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Mixed Marriage
A mixed marriage is the term often applied to a marital union of two individuals from different races or religions.
Question: What are the rules of "travellers' marriage" Nikah Misyar? Can it be used for prostitution?
This issue, therefore, needs a cautious approach. One should not feel free to condemn an act as absolutely forbidden, merely on social repugnance. Rather, one needs to have convincing evidence to determine the legal nature of each particular act.
I like that ..........
Answer: This is a fatwa by Yusuf Al-Qaradawi:
Misyar marriage should be viewed as a form of legal relationship between man and woman regardless of any description attached to it. This is pursuant to the juristic rule: "What matters most in contracts are motives and meaning, not the wording or structure."
Therefore, in determining the legal nature of this marriage, we should not judge things according to names, for as we know, people feel free in naming or describing something.
Stipulating certain details in the marriage contract on both sides is acceptable. For example, some scholars maintain that a woman has a right to determine the timing of marriage; i.e., it can take place at day or night, however, she can also waive this right.
Therefore, based on what has been mentioned, we can state that misyar marriage, or something in similar form, has been in practice from time immemorial. It also serves the purpose of some women, who, for instance, may be rich but happen to be unable to marry at the proper time. So, such women can opt for this kind of marriage.
But I do have to make it clear that the aforementioned statement does not make me a protagonist of misyar marriage. In all my fatwas and sermons, it is not mentioned anywhere that I give any support for such marriage.
The point is that when I was asked by a journalist to state my opinion regarding this marriage, I found it a pressing religious duty to give a clear-cut opinion on something that does not make unlawful what Almighty Allah has made lawful for His servants.
Therefore, if anyone seeks my opinion on this marriage, I must reply him saying: What do you mean by misyar marriage. Then, if I get an explanation that shows that in misyar marriage, all the Islamic legal requirements are met, then the marriage is valid.
Those requirements are: an offer and acceptance from both parties; a specified dowry, according to the Qur'anic verse: [And give unto the women, (whom ye marry) free gift of their marriage portions] (An-Nisaa' 4: 4), and that the contract wins the consent of the guardian. Thereby, no one has the right to brandish it as unlawful.
There is no doubt that such marriage may be somehow socially unacceptable, but there is a big difference between what is Islamically valid and what is socially acceptable. As we know, people can be cynical about the idea of an employee marrying his employer. But who can deny the validity of such a marriage if it meets all the legal requirements?
This issue, therefore, needs a cautious approach. One should not feel free to condemn an act as absolutely forbidden, merely on social repugnance. Rather, one needs to have convincing evidence to determine the legal nature of each particular act.
Question: why do most Sunnis prefer Misyar marriage?
Answer: Because they are misguided by mr Abu UMAR bin Khitab bi kitab
Question: Why do Shias curse and hate misyar marriage when their own 'scholar' sistani has permitted it? Rosy, O QUEEN of Islaam....!!!(How does that sounds to shia-lovers like snoogy whom I have blocked...?), would you care to post that 'question' as an answer to this q?
Anyway.
I also had another Q:
Why do shias confuse mutah (temporary) marriage with misyaar (permanent marriage)?
Why are ra'afideen (may Allaah give them what they deserve) so bent upon confusing their filthy mu'tah marriage with Islaamically-permissible misyaar marriage?
Misyaar marriage is where a man does a shar’i marriage contract with a woman, meeting the conditions of marriage, but the woman gives up some of her rights such as accommodation, maintenance or the husband’s staying overnight with her.
Misyaar marriage: definition and rulings
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/82390
Mut’ah marriage means that a man marries a woman – either Muslim or from the people of the Book – and specifies how long the marriage will last, for example five days, or two months, or half a year, or many years. The beginning and end of the marriage are specified, and he pays her a small mahr (dowry), and after the specified time is over, the woman exits the marriage. This kind of marriage was permitted during the year of the Conquest of Makkah for three days, then it was disallowed and prohibited until the Day of Resurrection. This was reported by Muslim (1406).
