Boston Marriage

Question: Boston Marriage. How old is this term and is it still in current usage ? I read it in Emma Donoghue"s " What Sappho Would Have Said" four centuries of love poems between women. I hope this is correct as I cannot find the page now ! This is a great book anyway Rose P. Additional Details 1 second ago One reference in the book suggests that the term became less common after the First World War, R.P. source; 'What Sappho Would Have Said" Four centuries of love poems between women. Library copy. First ed. 1997 Publisher, Hamish Hamilton. London ISBN 0-241-13682-2 Much useful info including Biogs and bibliography. Rose P.

Answer: Women Living Together in the 19th Century With the advent of the David Mamet production, "Boston Marriage," a term once obscure surfaced again to the public consciousness. In the 19th century, this term was used for households where two women lived together, independent of any male support. Whether these were lesbian relationships -- in the sexual sense -- is debatable and debated. The likelihood is that some were, some weren't. Today, the term "Boston marriage" is sometimes used for lesbian relationships -- two women living together -- which are not sexual. Sexual and gender identity, as many feminist theorists have documented, is in large part constructed -- that is, the details of what are called "male" and "female" behaviors depend significantly on social definitions, experience and training. The term "Boston marriage" came to be used, apparently, after Henry James' book, The Bostonians, detailed a marriage-like relationship between two women -- "New Women" in the language of the time, women who were independent, not married, self-supporting (which sometimes meant living off of inherited wealth or making a living as writers or other professional, educated careers). Perhaps the best-known example of a "Boston marriage," and one which may have been a model for James' characters, is the relationship between the writer Sarah Orne Jewett and Annie Adams Fields. Several recent books have discussed possible or actual "Boston marriage" relationships.

Question: Boston marriage a term used in the nineteenth ? a term used in the nineteenth and twentieth centuries to denote two women that lived together in the same household independent of male support. Relationships were not necessarily sexual. It was used to quell fears of lesbians after World War I. http://www.friendshipmember.com/

Answer: Hank is right. It was the "polite" way to refer to a lesbian couple. Things were a bit different then.

Question: What are some examples of famous marriage proposals that happened in Boston? Need to know famous couples- like JFK and Caroline happened at the Omni Parker House. Any cute details are great as we are using this for an activity for a wedding shower. Thanks!

Answer: I felt bad that no one had answered. I think this is from the tv movie about it but maybe there's something that may help. http://www.televisionwithoutpity.com/articles/content/a974/index-11.html (I will keep looking a little longer though) Coretta Scott and MLK jr I think proposed in Boston. She was living there. I'll go check. Carrie Fisher also married Dave Kerpen. She met him in Boston but I'm not sure he proposed there.

Question: Gay Marriage in Boston Requirements? Well, My partner finally popped the question and we both have been extremely excited about our engagement. But along with the excitement of being engaged, comes the legal groans...We've been trying hard to find the information we need, but its proven harder to do than finding a needle in a hay stack. So my question..Can anyone give us information about how to get married in boston. This is a gay marriage and we live in Arizona where yes we realize it is not legal but still want to fly to Boston to get married. PLEASE ANYONE, we are desperate for help on obtaining the information we need to get married. Anyone with the wisdom, please share it with us :) sincerely, Nathan

Answer: Just wait a bit. AZ is a progressive place.... they'll legalize it soon. NH also allows it now and its beautiful up there.... Have it there before the summer is out.

Question: Is it legal for other U.S. residents to have same sex marriage in Boston? I am from Texas, and my significant other and myself want to come to Boston to get married. Does anyone know rules that apply or where i would have to go to get married?

Answer: Both of you have to be legal residents of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts for it to be legal.

Question: where is the Boston Muslim marriage center(or near Boston,Cambridge)??? ?

Answer: The Islamic Society of Boston (Cambridge) is located at: 204 Prospect Street Cambridge, MA 02139 617-876-3546 If you give them a call they may be able to help you with any questions you may have. Good Luck.

Question: How Do I obtain a marriage license in Boston if I'm lesbian?

Answer: You can go to the courthouse or city hall..

Question: Do we have a constitutional show down over gay marriage? http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090708/ap_on_re_us/us_gay_marriage BOSTON – Massachusetts, the first state to legalize gay marriage, sued the U.S. government Wednesday over a federal law that defines marriage as a union between a man and a woman.

Answer: Massachusetts own law is still a violation of civil rights as it denies bisexuals from having pluralistic marriages, and close relatives, such as sisters, from marrying. They need to do something about their own state constitution, first.

