Romantic Love

Question: What is the difference between romantic love and friendship or familial love? If someone says "I love all my friends", or says to their friend "I love you" or "Love Ya", is it not the same love as romantic love when you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend "I love you". I dont think there's a difference, or is there?. Serious answers only pleeez.

Answer: Well it is the same word, but the meaning with every person is different, so its like if you say (i love you, love ya) to someone in your close family, you don't mean it as a romantic love, its a combination of many feelings inside you, (trust, secure...) and also to your friends, you love to go out with them, spend time with them, share things with them... but still its not romantic love, its still a combination of feeling very near to love (happiness, joyful feelings...) but when you tell it to you boyfriend or husband, its different, its still a combination but different, you feel (secure, Passion, happiness, trust...) all these makes the word I LOVE YOU different. hope that helped

Question: How important is romantic LOVE in our lives? How important do you think love is in the lives of human beings? Specifically romantic love amongst two couples. How important is that in a human beings life? Do you think it is of very little importance in comparison to the other necessecities in our lives, or do you think it is one of the most important things human being must carefully cherish? Do we need it or can we live with out it? Or think of it this way, how important is your significant other to you in comparison to your other nessecities in your life? Just looking for some opinions :)

Answer: romantic love?that is the beginning of something real, and the real things are not romantic at all.I'm in marriage, with mine romantic love, but the marriage is real now , so the romantic is gone.we steal love each other, and respect, and we are understanding well, so i think that kind of stuff are more important in real life!

Question: What is more important to love your family or romantic love? I cant decide which one is more important and i would love to hear from everyone. What do you think it's more important, to love your family or romantic love?

Answer: If all the relationships are healthy ones, a certain point, after a time, your romantic love is family and of equal importance.

Question: How important is romantic love to mentally challenged people? Does society limit the options and opportunity for romantic love in mentally challenged people. Do higher functioning people need an opportunity to be loved and love romantically. does our society restrict such a pursuit of happiness?

Answer: Yes, society does limit the romantic options for the mental challenged. Society is all about taking care of their physical lives but not much on their emotional lives. If you think about it, it is really happening with everyone's lives. Look at schools, they have taken away any "down" times so children don't have the opportunity to learn any social skills that help them in the social department later on either. This is why there is so much violence and no one knows how to get along. Back to your question, the mentally challenged are usually known for being simple, honest, and very loving people who, given the opportunity, will stick with each other and be very loyal. It's society that doesn't see this as being important.

Question: What's the difference between romantic love and infatuation? What does "infatuation" mean? Does "infatuation" lead to "romantic love"? This question's been going around my head and I can't find the answer! It's a big taboo in my family and I can't discuss this issue openly with them.

Answer: Basically there are two types of people and two types of romantic love (although type two has a variation for most types of platonic relationships also. You see it often with mothers toward their children.) Love type one: Eros love/infatuation - This is what they are talking about when you read about the love chemical. It has a huge effect on this stage of love. This is the love Jack and Rose had for each other in Titanic. You feel it in the beginning of a relationship. You are completely obsessed with the other person. Passion and fire is rampant. You rarely think of other things. You tell people you are in love. They can do no wrong in your eyes. It is exciting. You feel completely desired, wanted, and worthwhile. This love has an expiration date. It wears off. You start to see their flaws. It gets old. I've heard this can last up to about three years. Some people let the "love" go, saying it has become boring and they don't feel the same way. Often this is for the best, but sometimes they let go because of immaturity and look for the next best thing, the next high. This first stage of love has to happen to get to the next one. I'm sort of glad it expires, because you wouldn't be very productive or balanced if you were completely obsessed with a person forever. You are more concerned with how this person makes you feel or how they make you feel about yourself than you are for them or who they are. Love type two: Agape love (agape is an old greek word for "love feast" and I've often heard it adopted in this culture to describe this second type of love) - If you are lucky, you go into this second stage. This is commitment love. It is characterised by unconditional positive regard, patience, and self-sacrifice. There are ups and downs, but you stick with it bc you realize that real love isn't a feeling, it's actions, loyalty, and grace. This takes maturity and you generally have to have developed a real friendship with the person that will whether the ebb and flow of emotions. Sometimes the fire re-surfaces on special occasions, but it's not as all-consuming or long-lasting and brainless as eros was. This is what the 80 year olds celebrating their 60th anniversary have. This love protects the other's heart and shows love with actions even when they don't FEEL love for the other. Obviously, it seems like this is rare, and it is pretty rare. It requires unselfishness and for people to lay down their pride from time to time. That also takes intelligence. But it happens. They may not always be perfect to each other, but by and large, they go the distance because the majority of the time spent together is this kind of eternal love. You just have to realize that in real life, it's not the fantasy people represent it to be. It's work, it's family. It's not everlasting eros. There is more of a choice, and I think this means more. If it's easy to love and treat you right, you should expect it. If it's a constant effort that reaps sweet rewards, it means a lot. Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, It is not proud, It is not rude, It is not self-seeking, It is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. L o v e N e v e r F a i l s. Two types of people: people capable of agape, and people who aren't.