Ruling on Mut’ah (temporary) marriage
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/1373/
Mut’ah marriage is considered to be zinaa (adultery or fornication), even if both parties consent to it, and even if it lasts for a long time, and even if the man pays the woman a mahr. There is nothing that has been reported in sharee’ah that shows that it may be permitted, apart from the brief period when it was allowed during the year of the conquest of Makkah. That was because at that time there were so many people who has newly embraced Islam and there was the fear that they might become apostates, because they had been used to committing zinaa during the Jaahiliyyah. So this kind of marriage was permitted for them for three days, then it was made haraam until the Day of Resurrection, as was narrated by Muslim, 1406.
Answer: JazakAllah khair.
We must teach people what they are, lest they confuse them.
And let them know what is approved, and what is Forbidden regarding those marriages.
**I have blocked Snoogy Temporarily - Explaining in Email why.
JazakAllah khair.
Also, Mutah today is nothing like Mutah practiced by Sahabah (raa).
And Allah's Quran does not support Mutah.
And Mutah is Forbidden in Shia books, and Sunni Books.
Salam Alaikum Akhy Al Karim
Question: How is Misyar marriage different from a friend with benefits? It's a marriage in which the woman gives up most of her rights, especially financial. The husband and wife live apart. They pay for their own expenses. There is a "contract" that lists all the terms, but these are the basics. They can visit each other to satisfy their sexual needs, as many times as the contract allows. Also, unlike normal Nikah this marriage is kept secret from everyone except the witnesses and close relatives of the wife and husband.
the marriage is supposed to be permanent but in modern times it is often temporary because the husband divorces the wife after a set period of time (after he's had enough of her)
Even so, how is this exactly different from the western invention of a friend with benefits? You got the man with practically no responsibilities who can have sex any time he likes.
Some people call it "legal Zina" because there's no bond, just sex.
oh btw I'm not trolling, these are all facts to the best of my knowledge. i just want an answer.
Answer: If understood correctly this Saudi fatwa (permit) by Bin Baaz says:
Saudis who study out of Saudi Arabia like America have the wahabi/salafi permit to get married to a Western girl by intending to leave her after a short time for just intercourse and when he will come back to Saudi he must divorce her and all that without telling her the truth at all.
They mean that a Saudi student, who studies abroad, can lie to a kafir girl that he loves her and want to marry her in order to have sexual relation with her. But when he has finished his studies, he must divorce her before he coming back to Saudi Arabia.
http://www.islamway.com/?iw_s=Fatawa&iw_a=view&fatwa_id=18072
Question: what is misyar marriage?
Answer: Same as Mut'ah, but it was invented by Al Azhar...and thats a corrupt Alim school thats paid by the egyptian government to make fake fatwas ect:
One shouldn't follow them, none of their Alims wear Sunnah and they have girlfriends ect:
Question: I want to try out muslim style marriage but dont know if to choose Sunni style misyar or Shia style mutah? Sunni style misyar or Shia style mutah....
I want whichever gives me a better time
you know?
I dont have the resrouces to marry a good girl...
But i am seriously turned on all the time.
I even had a tent forming in my trousers the whole day today because of this.
Ya rabb!!!!
Answer: what do u mean by muslim style marriage???
it means your not muslim????
then how can u get married in our way!!!!
but if your muslim then i would say that
i dnt know much bout misyar but about mutah i can tell you a little,
god mentioned bout it in the quran but as people started misusing it pur beloved prophet put a rule in mutah saying that:
perform mutah only when you can provide to that woman enough mahr where she can live her life even after you leave her....
so are you capable of providong her with so much, i think not, but if yu can then go for it,
but if you cant then get a wife and do it!!! premarital relations are prohibited in islam.
so only if you can give the woman enough mahr where she can live her whole life wothout you then only perfoem mutah
this rule was kept by our prophet to avoid the misuse of mutah.
if u didnt follow according to what the prophet has mentioned then obviosly it will be wrong in doing it
n if your not muslim you cant do it!!!!
Question: Ramadan---What's misyar marriage? Who started this bid'ah?
Answer: Ruling on Mut’ah (temporary) marriage : http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/1373
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Misyaar marriage is where a man does a shar’i marriage contract with a woman, meeting the conditions of marriage, but the woman gives up some of her rights such as accommodation, maintenance or the husband’s staying overnight with her.