Question: Does any one know good Lawyer(s) in Boston/MA who specialized on processing Green Card through Marriage? I just got married to a US Citizen. Me and my spouse are planning to apply for my permanent residency (Green Card) through marriage. We live in Boston Area (Massachusetts). Can anyone please give us some info on Boston/Massachusetts based Immigration Lawyers who are specialized on Green Card Processing specifically through Marriage to a US Citizen? Also, if anyone can give us an approximation of how much the lawyer(s) cost, we would really appreciate that! Thanks in advance for your reply.

Answer: I used a lawyer for my Green card app through marriage and he was VERY good! 3 weeks after I first contacted him everything was done and sent off to immigration (it would have been sooner but I had to wait for results from my medical). 4 months later I had my green card in hand. I live in IL and my lawyer was in WI. Everything was done through phone, fax, email and mail. If this would work for you I would highly recommend him. He charged $1800 (plus of course the filing fees which I think are now about $1365) You will also have to pay for an immigration medical ($250-500) I had heard of people paying $5000 in just lawyer fees. You can take a look at their website at www.usitex.com I dealt with Glenn Mandel and he was very professional and prompt.

Question: is there any way to see marriage licenses online. I want to check for a marriage that was in Boston? I'm in Ohio.

Answer: If you know the county, you can search with the county name, state, and "marriage licenses" and see what comes up or go to the website for that county... If you don't find it that way, go to the circuit clerks info for that county listed on the county court page and call... they may tell you over the phone or could tell you how to get a copy of the marriage license. You can also go to www.rootsweb.com and post on that county's page for someone to do a "lookup" for you... Best of luck, Wildflower

Question: What type of degree to pursue to become a Marriage and Family Therapist? I am thinking about a career in Marriage and Family Therapy. Just finished my undergrad and I want to know what type of degree I need to become an MFT. Also, does anyone know what type of income MFT's make? And does anyone know of any good degree programs in Boston area grad school?

Answer: You have a few options.... (1) Get an MSW. Become a clinical social worker and specialize in marriage and family therapy. (2) Get a masters degree in clinical psychology. In *some* (but not all!) states you will be able to become a licensed professional counselor after completing a masters in clinical psych. It's really important that you look into this first though to see if Massachusetts provides licensure for masters-level therapists. If you don't have a license, you can't be reimbursed by insurance companies and will have a hard time getting referrals (3) Get a PhD, PsyD, or EdD in psychology. Were you a psychology major as an undergrad? If you were, you probably know how hard these programs are to get into (the national acceptance rate is about 4-7%). To really improve your chances of getting in, you need to have extensive research experience and should try to work with a research psychologist who is currently publishing so that you can get your name on either a publication or presentation. It also helps to have some type of clinical experience (working at a crisis hotline, working with autistic children, etc.). It's definitely possible to get into these program, but most people take a few years off between undergrad and clinical psych doctoral programs so the other options might be better if you're interested in continuing your education right away. I am not aware of any state that allows someone with a bachelors degree perform therapy in any type of unsupervised or independent capacity.

Question: Affordable accredited undergraduate college that has a psychotherapy, or counseling, major in Boston Mass? I am eventually looking to go for a masters in family and marriage counseling. What affordable schools are there in the Boston Massachusetts area that offer a preparatory four year program for what im looking for?

Answer: I'm not sure that there are many affordable schools in Boston since the cost of living (col) is pretty high in that area :) For US colleges: http://www.utexas.edu/world/univ For accredited programs in counselor education: http://www.cacrep.org If interested in social work (may need master's degree, too): http://www.cswe.org Accredited programs in psychology (though, as you may know, one may need a doctorate): http://www.apa.org/education/grad/program-accreditation.aspx General career info: http://www.bls.gov/oco and can search. For possible volunteer opportunities (perhaps including volunteering for a crisis helpline): http://www.volunteermatch.org

Question: Should INS be able to deport the gay immigrant spouse of a US citizen in states allowing gay marriage? I know a woman from Lithuania whose visa is going to expire and works in Boston, MA but she is in process of marrying a soil+blood citizen of MA who is another woman. Now gay marriage is legal in MA but because of DOMA the federal govt does not recognize any gay marriage So since INS is a federal agency...would they say that the spousal rights of the citizen are null+void? or does the legal State marriage count to grant the immigrant a green card due to the marriage?

Answer: INS no longer exists. It was decommissioned on March 1, 2003. The new agency that handles immigration matters such as the one you're talking about is called CIS, Citizenship & Immigration Services. This new agency does not have Deportation Officers as did INS. Now deportation procedures are the responsibility of ICE, Immigration & Customs Enforcement. CIS will not deport a gay immigrant spouse of a U.S. citizen. However, they will deny any application designed to make the alien spouse a permanent resident. ICE has the job of arresting illegal aliens. When they arrest an illegal alien, that alien normally is given a Notice to Appear before an Immigration Judge. It is the job of the Immigration Judge to order aliens deported, not ICE, and not CIS.

