are capable of supporting a family (usually in their late 30's or early 40's, depending on the culture), and then marry a woman who has just reached adulthood (usually in her late teens, depending on the culture).

Question: May / December relationships, your thoughts on how to attract the older man.? Im 27 he is 50 ....Yes yes I know to some its gross. I am not looking for a sugar daddy but sexually I am so attracted to him, and he is so Intelligent... so if my taste disturbs you... Im sorry.... I am an educated, professional, very well paid individual so it is nothing like that at all. My question is... although I am never shy talking to men, this one has really turned everything upside down for me. I would like to break into a conversation with him, however he is a little intimidating. He has several published articles, I was thinking next time I bump into him I was just thinking of him because I just reading a couple of his articles and I was going to tell him how interested I was in his work, how I was really intrigued by his research. I was going to tell him how I was going to email him regarding one particular one , however I didn't want to really bother him.... is it a good idea? Would he be flattered. ***Some more information*** Everybody who works with him hates him because they claim he is rude (he has been very polite with me when he sees me). Him and his wife split a year ago after a terrible marriage, and although I think he is cute, most of my female friends (young and old) shutter when I tell them lol.

Answer: I'll be honest, that is TOO much age difference I think! In 10 years you will be only 37, and he will be 60. He probably doesn't want any more kids, and you will want kids most likely! Besides, he is still married, just separated! Move on! He is NOT the one!

Question: Which marriages do you find more repulsive? Gay marriages; two men Group Marriages Polygamy Inter-species marriage (Like a Human and a Dog) May-December (One MUCH older, one MUCH younger, over 20 years difference) I want to vomit when I think about inter-species marriages, gay marriages.

Answer: Inter-species, whats wrong with gay marriage, if they love each other who says they can't be married, DOUCHEBAG

Question: Has any men ever been married to a woman 14 or more years older than themselves......? Do these May-December relationships/marriages work out when your spouse in only a few years older than you children from your first marriage. Did it last and for how long? what where the biggest challenges that came from this type of pairing?

Answer: Agree

Question: Men: what do you think about marrying older woman ? Okay .. I am 25 old professional successful man (at least that's what I think) and in love with 41 old beautiful lady (she is kinda my first love) , she is divorced and already have 2 kids, i feel mature for my age and I like the fact that she is too. We have been dating for almost a year now ... I can't deny that i LOVE and care about her .. and she feels and says the same for me .. and I don't think of age as an issue for now .. but whenever I think about commitment and marriage I have worries not only about the age difference , but also due to cultural differences (i am not originally from the US and got here due to my business), the fact that many sacrifices has to be made (mostly not being able to have kids of my own for example) ... and not sure if one day will come and these sacrifices will be regretted. Just last week .. she started to talk about "Needing more from a relationship" i think she are about to break up .. and i am not sure if i want to let her to go. I have read many answers about this may-december marriages but mostly with the woman prospective .. i would like to hear some of your opinion guys especially if you are in or have been in similar situation

Answer: From my own experience...when I was 21 I was dating a woman who was 32. We got along and never really fought or anything. She had kids and I did not. It took me a while but eventually I realized I want my own kids, I realized that my hopes to travel and do all of the things that were important to me would not be possible if I entered in to a marriage with this person. And I also realized that she would be old while I was still feeling young. In the end, the bad outweighed the good and I decided that there had to be a better situation for me somewhere.

Question: In the Story, the secret garden who does Mary end up with? Or rather who does it seem to be? I was watching the 1993 disney remake and it seemed like every one of the males liked mary romantically. Dickon and mary seemed like they would be cute together but they were of different classes. Also, Colin said he wanted to be together and he got jealous when mary and dickon stare at each other on the swing and first cousins married too even einstein I think and he's much more modern day than these two. Lord Craven old as he is, he has no blood relation and she looks like his desceased wife. and well, back in the day there was the May-december marriages. But who does mary like? who does she end up with? Does the book explain more into the future? I just want to know. Thanks.

Answer: The children in the book were only ten and twelve years old. Dickon was the oldest, at twelve. Mary and Colin were both ten. They all developed a close friendship, but the book ended long before any thing romantic could develop.

Question: Why are most couples the same age? i always hear that men like younger women and women like older men but across all cultures, women marry men of the same age (less than 5 yrs age difference). for example: age at marriage : brazil (26 - women, 28 - men) canada (28 women, 30 - men) china (22 - women, 23 - men) india (21 - women, 25 - men) saudi arabia (19 - women, 26 - men) france (30 - women, 32 - men) sweden (30 - women, 33 - men) kenya (21 - women, 26 - men) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage personally i don't know any may-december relationships... the biggest age gap i know is , my best friend who is 20 , and her husband who is 28. which is only like 8 yrs. but ive never seen or heard of extreme age gaps like 20 or 30 years that i always hear about on yahoo answers..... are these guys just trolls? or do they really have a gf who is their daughters age? which is so yuck and gross.. what is the biggest age difference you've seen in real life? (not celebrities)

Answer: People usually are attracted to people of the same generation because they relate to them better. I'm more likely to agree with the older people on this board than the younger ones because we have grown up in the same times and are shaped by our life experience. I think May-December relationships can work if the couple are older, say 35 and 55, but they rarely work when one is young and the other isn't.