The reasons that have led to the emergence of this kind of marriage are many, such as:
➊ Increase in the number of single women who are unable to get married, because young men are put off marriage due to the high cost of dowries and the costs of marriage, or because there is a high divorce rate. In such circumstances, some women will agree to be a second or third wife and to give up some of their rights.
➋ Some women need to stay in their family home, either because they are the only care-givers for family members, or because the woman has a handicap and her family do not want the husband to be burdened with something he cannot bear, and he stays in touch with her without having to put too great a burden on himself, or because she has children and cannot move with them to her husband’s house, and other reasons.
➌ Some married men want to keep some women chaste because they need that, or because they need variety and halaal pleasure, without that affecting the first wife and her children.
➍ In some cases a husband may want to conceal his second marriage from his first wife, for fear of the consequences that may result and affect their relationship.
➎ The man travels often to a certain place and stays there for lengthy periods. Undoubtedly staying there with a wife is safer for him than not doing so.
These are the most prominent reasons for the emergence of this kind of marriage.
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The scholars differed concerning the ruling on this type of marriage, and there are several opinions, ranging from the view that it is permissible, to the view that it is permitted but makrooh, or that it is not allowed. Here we should point out several things.
➀ None of the scholars have said that it is invalid or is not correct; rather they disallowed it because of the consequences that adversely affect the woman, as it is demeaning to her, and that affects the society as this marriage contract is taken advantage of by bad people, because a woman could claim that a boyfriend is a husband. It also affects the children whose upbringing will be affected by their father’s absence.
➁ Some of those who said that it was permissible have retracted that view. Among the most prominent scholars who said that it was permissible were Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz and Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez Aal al-Shaykh; and among the most prominent scholars who said that it was permissible and then retracted it was Shaykh al-‘Uthaymeen; among the most prominent scholars who said that it is not allowed at all was Shaykh al-Albaani.
➂ Those who said that it is permissible did not say that a time limit should be set as in the case of mut’ah. And they did not say that it is permissible without a wali (guardian), because marriage without a wali is invalid. And they did not say that the marriage contract may be done without witnesses or without being announced, rather it is essential to do one of the two.
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Misyaar marriage > no time limit > meets the condition of marriage = Halal = Shar’i marriage
Mut’ah > time limit set > doesn't meet the condition of marriage = Haraam = Zinaa
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Question: I am looking for a misyar marriage I'm from Riyadh ?? I'M A MALE ! ANY BODY INTERESTED ??
Answer: Hey,
I am not a Saudi woman and you might have Saudi residence, but I have my doubts you are a Saudi citizen. Sorry, if I do you wrong.
If you would be a Saudi, you would know that mostly divorced and older women (over 40) would go for a misyar marriage. Or maybe in some urban regions.
I know that many people thinks KSA would be backwards and women are treated so bad and are without any rights. Many things of this might be right through western eyes, but..............KSA offers exellent education to Saudi girls and these days these girls know their value. Why should any of them putting up with a misyar marriage unless they "marry" their driver to find their way around. Saudi women are not stupid!
I live in a Moslem country and true bad sad many men go to India for a misyar marriage and get divorced after 3 or 4 weeks again. My view of a misyar marriage these days is more or less comparable with prostituion. Very often it's missused as a "travel marriage" to avoid an illicit relationship and to take advantage of poor women who hope to get out of misery somehow.
If you are really interested in a misyar marriage (like I said before, I do not want to do you any wrong) you should look for Arab contact sites or contact any local agents.
Here on YA you won't find what you are looking for.
Take care!
Question: Ramadan: Inspired by Maria A {Evergreen} What are the differences between Misyar and common law Marriage?
Answer: misiyar is NOT Permissible at all,
it contradicts many verses of Glorious Quran
Question: Why is Misyar Marriage Considered Whoring? It's Permanent Marriage! (pls explain)?
I'm not for it or against it... I don't really care about that aspect of it... I just want to know why is a Permanent Marriage like Misyar considered like Mutah Marriage?
@Pedram - I appreciate your clarification..
But... Is it not the case for a 'normal' marriage for the husband to divorce anytime?