Question: What is Romantic Love and What is Sexual Love? What exactly is romantic love, can you care for somebody without thier looks being a concern? Everybody man I fall in love with and love is because they have a sexy voice, a sexy body a nice face and a good image and are kind to me and other people. Is that romantic love or is it still classed as sexual? I do love the person for who they are, but i just absoloutly love the way they look.

Answer: For me, sexual love would be short term love selfish in nature to satisfy urges your body sends you. Romantic love would be when you can have sex/make love to them and then feel connected and bonded to that person long after the sex was done. The deep caring about another and longing to be together when you are apart would be romantic love. You would get none or few of these feelings of being connected if you had only sexual love.

Question: Why is romantic love so completely different than the love we feel for our parents, friends and pets? Why do we say "fall in" love when we refer to romantic love? Is it because we are not in control of how much we feel it or who we may feel it for? After all no one has willed themselves to fall in love. A fall is never purposeful but accidental. Do other languages use the words "fall in" also?

Answer: the purpose of the term "Fall in love" is that each one is moving 'in' closer together. It is practically the same thing as a romantic love. Other languages terms could be used as well whether it is "fall in" or other foreign words.

Question: What is a great gay romantic love movie? I just saw Brokeback Mountain and it was so romantic. I felt so bad about how they wanted to be together so much but can't be together. Is there any gay romantic movie that you know would give you that feeling of love. Please I need a great gay love movie. Thanks!

Answer: Touch of Pink is great. Indian/english romance with the ghost of Cary Grant. Wolves of Kromer is very sweet, which is odd, because it is a gay movie about werewolves. Mambo Italiano has a really sweet romance in it. And best of all, Ang Lee's The Wedding Banquet. Alas, I have not reviewed it yet, so no link. Try those, and enjoy.

Question: Is romantic love important to a good life? I've gone through a few romantic relationships in my time. I've decided that while love is nice and great it isn't necessary to being happy. A friend of mine disagrees with me and says that it is all she wants out of life. It makes her feel "not so weird". By the way, we are in a our late 40's so not we are not young starry eyed kids. I've been married, she has never been married. All your answers will be appreciated!!!!

Answer: Love is such a complicated subject that I'd have to ask what you mean by love. Eros the strong sexual desire that makes you want what you don't have and when you have it you don't want it anymore, or Filia, the love you have for friends, family. or Charity (Agape) the love of God (Which is what is mentioned in the corenthians verses) that love that survives everything, and goes to the death and beyond it. Is Romantic love important to a good life? No, actually I think "Romantic" Eros version of love is way over sold by the media today, and hell yea its nice, and sometimes its an important step to get to Filia and Charity. Actually even in long term married relationships, returning to Eros every now and then is always enjoyable. But Eros is a cruel god and you have to let Eros go to ever progress to higher levels of love and the fairy tale of wild romantic love is just that. It promises, but never delivers on "Happily ever after". Yes Love is very important and True Love is one of the greatest things in the world (True Love, Spiritual Awakening, a true friend, deep friendship, etc). But I wouldn't confuse romantic love with true love. Its a part of the whole, but the two are separate, in my book anyhow. Finally people are different. You're friend may be an idealist and to an idealist this makes sense. No everyone are idealists. I am (Obviously) but other personality types and personal goals exist. Congradulations in finding happiness in yourself, that's a rare gift indeed. Thanks _Rob

Question: What do you think is the purpose of romantic love/limerence? What do you think is its purpose? It can cause great happiness and purpose in our lives, but at the same time bring upon us heart ache and turmoil unlike any we have experienced. You can say its purpose is for reproductive purposes either because thats what the sexual feelings are for. But what about romantic love, or limerence, as they call it? What is the purpose of having an emotion and feeling that is so sensitive, it can bring great distress to our lives?

Answer: I don't think it's necessarily for reproduction as much as for raising your offspring. Reproduction can be fairly easily handed with lust. But to keep both partners around to create a safe environment for the offspring, there needs to be a feeling of attachment and loyalty to some degree. Now, romantic love is a somewhat new concept, I've read. It's been pumped into society through movies, fairytales, books, and all sorts of other venues. People don't know whether it's natural, or if they've just been programmed to think it's real. So the heartache and obsessions might be a result of conditioning instead of instincts.

Question: How is romantic love viewed in today's world? In general, how is romantic love viewed in today's world? I'm not asking your personal opinion, but rather how society views love as a whole. Thanks!

Answer: everyone wants it... and it seems like they want it so much that many poeple will call something love when its really not....high school kids fall in love every semester, same with many college aged people...love is still the second most precious thing in life except for life itself

Question: Soft romantic love songs to play in the background during a Valentine's dinner at home? What are some soft romantic love songs you would put on in the background during a romantic dinner at home? I'm doing a romantic dinner at home with my boyfriend for Valentine's Day and I was wondering what to put on for music. I think I want songs with words.