Question: How to convert a hot-and-sexy relationship into something deeper and more romantic, or doesn't that matter? After a rocky marriage ended, I've been rebounding in a May-December type relationship with a 20-year-old siren that will end in seven days. The whole relationship has really woken me up spiritually, and our performances are hot and heavy -- we fall into each other's arms after in an entanglement of perfume, sweat and kisses. Part of me likes that as much as the porn-star-style action. I'd like to leave a lasting impression with Krystka, before she goes to Poland, as her visa is ending. There, she is expected to marry a local fireman, and they tend to rush marriages in her small village, but I feel if I can make her truly and deeply fall for me, there's a chance she can hold out long enough for her to get a new visa back to the USA. I don't have much confidence, as the last time a woman had left me like this (she went to college in Upstate New York while I was still in high school), she swore her love, then it turned out she was doing the college lacrosse team by Rosh Hashanah. I was crushed and have been guarded ever since; not to mention the state my ex-wife left me in with her affair. Krystka, coming from Eastern Europe, also tends to have that air of cynicism people from that region and people who have suffered under dictatorship have. Krystka and I have both felt the looming deadline, and have been averaging having sex twice a day, while the kids are in school, then she returns after 10 p.m. while they are asleep, leaving before they awaken. I lock the bedroom door just in case one gets up earlier. The children actually love her, as she was their au pair up until my divorce, so I don't want to confuse them, nor get their hopes up, as my hopes are starting to go up. What can I do to show her that I want her to come back to the USA, considering this tight schedule? Not all the sexual positions are that romantic (think Marmaduke on Lassie), but I feel that showing her would mean more than telling her. Or doesn't it matter what I do sexually or romantically? Is the die already cast?

Answer: Get over yourself. It's a summer fcuk feast for you, nothing more, nothing less! Take what ever you can from this journey into singledom, she will be your rebound romance, (I don’t trust her motives anyway) until you find your feet and confidence. It is a well known fact that one shouldn’t jump headlong into another relationship at leat not for the first 6 – 12 months after a divorce. You need to find yourself, don’t get tied down to a visa digging porn star sex manipulator, she’s using you, can’t you see that? probably not, you have been out of the loop for a while :( Have your fun, then concentrate on your kids and getting your book published. Another thought/question - are you prepared to become a father again? She is still very young and would want to start a family. Would you want to become a father and start again with a baby and a girlfriend who might only want to achieve residency in the USA??

Question: I want to get married but he suddenly doesn't? I'm in a May-December relationship. Me 24, Him 47. My boyfriend made it clear up front that it would be a while before we got married, but promised that it would happen eventually. I understand because he had two bad marriages and doesn't want to rush into another one just to have it turn out to be a third bad marriage. I've never been married before. We've been together 4 years now and he's been taking small steps toward having a future: we moved in together, his daughter lives with us, we have a joint account. I'm positive that I'm ready to marry him soon. Right this second isn't a great time because I just got laid off, but I would like to be married within the next three years, barring further incidents. I have told him my feelings and all of a sudden he doesn't want to get married at all! I thought maybe it was because of the current financial situation, but he's been saying that he thinks marriage is stupid and doesn't want another marriage and a wedding would be just so I could have a day of attention showered on me. I love him and don't want to leave, but I don't want to be a lifetime girlfriend! I've made the decision to leave him if he doesn't meet the 3 year proposal deadline, but I don't want that to be the outcome if I can avoid it. What can I do to try to work this out with him and get him to understand how I feel about marriage? I know what you guys are thinking, but I swear I'm not going to stop the goodies and bring on the drama after the "I do." I love him and I want to make that commitment. I don't want children.

Answer: I'm sorry, there is nothing you can do to change his mind. He's made it clear marriage is no longer an option. It may never have been an option and he may have only said what he did to get you to move in with him. The decision is now yours. You can wait for your proposal deadline to roll around and see if he changes his mind yet again or you can tell him now that you have no intentions of being a life long girlfriend and you have other plans for your life. Pack your stuff up and go. IF he realizes that he misses you and he wants you back in his life then DO NOT move back in with him or merge your funds until you are married or at the very least are engaged with a wedding date. I'm going to tell you a secret that many young women don't realize until it's too late: where most men are concerned, moving in together IS NOT a logical step towards marriage. More often than not, it is an appeasement step. Something they do instead of what you really want to keep you happy for a while. The next appeasement step is an open ended engagement. If moving out is not an option no matter what, then I'd have to say that marriage is not important to you as you claim and that you should drop the marriage talk and be happy with what he is willing to give you. When you are in a relationship, you have to know what your deal breakers are and not waste time on someone who doesn't meet up to your standards. If one of your deal breakers is marriage then you're wasting your time with him. Decide if you want marriage or him. Assume you can't have both. If you want him, give up on marriage. If you want marriage, give up on him.

Question: Should I Stay Or Should I Go? I am in a May-December relationship for 3 years now. I am 30 and he is 56. The sad thing is, he is not gonna marry me, ever. It is a given fact. At first I thought I was okay with it... but I realized that I wanna have a family.. a husband, a child. Well, marriage really does not matter to me.. but when I asked him if he would want to spend the rest of his life with me, he didn't answer at all.. it made me hanging in nowhere.. The day came I met someone who is 3 years younger than me. He is sweet and we have a lot of things in common. I know I like him a lot. I spend time to communicate with him everyday... and less with my bf.. I am confused.. but not because of this new guy.. I am confused of myself on whether this is the life that I really wanted.. Honestly, I don't miss him anymore.. So guys, what do you think? Should I still give it a try?

Answer: Well to be honest this is upto you.. you have to choose what you really want and what will make you happier in the long run... otherwise end up regretting it.. From the sounds of it, you are really interested in this new guy.. so why not give it a go.. mean got nothing to lose really.. just break up with ur boyfriend first and make it clear cause cheating is not cool.. Anyways wish you all the best and hope this helped.