And yes I agree with you.. I'm not for Misyar Marriages... Are you for Mutah Marriages?
(and idiots thumbing people down.. go away!)
And a third point for you Pedram.. I see some shia users quoting Sunni hadith in Support for Mutah.... So why not list the ones that Mohammed saw Forbade ?
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Pedram: So can you pls kindly specify:
1) What are the different rules in divorce between Normal/Misyar marriage (3 divorces not enough)?
2) Which verse supports a 'limited time' notion for marriage?
Thanks in advance.
@ALL: White Horse put forward good points, that are actually from the Quran and Logical.... So unless someone can refute that with Allah's words... I think no one should ever compare Misyar and Mutah Marriage as Same....
Indeed Muttah is forbidden by all means of Quran evidence, and Sunnah.
If people choose to believe in some, and disbelieve in some hadith... then Allah swt already told us about those people....
Thanks everyone for your contribution.
@Pedram:
Thanks again for your answer.. but here are some Important Points:
In Allah's Book.. Allah swt only mentioned the 3 words of Divorce. Never mentioned a witness. Have you an ayah that says bring witnesses for divorce?
Prophet Mohammed saw said: If someone gives you even 100 conditions, and they don't exist in the Quran, don't believe them.
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Ok, this is either a Mistake... or you're playing around with Allah's words.
The Ayah is NOT say *Temporary* Marriage. Rather the word should be "istamta3tum" and your 'own' understanding should be in the bracket.
Istimta3 is not Mutah.. because Allah swt said ALL women are loved for Shahwah (istimta3)... so it does not mean you fulfil your desire temporarily...
And Allah said to take the slaves as an easier option.. so what is easier? Mutah or permanent Marriage to a Slave? Indeed Allah is referring to Permanent Marriage. Otherwise.. You have deleted ALL permanent Marriage from Allah's Book.. Never seen 1 ayah saying limit contract.
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Brother... I have read this hadith in Bukhari and Muslim:
أنزلت آية المتعة في كتاب الله ، ففعلناها مع رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، ولم ينزل قرآن يحرمه ، ولم ينه عنها حتى مات ، قال رجل برأيه ما شاء
Do you know what you're implying now? Are you saying that Mohammed saw was doing Mutah with sahaba?
(ففعلناها مع رسول الله)
The only *Mutah* Mohammed saw did is Hajj!! (istaghfrallah)
Pedram bro... there is nothing stopping me from accepting the truth... and I think it should be the same for you and all muslims..... Li Allahi Alhujjah Albalighah.
So whoever doesn't have this hujjah... should follow the one who does...
*also... read my post in Hossein's Latest Q about 'Kabah'.
I appreciate your openness to discussion.
oh, and Pedram... I don't follow no wahabi... or whatever!
Indeed Allah swt made clear his ayat...
Alhamdullah I have no brainwashing by anyone... my teacher is Allah swt, Quran, Prophet saww....
Answer: Misyar marriage is not mentioned in the Holy Quran (unlike Muta) and Prophet Mohammad (PBUH&HF) never recomended it as a solution (unlike Muta), so what happens to "And whatever the Messenger gives you, take it; and from whatever he forbids you, keep back." (59:7)?
in a misyar marriage a guy does not have to provide anything (meaning the wife gives up all her rights) and the guy has the right to divorce her whenever he wills, so basically the guy can divorce her after using her, and she will get nothing and she will have no idea when she will be divorced and she has no power not to get divorced......
they say Misyar needs witnesses, how hard is for a man to bring two of his (maybe "croupted") friends to be witness?
and if the permission of parents are required for the virgin girl, well the same thing also goes for Muta......
so basically in Misyar the girl is being tricked to bed, while in Muta she knows what she is agreeing too and all the terms and conditions (even the Sunna) is clear, and it is an act which was recommended by Allah SWT and Prophet Mohammad (PBUH&HF) as a "solution"........