Question: I am a US citizen and was legally married in another country. Do we need to register our marriage in the US? My wife is foreign. My understanding all along has been that if a US citizen was legally married in a foreign jurisdiction, then the marriage is automatically recognized in the US. However, I want to make sure this is true and that there is no additional paperwork to make our marriage "legal" in the US. We're presently residing in Boston, MA.

Answer: Not sure, but I beleive there would be some type of documentation, even if it's just fill out and forget. What kind of visa did she come here on? Best to check with local justice of the peace before it expires. They may also give you a hard time asking you to prove your love and such. Pics of you smiling together and questions about eachother. She needs an SS and ID.

Question: Did I miss an episode of Boston Legal? What happened to Denny's marriage or did he even get married? Did he get married if so what happened to break them up?

Answer: OMG! Denny did get married and cheated on his new wife at the wedding reception with the coat check girl. So they got divorced or annulled whatever. They had a to-do about her settlement but of course Denny had one up on the chic and she agreed to a cordial parting. Now he is missing her badly and talks about her alot.

Question: What is that book about the group of latina friends living in Boston? Does anyone know the title or author about the group of latina friends living in Boston. The narrator is a journalist, one works for a non-profit, one runs a magazine, one is a housewife and the other is a musician? It discusses their marriages/relationships. They call themselves the Soucia Sisters, or something like that? If anyone could help me out, that would be great! Thanks!

Answer: Check out Alisa Valdez-Rodriguez and her works. I believe that is what you want. The Dirty Girls Social Club is definitely the book you are talking about. Good Luck!!

Question: Immigration Question: My husband was called in for his Citizenship test in Boston andddddd? The have a list of things to bring: Divorce certificate Birth Certificate Marriage certificate They did NOT specify original or copy. Can he bring in a copy of these?

Answer: Probably better bring the original, if you can. Copies are too easily "adjusted" nowadays...and if you bring the original, you KNOW you won't have the wrong one. Good luck!

Question: What do you think about the legalization of gay marriage in Cali ? I'm straight, and I think its nice the gays are being accepted ! Aren't they ? Boston was the first state to leagalize it, and California fighted to get the same rights. However, I have to note that more than half the population of California is homosexual, so the anti-gay community most likely wouldn't be there to critize ...... this leaves the question, are they really being accepted nation wide, or are they only having their rights, in states who has a large gay community ?

Answer: You are very kind to think half of Cali is gay -- but you are also sadly wrong. Cali does have a large gay populace in the northern part of the state -- but it is NOWHERE NEAR half. Gradually things are getting better in the US. Youth (those under 35 at this point) overwhelmingly support equal rights for gays because they mostly know someone who is gay -- it's only a matter of time now. Kind thoughts, Hermes

Question: Freedom of Religion and Marriage rings(wedding bells) in Massachusetts? Conservative anti-choice of marriage advocate Diane Steele,52,of Richmond Viginia was arrested in Boston, MA yesterday after hitting a gay man after verbally attacking him with religous prosletying. "Homosexuality causes violence", Ron Good, a confirmed conservfative said as a cop out. Now the Commonwealth that has the lowest divorce rate in the country also has freedom of religion and marriage for consenting adults for yeras to come after an anti-gay initiative was defeated. A great day for freedom against conservative hatemongers. Why not? Brian: Get a clue. Allowing straight divorce but denying gay marriage on Christian grounds IS NOT freedom of religion. Voting on human rights is not the "will of the people" it is UNCONSTITUTIONAL. The right to marry is not within the realm of a vote. Neither is any other expression of religion. Vince Whgat the hell is a "typical liberal tatic" or are we lying again. Typical right wing tatic.

Answer: Good, I hope they throw the book at her. Gays have been marrying in MA for a long time now. God hasn't wiped it off the map, there's no slow down in MA heterosexual marriages so apparently it hasn't degraded the "sanctity" of straight marriages like the fundies claimed it would - life goes on as usual in MA. Maybe this idiot went nuts because none of the horrible by-products of gay marriage that fundies claimed would happen have come to pass. They really hate it when they're proven wrong.

Question: what was marriage like in 1840 sturbridge? how long were engagements typically? were weddings big celebrations? Did family come from out of town? did brides indulge in fashionable dresses from Boston? and anything else you can tell me:) how did spouses meet? for a lawyer's daughter in the top fifth of the tax list (upper class)

Answer: Google will help you more than Yahoo can. 1840 was pre-civil war, but the answers depend entirely on the social class and wealth of the people involved.