Answer: Try this site for ideas on Valentine's Day music http://valentinelovecard.com/

Question: Are there any accounts of romantic love in ancient civilizations? Or is the idea of romantic love a modern Western idea?

Answer: Absolutely! I'm a freshly made vampire living with ancient vampires and they regularly tell me stories of all their age old passions and historic sufferings caused by love. They tout all sorts of love and passion scenarios from Greek mythology, Norse mythology and the Christian Bible. Each tradition has had its share of love Goddesses such as: * Inanna, love goddess of the Mesopotamian region * Aphrodite, Greek Goddess of love. * Freja, Norse Goddess of love and beauty. Here's a link to more specific love stories from Greek Mythology: http://www.suite101.com/blog/mamarobin73/love_stories_from_greek_mythology Even the Christian Bible is filled with love stories and scandalous adventures filled with sexual lust. In the tale of David and Bathsheba, for instance, David spied upon Bathsheba as she bathed. Then he arranged to have her good husband killed so he could possess her for himself.

Question: whats the sadest most unforgetable romantic love movie that you have ever wached? have you ever seen a really amazing romantic love movie, that has possibly made you cry? -if so, then what is it called?

Answer: When a Man Loves a Woman. "Imagine a picture perfect family: a dashing pilot father, two beautiful daughters, and a loving guidance counselor mother. There's just one rub: Mom's got a perfectly hidden drinking problem. Suddenly a boating accident brings the family's secret into the open. The mother struggles first to conceal and then confront her alcoholism, finally entering a rehabilitation clinic. While his wife heals, the husband has to hold his family together and recognize his role in her addiction." -Rotten Tomatoes It's not just a film about alcoholism but the way Meg Ryans character changes following her stint in rehab and how Andy Garcia's character as her husband has to accept change. They both have to learn to love each other again. This is absolutely the saddest love story I have ever come across. There are some truly harrowing scenes (the shower scene where the daughter sees her mum have a fall particularly) that will stick in your mind for a long time afterwards. Anyone watching this would be strongly advised to bring a big box of tissues. I have seen guys cry during this one. Well worth watching.

Question: What are some movies with Romantic Love? Romantic love is love like in Romeo & Juliet, Twilight, mostly physical and lust based. Like love at first sight.

Answer: Amelie. guaranteed to make you smile

Question: Is romantic love a birthright for women? The dating book I mentioned a few days ago also contains the following gem: "Being loved by a man is your birthright as a woman." Maybe I missed that line in the Constitution, but shouldn't romantic love be considered a privilege to be worked for? And isn't this quote discriminatory to men and homosexuals? Discuss.

Answer: Birthright? I think it should be something you need to WORK for and deserve, not just handed to you. Also, it's suggesting that women have a "birthright" to romantic love while men still have to work for it, what's up with that? Sounds like a poorly written and biased dating book to me.

Question: Do you think romantic love is irrational? I think romantic love is superstition, irrational and destructive. Unlike genuine compassion which is based on unconditional acceptance and a selfless giving to all others, romance is conditional acceptance. Being in love romantically is like being and alcoholic or a heroin addict and like any addiction it makes you behave irrationally and destructively.

Answer: I believe in having romantic love, I don't find it irrational because I find it healthy. The problem is I don't believe in being in love, I don't believe long lasting relationships are healthy because as time goes by 2 people are just bound to get on each others nerves, at least that's how I felt from my experiences. Maybe if there's an open relationship? But open relationships get a little complicated, me and one of my ex girlfriends had an open relationship. She didn't mind me doing stuff with other girls. I kind of minded her doing stuff with other guys, but she was only going out with 1 other guy, and that guy treated her well so I didn't really have a problem with it, and me and her were very romantic, but at the same time the relationship felt kind of awkward. So yes I do believe in being romantic, but my point is don't expect it to last long.

Question: What would you consider a 'romantic love-making' scene? How would you describe a romantic scene in which 2 characters in a story make love to one another? Any examples of such scenes from an actual book or movie?

Answer: Simple and realistic. Not any fluffy stuff, but real and raw emotions. Interesting question!

Question: So, how is romantic love different from friendship? Is the only difference between the two that aspect of physical attraction, and are lovers essentially just "friends with benefits or does some kind of deeper emotional attachment accompany romantic love? I don't understand any of this.

Answer: its a bit deeper than all of that...very complex and unique.

Question: Do really romantic love stories still exist? It seems like all the heart-warming romance movies take place decades ago- Titanic, the Notebook, Gone With the Wind, etc. The only modern day love stories are all comedies, and they aren't romantic at all. Are there any movies that take place modern day that actually are romantic?

Answer: a walk to remember it take place in the past but it is a modern day love story kinda i haven't seen the movie my freind told me it was great like the book but i read the book it was amazing i love nicolas sparks