EDIT:
no divorce also has it's own parts and laws (which is different in the sunni fiqh)
am i for Muta marriage?
it would be like asking you "are you ok with the idea of a man having multiple wives?", it's something mentioned in the Holy Quran, so why should we be against it?
same with Muta, it is mention in the Holy Quran, why should i be against it?
as for sunni hadiths saying Muta is halal and others saying haram, you need to realize that the hadith collectors like bukhari and others were very mixed with the bany ummaya, and bany ummaya were the people of muawia, who was the son of abu sufyan, who always fought against the Holy Prophet (PBUH&HF) and Islam, and after the death of the Holy Prophet (PBUH&HF) they took revange on the Holy Ahl-ul-bait (as).............
the supporters of umar, in order to keep him good in the eyes of people had to fabricate haditths saying that it was not umar who made it forbiden, rather it was the Holy Prophet (PBUH&HF) himself, but ofcourse those who were with Imam Ali (as) and the true Islam, never looked at Muta as forbiden, and they even issued fatwas in favour of Muta.......
people such as Ibn Abbas (ra), who kept on giving fatwas in favor of Muta even till the end of their life
Muslim Book 008, Number 3261:
'Urwa b. Zabair reported that 'Abdullah b. Zubair (Allah be pleased with him) stood up (and delivered an address) in Mecca saying: Allah has made blind the hearts of some people as He has deprived them of eyesight that they give religious verdict in favour of temporary marriage, while he was alluding to a person (Ibn 'Abbas). Ibn Abbas called him and said: You are an uncouth person, devoid of sense. By my life, Mut'a was practised during the lifetime of the leader of the pious (he meant Allah's Messenger, may peace be upon him), and Ibn Zubair said to him: just do it yourselves, and by Allah, if you do that I will stone you with your stones....
@ASKER:
1) this is the differences between Shias and Sunnis, for our divorces, we need witnesses as well, as Allah SWT says:
"So when they have reached their prescribed time, then retain them with kindness or separate them with kindness, and call to witness two men of justice from among you, and give upright testimony for Allah...." 65:2
but ahl sunna do not require witnesses for divorce, rather saying "i divorce you" three times is enough!
2)
Allah SWT in the Holy Quran says:
[Forbidden to you] are married woman, except what your right hand possesses. This Allah has written for you, and all other women besides these are permitted to you, so that you may seek them out with your wealth, seeking chastity and not fornication. So when you have contracted temporary marriage [istimt'atum] with them, then give them their words. There is no sin on you for whatever you agree to after this. Indeed, Allah is Knowing, Wise.
Al-Qur'an, Surah An-Nisa, Ayah 24
Allah (swt) has used the word istimta'tum, which is the verbal form of the word Mut'ah.
intresting in Bukhari we read:
حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو رَجَاءٍ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَ أُنْزِلَتْ >>>آيَةُ الْمُتْعَةِ<<< فِي كِتَابِ اللَّهِ فَفَعَلْنَاهَا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم، وَلَمْ يُنْزَلْ قُرْآنٌ يُحَرِّمُهُ، وَلَمْ يَنْهَ عَنْهَا حَتَّى مَاتَ قَالَ رَجُلٌ بِرَأْيِهِ مَا شَاءَ.
but bukhari and his translator have showen dishonesty so in the engglish version we read:
Volume 6, Book 60, Number 43:
Narrated 'Imran bin Husain:
The Verse of >>Hajj-at-Tamatu<< was revealed in Allah's Book, so we performed it with Allah's Apostle, and nothing was revealed in Qur'an to make it illegal, nor did the Prophet prohibit it till he died. But the man (who regarded it illegal) just expressed what his own mind suggested.
while there are no mention of "Hajj at Tamatu" in the aerabic version, rather it says "Ayatul Muta"
having said this, the sunni mufaserin have mentioned this hadith is about the Muta al Nisa!
@ white horse
1. if you bother reading the answer at top, you will succesfully manage to see that i have cleary explained about masyar
2. the differences between Muta and one nigh stand is that Allah SWT has made one halal and the other haram...
suyuty, one of your most trustable and famous scholars records a hadith from Imam Ali (as) saying:
Narrated Abdulrazaq and Abu Dawoud in (book) Nasikh and narrated ibn Jareer from al-Hakam that he was asked whether the verse on Mut'ah has been abrogated, he said: "No, Ali (RA) said that if it were not Umar forbidding it, no one would commit (the sin) of fornication except the wretched (Shaqi; an utmost wrongdoer)."
Tafseer Dur al-Manthur, Volume 2 page 140
as for uneducated people like yourself who have been brain washed by the muftis of saudi, there is no wonder seeing you saying that there is no need for permission in Muta, rather infact if the girl is a Virgin, the permission of the father is a Must.......
it is very disappointing to see that other educated people like rosy pearl would agree with you before looking into what the Shia fiqh truly says.......
people like white hourse (while failing to prove their point from the Holy Quran) take refuge in their traditions, but even so, they have failed to realize to see, that (for example) the hadith which is "supposedly" narrated by Imam Ali (as) is sorounded by many other hadiths which talk about what was made forbiden on the day of Khaibar, they all mention things like "meat of donkey" and even "Garlic"!!! the only hadith saying it's haram is the one which has falsy been atributed to Imam Ali (as)......
@Rosy Pearl
sister, i always looked at you as a fair and well educated sister, but i have to admit im very disappointed by seeing this......
white hourse has failed to provide a valid argument, but rather you see his argument as the correct argument.........
you very well know that his argument is not the right argument, but you would want it to be, therefor you see it as you wish......
Question: Where can I find info about mixed marriage discrimination regarding someone's job? I am married to someone of another race and someone in my workplace made remarks about my husband's race. What can I do and who can I contact?
Answer: I would call an employment lawyer that advertises free consultations.
Question: what are the advantages and disadvantages of mixed marriage? please it's for an essay and I want ideas for this title!!!
Answer: disadvantage: relatives from two different backgrounds
advantage: great-looking kids who could be great for showbiz
Question: How do you cope with a mixed marriage?
Answer: Just Deal with it the people love one another so there's nothing that you can.Get to know your new mom or dad & try to give them a chance
Question: How many of you actually tolerate mixed (interracial) marriage? Why is something that is obviously taboo being so widely accepted?
Answer: There's nothing wrong with it at all. In fact if you think there is something wrong with it then you're a sick person.
Question: When the USA legalised mixed-race marriage in the 2nd half of the 20th century ..... ? Presumably, the states would have put the matter to the vote, as is happening today with same-sex marriage.
Which churches and other organisations were campaigning hardest for people to vote "no" to mixed-race marriage?
Answer: The Southern Baptist Convention, as always, was in the forefront of opposing any changes to their status quo in the Bible Belt.
Question: What mixed marriage out there today is most rare? For example, I think it is unusual to see an Asian and an African-American marriage; at least where I live.
Answer: As only about 10% of the population (American anyway) marry outside of their race, I would say that they're all rare.
Question: is cenoma or proof of divorce a must requirement for mixed religion marriage in dubai? I am an filipina and he s indian working in dubai.we wish to marry in dubai through court.he s muslim,i am a catholic.my question is what are all important requirements in order for us to marry.Is CENOMA or divorce certificate a must?
Answer: Every thing is a good moral support.
Take it for life boat drive safe.
Question: How many mixed marriage couples do you have at your church?
Answer: community: several
church: one
Question: Are any of you in a "mixed marriage"? Married to someone of a different political party? My husband and I are both Conservative Republicans. We were Independents when we were first married.
All 4 of our kids, daughter-in-law, and everyone in our immediate faimilies are Republicans.
We are also all Christians (Catholics and Lutherans).
We fight about other stuff at Thanksgiving - lol - just not Religion and politics!
AND we LOVE the Green Bay Packers!
My husband works in Illinois, and we will be watching Da Bears tonight!
Answer: If I was married to a liberal democrat, I would be headed for divorce ever so quickly. Probably me divorcing him. :-)
P.S. Always love your questions !!!!
Question: why is it difficalt to be together ,mixed marriage? ime portugese,wife is morrcan with 2 kids,now i live in france
i have to go under french law, i dont understand why my wife
cant get a visa! ime asking here because if i go to paris
it we just be a pain !i have to work for a year,full time !so they
review my case,so my wife can come and see me ! advice would be helpfall, i have no head for admin , thankyou !
Answer: Mixed marriage is no big deal, Marriage is the big deal and has to be worked at.
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